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You could try some bone conducting head phones. I've been wearing the Shokz brand OpenRun headband all day at work for about 5 months now and it's comfy. I use them in bed sometimes but don't fall asleep in them. They have some new wrap around ear ones that might be comfier to sleep in.
Edit: A full charge will last all day and they recharge quickly.
Set alarm quiet-ish on your phone, put it under your pillow then hope the volume is loud enough to wake you, but the muffled sound doesn't wake them up?
My phone has an escalating volume option for alarms. I usually hear it before it's loud enough for anyone else to hear.
If the watch vibrating is too much, I fail to see how this has any chance.
What if you got a battery and put it on a timer and hooked the electrodes to your toes? That way you get moderately zapped, and she doesn't wake up. After a week or so, I would bet you have so much anxiety that your internal clock will wake you, even without the zap. The body is amazing.
If your wife is the type who would want to wear a sleep mask, you could put your lights on a timer to make you up, if you have smart lights a lot of them have a feature to turn the brightness up slowly to wake you up more gently. She wouldn't be bothered by them if she's wearing a mask but they'd get you up.
Heating pad on a timer? Silent, but probably uncomfortable enough to make you aware of the time when it's on.
Try gentle, natural sounds in your alarm. Bird songs, sound if rain, etc. Many alarm apps have an option to start very quiet and increase volume gradually, that may help
I had a first gen Xiaomi smart band thingy for this very reason that I put on my leg. Worked well enough unless I was exhausted or drunk but then nothing would anyway.
I have no idea if this is a good product or not but look up shock clock alarm watch. It uses an electric shock to wake the wearer up.
Maybe a small shielded pin light focused on your pillow only, on a timer. We naturally wake up to the sun without an alarm. Make sure it can't be seen from your wife's side.
Drink a lot of water before bed, your bladder will wake you up
in a strange twist, the chess world already solved this one. Vibrating buttplug
If Lemmy had awards I'd give you one because I really thought I was gonna be original by bringing that up but no, you beat me to it, well done
Was there a scandal where a chess player had a vibrating buttplug controlled by another person giving him the answers? That’s….dedication I guess
There are actually watches/bands that will give a minor shock as an alarm. Sounds crazy but unless it jump to the wife (hope it wouldn't be that strong...) it shouldn't wake anyone. Novel idea if nothing else.
Interesting. Looks like "Pavlok" is the main brand. If OP buys their more expensive one OP could use it to silently wake up AND train himself to get out of bed super gently by shocking himself anytime he disturbs his wife!
Put the watch around your balls.
Or even better, just get a vibrating cock ring.
In the butt should also work. Just make sure it has a flired base.
If you can wear sleep headphones the Sleep app for android will send it's alarm to headphones. And it will ramp up the volume of the alarm over time. I imagine there's something similar on iOS. I wear SleepPhones... they're fine.
I can't imagine that you can get out of bed without waking your wife if your smartwatch vibrating wakes her up.
Depends where the arm is I think. When it vibrates under the pillow you're using, it can sound very loud
I assume that OP isn't sleeping with the wrist wearing the watch underneath the pillow their wife has her head on.
Pulling your arm from under a pillow someone is using seems very likely to disturb them and wake them. You're not doing that, OP, right?