I am really sorry that you are going through this. I really appreciate all of the people in these comments who are dispelling the myth of laziness. Itβs hard not to fall into the hole of guilt and shame, and itβs something I really needed to hear right now. But to me it does sound like you are experiencing burnout, and maybe depression? I have ADHD and after about the 1 year mark I get very bored with work and it starts to take a very real toll on me so I start to under perform and it makes me feel really guilty. So I am trying to be more kind to myself and give myself some grace and acceptance.
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There's no such thing as "lazy". It's always, always, always a word used to make someone feel guilty for hitting a personal limit or threshold.
Even if you want to work on those thresholds and improve them, you can achieve that without framing yourself as fundamentally selfish and uncaring.
The difference between lazy and burnout lies in how much you trust the person not working.
Lazy exists. I am a fully capable person, but some times I just don't want to get up off the couch and wash the dishes, or finish painting the wall trim. Its not that I am sad, tired or depressed, it's just I'd rather be doing something else or nothing else.
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Genuinely well said.
thank you for this.
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I had panic attacks just before start working, and my productivity was quite low. I hope you don't reach that kind of reaction before looking for help.
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Sounds a lot like burnout to me.
Laziness doesn't exist, it's made up, there's always an underlying cause
Sometimes the underlying cause is you don't want to be bothered with the task. I am highly motivated to complete tasks, but sometimes I will let stuff slide because I can't be bothered.
Laziness exists. Itβs what causes me to not do my work around the house sometimes.
I guess I'll piggyback on the other comment and say laziness doesn't exist at work. People definitely have off days or hate their job, but I'd say pretty much all the "laziness" I have experienced in my life at different jobs usually boils down to awful work conditions, managers or bosses that don't care about you, not getting paid enough for the actual work, or general distain for your corporate overlords if you work for a big company. Some may call me lazy, but I'm working exactly as hard as I feel like they deserve when I'm 30 years old and still living in a studio apartment one paycheck away from being homeless. And I'm not gonna work at 100% when 100% of my needs are not being met. And I make more than anyone else in my family so I'm technically the "successful child."
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Easy. There's no such thing as lazy