What the hell did I miss this time?
this post was submitted on 19 Mar 2025
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People really want free speech until they don't.
If someone's being a prick, just clown on them. They are entitled to speak their opinion, regardless of how stupid it is. Social ostracization will always be worse than anything moderation can do anyways.
This is a clown shit comment, so I'm gonna clown on it. You are a clown. 🤡
That works while there's enough people. If they outnumber the ones doing the clowning, it starts working the opposite way.
Can someone recommend me a new instance and how to move my account?
Lemmy.cafe, Lemm.ee, Sopuli.xyz, Programming.dev, Mander.xyz and Feddit.uk are all massive upgrades!
You can import your information using the settings to your new instance.
You can't move your account but you can have multiple acounts with the same name if they're not on the same instance. In the Voyager app you can stay logged into more than one at the same time. Also you can check out most instances without creating an account so I'd suggest taking a look yourself to see what you like. You can find a list with filter options here.
The left is getting killed on the trans sports issue (which I believe is a completely manufactured issue) because we haven't talked about it enough to iron out a reasonable position.
The general pop is not accepting of trans people in professional sports. I don't think that will change anytime soon but trans people playing school sports is far more accepted and I think its a much more convincing to fight on the issue of trans people participating in school sports for fun and social reasons. It draws away from the shit narrative that trans people are trying to compete at the highest level and I don't think anyone can reasonably argue against it since casual sport commonly mixes gender.
You can't logically argue your way out of bigotry. They don't care whether they're actually correct or not about trans issues. They already wanted to harm us and remove us from society where possible, and will find any reason to do so. See: the bathroom debates.
I'd rather people just stood up for us at all than act like they need to make good points in order for us to exist. You're all playing kickball and we're the ball.
Its not about presenting a logical argument. I think at this point we've seen that doesnt work. Its about presenting an emotionally convincing argument. Shifting the focus to causal sports is more likely to convince the average person that its fine. This does two things it prevents the conversation shifting to extreme examples and it plants the seed for conversations about trans participation in competitive sport.
I usually point out that the Olympics have allowed trans contenders since 2004, and if it was the cheat code it's asserted to be, the entire Chinese and Russian teams would be trans people. That usually gets people thinking "huh, maybe this is some bull"
My issue is that that is a good argument and should be convincing it doesnt convince people. When they hear that they hand wave it then get swayed by a more emotional argument of a random example of a trans women doing well in a sport. I've been watching how right wingers do media and there is a tatic i think should be co op'd. Basically if they try and say "trans people shouldnt be allowed in sports because a trans boxer broke someones nose" You just completely ignore that and say "the legislation prevented a trans person from playing in causal after school netball team how the fuck is that fair." Then hopefully they take the bait and response to what you've said and everyone watching forgets the 1st point and hangs on the 2nd point which is fair easier to defend because it makes sense to people emotionally.
That’s another good point!
We should all block Lemmy.world unless they get their act together.
As long as it's the user doing it, not instances.
It’s up to the instances to keep their communities safe for everyone.
There are a few instances I wish mine would unblock, but world is not one of them
I do like the friendly vibe of Beehaw!
Spoiler: they won't.
Lemmy.world is a a full on trash bag when it comes to those sorts of comments. And some people tried to tell me I was overreacting or lying about it (in specific reference to the 196 push that they failed at, yet still post to to try and garner new subs).
That's the problem with platforms that offshoot for free speech reasons.
I want to be able to say eat the rich and luigi magione was right.
Others want to spout hate in all forms.
Then people begin to argue these are the save of you should tolerate intolerance. Which you should never do
I didn't realize there was much of a culture difference between the instances. Is this written down anywhere?
I first noticed the issue with .world when discussion of Luigi was censored there in December. That's why I'm not on there any more. They're too eager to toe the line and appear corpo friendly like reddit.
There's some that are quite clearly different than most. hexbear is probably one of the most notorious. lemmy.ml, while commonly associated with hexbear, still has a clearly different vibe from hexbear.
But with regards to toleration of transphobia, there's certainly variation with regards to moderation, which means certain instances have much more widespread transphobia than others. Similarly differences exist with regards to other forms of bigotry, such as some instances tolerating pretty overt misogyny with regards to the bear vs man in a forest topic while others used it as a chance to ban a lot of people they didn't want in their communities. Some see their instances more like a small community to hang out with friends and others see their instance more as a public forum open to anyone.
Lemmy.world for some reason seems to both have a lot of ban-happy mods, regularly being mentioned in places like PTBs, yet somehow is also known for tolerating transphobia.
Apparently at least one person associates the instance I'm posting from with people who just want reddit (unsurprising given the name it would appeal to such) and the person claimed to assume I was being transphobic somehow because of the instance I was on (I think they missed a word like "not" or something that drastically changed the meaning).
Imo, blahaj has a lot more similar feel to reddit trans communities than a lot of the other trans communities on the fediverse.
I don't normally pay attention to what instance communities or posters are from, so I don't really have much direct opinion and more just see second-hand opinions.
The admins influence the culture of their instances a lot more than they would like to admit.
Fair, but I have to admit, it's kind of hard to figure out.
Yeah, I'm new-ish and I don't yet know the various instance "cultures." Hopefully picking blahaj wasn't a mistake, lol.
The admin is great and doesn't put up with nonsense. Downvotes are disabled, which took some getting used to. I have never regretted my choice of instance. Very queer-friendly and I like the people as a whole. Welcome, hope you love it.
Thanks!
Blahaj is pretty good. I think you don't get a downvote option there which I don't quite understand but the people are chill.
I was wondering about downvotes since I saw people mentioning them, but don't see the option to do that myself. That explains it.
Not really. And that's because anybody who would write it down recognizes that they're going to get piled on.
They wanted to be Reddit again and boy are they still trying to do that.
If everyone from reddit moves over then it will be reddit
It's such a cesspool over there