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I'm assuming it's purple shirt guy.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 days ago

Tbh I literally could not figure out which one was supposed to be you in the preview pic. I don't know how autistic this makes me.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 days ago

She's telling you that your graphic tees are bad, and she's right. Graphic tees are always bad, even when they are good.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 days ago

I'm more autistic than not (got that ADHD overlap) and I always assume if someone sees anything and thinks about me, it's a good thing, because they thought about me enough to tell me, which is normally not something you do if you thought of someone and didn't like it.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

damn if that was literally me I'd be happy to still have all my hair

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 days ago

I mean, it's kinda missing the point. I wear my punk ass shit in the fall and winter, and my colorful t-shirts and shorts in the spring and summer.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 days ago

wtf are stacy london and clinton kelly still doing what not to wear

[–] [email protected] 39 points 3 days ago (4 children)

idk if it helps but the new version of the show is called "wear whatever the F you want", and it seems to be more about helping people realize and embrace a personal style, rather than making fun of the way they dress.

in the trailer they help the purple shirt guy embrace the punk-rock vibe he's always wanted

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 days ago

This sounds pretty cool. I would love a fashiony friend who could help me look like Me But Cooler.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 days ago

I came to complain how dumb these shows are for laughing at what people wear, but now it sounds pretty wholesome

[–] [email protected] 23 points 3 days ago

Aw that's a nice change of pace from the usual "Let me help you conform you weirdo dipshit" format.

[–] [email protected] 27 points 3 days ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 15 points 3 days ago

This seems like the best outcome.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 3 days ago

for what it's worth he comes across as a very sweet and endearing character

[–] [email protected] 12 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I think there's some important context that is needed here:

A) does the purple shirt guy look like you? All you can tell about his clothing is he's wearing an untucked t-shirt. Do you have long hair you wear in a part, a big beard and thick rimmed glasses? If so maybe the fact this is a fashion show is unrelated and she just saw someone who reminded her of you and this is a nice message.

B) if not, do you regularly tease each other? If so this is also a nice message where she's teasing you about still grooming like a 00s hipster.

C) if neither of the above, then it's B but it's no longer a nice message and you should respond like @[email protected] suggested

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 days ago

I have long hair and I have a denim jacket with metal/punk patches and I do wear generally colourful clothes and t-shirts and stuff.

We see and talk pretty regularly. She definitely doesn't hate me, but also since she didn't elaborate beyond this or say "he's into metal/punk" or anything it's weird to just say this and then not elaborate.

She also calls implies I'm overweight it sometimes and it annoys me, which I feel like is maybe part of this but IDK. She also generally does that thing of totally stonewalling me/family if anything stressful comes up so if I ask I have a feeling she'd just ignore it.

[–] [email protected] 41 points 3 days ago (1 children)

send a pic of a dog drinking out of the toilet and be like "this is u & ur media choices"

[–] [email protected] 20 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Same answer but instead of dog it's pigpoopballs

[–] [email protected] 27 points 3 days ago (1 children)

fashion is just capitalism and social hierarchy worn on the body

[–] [email protected] 11 points 3 days ago

Currently, yeah mostly, but not in our Communist future. Fashion is an excellent mode of self expression that won't go away when capitalism does

[–] [email protected] 11 points 3 days ago

hey look at this guy he's you

I need to clarify I'm trying to be insulting towards you

I'm pointing out a thing that's bad

maybe I win most autistic but I would just ghost her

Do you just regularly insult each other or is this a one way street? If you did that to her would it start a fight? If you take offense to her doing it to you does it start a fight? Are you wrong either way?

Maybe I'm projecting here but all I would want would be to distance myself from this. But then again I had one of my parents tell me to my face they were consciously and deliberately abusive and this just kinda reminds me of the tone of the free shots they would take at me.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 days ago

My sibling does this kind of stuff to me too, most I give is an "I see"

[–] [email protected] 12 points 3 days ago

They tried their best with me, sticking to the look though 😤

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 days ago

How'd he end the show looking?

[–] [email protected] 14 points 3 days ago

Tell her autism is genetic and her special interest is fashion

[–] [email protected] 18 points 3 days ago

Dunno, try replying "your mum is literally you" to hide your confusion.

  • Slightly autistic, good at masking
[–] [email protected] 12 points 3 days ago

It’s a joke on that you wear what not to wear. It’s in good fun.

But also maybe watch. Fashion can be hella interesting.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

I think it's fairly confusing as it is, so asking "wait what?" or "haha wdym" invites them to clarify their intention, without sounding like you're interrogating them.

But I'm autistic who's pretty good at masking and has issues with other people's perception of me, so take it with a grain of salt.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 3 days ago

If going for the masky route I'd definitely lean towards "haha wdym" as a much safer option than "wait what?" — it's got polite laughter and some texting slang to convey informality.

Ideally one shouldn't have to mask with siblings though, so the more honest route is probably just saying something like "I'm not sure how to interpret this (I am autism baby)"

[–] [email protected] 23 points 3 days ago

If you have a good relationship with her then I guess it's just her poking fun at you, but also giving a not too subtle hint maybe you wear clothes too tight or "unprofessional?"

Although lady in the middle is wearing my grandmother's table cloth so.... Who knows lol

[–] [email protected] 43 points 3 days ago

An endearing ribbing.

[–] [email protected] 33 points 3 days ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 25 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Yeah, if she's not making fun of how OP is dressing, I'd assume amused. I guess she's saying they look similar.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 3 days ago (1 children)

The fact she pointed out "what not to wear" was the show makes me think she was sending a not too subtle message lol

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 days ago

That's the part that's sticking for me, too, though. I'd have a hard time not being offended.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Apparently, racing stripes are in this season.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 days ago

Is that Clinton? Or a 2007 Mustang? Hard to tell from here.