just a few and that's ok. people will make good and bad things and there are a few with whom you'll really get along with. keep them close.
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I have trusted humans in the past. They have always failed me. Humans are not to be trusted. Just look at the state of the terrarium we live in.
Good? Many The other is completely different thing independent of being 'a good person'
Zero, but I've heard rumors they exist.
I love my mom.
Are you implying she's the only one you trust or did you just feel like announcing that
"Good" or "trust my life with"? The two can be mutually exclusive. If I was in the wrong, would a good person defend me?
I've met a few people with genuinely good morals in my life. They do exist and are almost incorruptible. Most people are flexible in that we can make justifications for almost anything.
I think the number is a lot higher and the barrier of trust a lot lower than people think.
If you come across a vehicle accident and you are able to help someone generally people donβt even think and just take action to save another persons life.
In reactionary scenarios where direct intervention saves someoneβs life, people help a lot more than youβd think.
As a species we generally have a bypass in our brains that makes us want to help others in desperate need.
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I don't think it's wise to ever trust another person 100%. You should be aware that anyone could turn on you in the correct situation with the correct pressures.
You're right, but sometimes you need someone to hold the other end of the rope when you lower yourself over a cliff.
Unfortunately if I'm going over a cliff it's a solo adventure and I don't plan on coming back up.
Damn fren.
It's just logical.
the sort of logic that's fundamentally irrational.
How? Anyone you know could betray you at any moment for various reasons. Simply because it's unlikely doesn't mean it's impossible.
and your heart could fail at any moment randomly. doesnt make it rational to design your whole life around it. Yes people can betray your trust, but again and again and again it's been shown that people dont betray eachother far far more often than they do. Also, if you're big on Logicβ’οΈ, lying only works if the vast majority of communication is truthful.
I mean you are making sense. I still don't see the issue with keeping a little bit in reserve for those potentialities.
sure, im not saying blindly trust people in all situations. but distrust should be exceptional, not normal.
I have a base amount of trust/distrust I assign to everyone. Some people go up in trust and some people go down, but nobody is completely trustworthy. Even my parents have lied to me and hurt me in the past. I love them and trust them more than most people but I still know they are absolutely capable of betraying me.
There are no good or bad people.
Ah yes, John Wayne Gacy, what a terrible loss for society! /s
The fuck out of here, you dumbass.
I didn't say people didn't do bad things and make bad choices. I'm sorry you're not able to understand that.
Can you tell me why you believe serial killers are neither good or bad
They do bad things. If a rabid dog attacks a child, killing it, is the dog bad? If a priest gives comfort to a dying man then molests a child is he good then bad? No he's neither. The actions are good or bad; the individual is neither.
You do understand dogs that attack people unprovoked are put down everyday right? And to compare a dog's critical thinking to a human's is asinine.
A priest is allowed to molest kids as long as he does good things to balance it? If you truly believe that then you are out of your mind.
You've got an interesting sense of logic
Look, you can interpret what I said anyway you like, but regardless I'm correct. If a serial killer believes himself to be "good" and you believe him to be "bad" which one of you is correct? How about a man that wants so badly to murder everyone he meets but doesn't ever do it? Is he a good man as long as he doesn't act?
Those are completely different situations? So you believe serial killers are good and someone who doesn't actually kill is the same as a serial killer. Good lord man, you need to either stop the drugs or start taking some.
Don't bother me with your insanity anymore
Reading comprehension is truly a lost art...
I know way more people who would at least attempt to save my life in an emergency than I think are genuinely good people. But I do actually think that's part of identifying a decent person. Empathizing with someone suffering in front of you and wanting to help is such a low standard for empathy that even untrained animals sometimes pass this bar. Empathizing with living things more broadly and outside of your personal bubble is a task that's apparently too much to ask of most people I've met. Good way to gauge this is to get someone talking for a bit about the unhoused population of their hometown.
I think animals are much more capable of empathy than the average person
There are a lot of people who would rush me to the hospital but also voted to take away my rights and worse. I don't know if I believe in good people these days.
That is very hard to asses. I prefer to look it like this, what chances is that you will find a partner (like for marry to) out of 100 or so. I do believe, if given equal chance of interaction, you could find a marrying-material partner every 7 or 8 people. Now, in a world of plenty of choices, biases etc, we shuffle through hundreds of people before settling with one... and, even then, still unhappy with the choice for the people we haven gone through yet in our search. Now, that is for me... Chances is you would choose a different person out of these very same 7 to 8 people. Both chosen persons have the same chance of being equally good persons, as the non chosen ones.
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