I've experienced it both ways, when I'm not drinking I've had people try to pressure me into drinking and people act like they're morally superior because they don't drink. It's just pressure to conform to the social norms are in whatever environment.
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Same mentality for people who get defensive when they find out there's a vegetarian/vegan at the table even if they have to drag the fact out of the individual. They suddenly have to confront their own consumption and an outlier makes them feel uncomfortable.
I started getting migraines like half the time when I drink, even if it's only half a beer.
People seem to think you're judging them for drinking. You even get it if you drink, but less.
Sorry you got slurred at 
This is why i do not go to places that serve alcohol. Its why ive mostly stopped going to shows/concerts; i invariably spend most of my night justifying to the increasingly inebriated people i interact w explaining why i dont drink.
I got shit on by the bartender at a Reverend Horton Heat show because i was the DD for some friends a few months ago, when i asked for a Coke to drink. I had to explain that i hadnt asked for a shot w a Coke chaser, but just a Coke. She actually asked me if my AA sponsor knew i was here. Im not in AA nor am i a problem drinker, im just not a fuckin drinker anymore.
Pretty sure this is the exact reason they invented "Liquid Death" (canned water with a cool label). I have yet to be hassled while holding a can of that.
I haven't gotten in a situation that awful, but being straight edge has led me to the whole, "not even a little bit?" conversation multiple times, and I fucking hate it.
If I say, "I do not consume alcohol or recreational drugs," I mean that I do not consume alcohol or recreational drugs. Period. I added no caveats there.
I don't know what part of that is equivocal.
I didn't say "I don't usually consume alcohol, but maybe on some occasions I will!" or "I limit my alcohol consumption very heavily." I said "I do not."
I think it has to do with people constantly projecting their own preferences in life onto other people. To me, "some people enjoy certain things differently than you" doesn't seem like some elevated galaxy-brain take that's incredibly difficult to grasp or understand, but interacting with many people in society has easily taught me that this isn't the case for a whole lot of others.
I do consume thc, but only evenings or weekends. Because of this ive been called a hypocrite or worse, because i dont drink alcohol but consume thc. Frankly this is why the fat lot of my friends are either sxe or juat non drinkers.
That's not hypocritical — there's even a term "California sober" for this
not to be confused with ohio sober, which is only doing weed and booze