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I've been happily posting away here on two accounts since just before the Great Migration, and have no problem being openly a woman on the internet. Up to and including correcting people who assume I'm a guy, and even occasionally acknowledging the existence of periods.

Which, honestly that was a bad tactic back on Reddit, my inbox was a nightmare. But here it's gone much better, so thank you to anyone who ever received one of my corrections with good grace!

It's also brought quite a few DMs my way from other women who try to stay more anonymous with their posts, a choice I can completely understand.

So today on International Women's Day I just want to wave hello to the other women out there, even if you don't want to break cover and wave back. Anonymous or not, cis or trans, I see you out there and you're killing it.

This may break the community rule on encouraging discussion, if nobody wants to out themselves to say hello back. So I guess I should also ask a question.

Um...anyone else using it as an excuse to treat themselves today? I've given myself the day (mostly) off work and am doing some fun gamedev all afternoon instead, then we're planning a takeaway tonight. Easily pleased, perhaps, but sounds good to me πŸ˜„

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Apparrently I am so over social media that I had to debate if I answer or not because - for all I know - you could also be a dude trying to lure girls out of their defenses for whatever reason.

But here I am, waving back my fellow female!

International womens day or not: Stand tall, be proud and hiiii!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago

That is very true and for a moment I debated taking a selfie holding up a message, AMA-style. But ultimately I was too lazy so I guess we'll never know for sure πŸ˜‰

[–] [email protected] 4 points 9 months ago

A bit late but hi!

[–] [email protected] 6 points 9 months ago

A bit late but hello!

Thank you for the post

[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago
[–] [email protected] 4 points 9 months ago

Sister, you make the world awesome :) <3

[–] [email protected] 6 points 9 months ago

Hi, sisters of Lemmy!

[–] [email protected] -2 points 9 months ago

Ehm... Akshually, the entity you refer to as "woman" doesn't exist. It's just a distraction by the deep state. WAKE UP PEOPLE

/s

[–] [email protected] 7 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

me, looking around while holding a bourbon on the rocks

"Man, who knew this place was crawling with chicks!" /s

[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 months ago

Lol! Me, actually :D

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago

Hello! I worked yesterday and I'm working today but I took time to pretty up and feel good about myself :)

[–] [email protected] 6 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I, too, am woman! Hear me roar!

[–] [email protected] -4 points 9 months ago

This whole time and I didn't even notice. Funny.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago

Hello back! 😊 sorry I'm a day late. I did have to work yesterday but at least it wasn't a terrible work day, so I'll take it. I did the same on Reddit with not outwardly saying I'm a woman for obvious reasons, but I've had the same great experience on here so far. Happy to see the positivity is shared for others too!

[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago

Belated happy international women's day! Here's to more open and equitable internet forums :)

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago (1 children)

HELLO!!!

Oh wait… I’m a man. Sorry.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Me with a wig and a purse

Hello fellow women

[–] [email protected] 0 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Damn this would have killed in a 70s comedy sketch.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 months ago

Probably. I mean no disrespect however.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago

Hey! Happy international women's day to you too ❀️!

[–] [email protected] -1 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Whaa ..There's women on Lemmy ?

[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago

I bet she doesn't even use Arch!

[–] [email protected] 20 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

My whole Instagram feed today seemed to be about how white women focusing on anything other than the women currently getting genocided could shut the fuck up so I've been pretty bummed all day.

I don't even know how to express how I feel about that. So, I should just accept unequal pay and getting talked over in my Monday meetings... because I'm at work, because I have bills to pay and a career to think about, instead of camping out in front of the Israeli embassy and making a scene all day? I just... idk man I'm tired.

Don't get me wrong, I do care. But I also care about the men and children getting killed alongside the women. It's a horrible gross genocide and people are starving. But I still need groceries and don't need to be catcalled on my way to get them. I'm fucking bummed.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago

I know exactly what you mean, my IG had started going that way around certain world events before I quit logging in there. Which was interesting because I'd moved to IG originally to get away from it on Facebook! These things are inevitable, it seems.

There are just too many terrible injustices in this world for us to hold on to the fury about all of them all the time.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Hello and hey. I don't usually think of myself as "a woman on the internet" because I've basically grown up with it. I don't make any particular efforts to advertise it but I'm not against casually mentioning it. I've never had a bad experience on Reddit due to my gender, likely because I gravitated towards niche subs where gender was irrelevant to the discussion anyway.

International Women's Day was widely celebrated in my native country, but much less so where I now live. I don't really mind, because I don't like the whole politically-correct celebrations that feel hollow and forced ("You're a woman so, uh, here are some flowers! Women like flowers, right? Right???") anyway I had a great day at work with my favorite team, then a nice evening at home with some D&D. I just wish I had time to walk my dog - that's one of my goals for tomorrow.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 9 months ago

You are completely right. I got so used to Reddit being thousands of misogynistic, vile, ridiculous comments at every turn, yet in haven't even thought about it until now. I haven't seen a lot of that here. I haven't been harassed at all or terrified to make a comment in fear of the hive mind making me wish I hadn't been born. Thank you lemmings for being better humans.

I wish I had the time today, but they made breakfast and lunch for all of the women in the office and had some fancy chat thing.

Happy Women's Day. Go to the spa. Take a long bath. Demand massages and cuddles. Something.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Yes but not PMs (currently) – the instance owner can see them.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 months ago (3 children)

TF is this violation of privacy?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 months ago

There is a big disclaimer warning people in the DM redaction page

[–] [email protected] 4 points 9 months ago

There's literally no way to avoid it unless Lemmy adds E2E encryption for direct messaging (which isn't a bad idea).

[–] [email protected] 8 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Most platforms do this

...but Lemmy at least tells you that the DMs are not private, and suggests an E2EE alternative. DM privacy is on the bucket list but it will take a while to implement. (Right now, it's a botch where messages are just posts with restricted visibility.)

[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago

Alright. Time to complain to the European union.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 9 months ago

Hi πŸ‘‹ I'm going to celebrate by doing my nails and taking a nice long bath!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago
[–] [email protected] 12 points 9 months ago

i remember playing pokerstars vr like 5 years ago. i learnt after a few days to pick a neutral avatar and mute mic. it stopped being fun real quick after that, because it ended up effectively as a 3d simulator of regular pokerstars.

haven't really done multiplayer vr since πŸ˜…

[–] [email protected] 18 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Hello back. I hope you're having a good day. I am even though I'm not doing anything special to celebrate my womanness, just living regular life.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Had a very good day thank you, despite not really doing anything majorly out of the ordinary. Just on with the weekly Top of the Pops watchalong on Mastodon now, after a day of fiddling with code and cross stitch and meeting cute dogs while out on a walk. Not bad going, really! πŸ˜„

No idea what timezone you're in but it sounds like it's earlier there, I hope your regular day is awesome! Nothing wrong with just a nice, uneventful regular day.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 months ago

My time zone is UTC -5.

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