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It is not cool or trendy to be Autistic...
I know that you probably don't mean it that way but I do think it is important to see people for who they are.
I generally refer to myself as ASD (also has disorder in it) to describe my autistic traits and ADD for my ADHD. Sometimes I use Neuro divergent or ND if I'm feeling lazy.
It is broader encompassing, but you can just say Neuro divergent
That doesn't fit well, because a person with adhd doesn't want to be assumed has autism. It would be an unnecessary hurdle for the interpreter to get past lol
I just don't tell people. It never leads to anything good.
Agreed. It's like they start looking for confirmation, so they start expecting and noticing every little mistake. Or they don't see it, and give you unsolicited speeches about how they struggle to focus to and you just need discipline... In fact, you should stop taking your meds
I just tell people without telling people. "I can't sit still for too long, I have to walk", "the music/videos and stim toys help me focus", "my thought process is weird, I know that sounds unrelated but it makes sense to me", "I know you're writing up a list, I need to take notes to process what you're saying ~~and if I don't doodle I can't pay attention to this boring ass meeting~~"
If you take on the label, they don't see you as managing your symptoms, they look for the cracks. If you explain your compensation strategies and areas of difficulty, they usually are pretty supportive and will even respect the level of thought you put into it
"They look for the cracks" is an excellent way to put it.
I don't even tell friends, except those who are very close. Too often, it changes the way people treat me.
Conversely I've met people who were diagnosed as adults and who then blame everything they do on their ADHD - "you know, now everything makes sense about me!".
Ditto with Autism, to be fair - you don't get to excuse being an arsehole just because you're not neurotypical, Dave.
Squirly
Degenerate
Retarded (I call myself that sometimes)
Hello, I’m unfiltered.
I'm like 95-100% filtered at first to avoid upsetting anyone. Very rarely, I'll make it to 0% unfiltered with only the most accepting and trustworthy people.
If you're medicated you can say "I do drugs." 😎
Medicate is very... out of one's control
I'm on meth rn 😀
I just say ADHD'er
I feeeeeel....I ☝FEELLLLLL☝ (pls don't get mad at me) like when I tell people ahead of time of my neurodivergence, they take it as me coming up with an excuse to be rude in the future.
I don't understand the context
Everyone has met an asshole that says they're neurodivergent to get away with purposefully being an asshole. When you go up to them and tell them you're neurodivergent, look at their eyes. If they squint, what they just heard is that that you're an asshole.
I’m so quirky!
Maybe spaz.
I always used to describe myslef as a bit spastic. Wasn't until maybe the mid 2010s I found out people used it as an insult. I think that's retarded so I still call myself that.
Edit:for the autistic and easily offended, this was a joke. In poor taste maybe, but a joke. And I'm still a spastic nerfbag.
Nah, that's kinda derogatory in the UK (apparently).
Spaz is short for spastic. There are a variety of disabilities that have spastic symptoms, such as Spastic Diplegia, a form of Cerebral Palsy.
It gained popularity as an insult in the 60s.
Spez on the other hand...
gained popularity as an insult in the 2010s
Neurodivergent, no need to be specific
At-def
Derptistic
Not neurotypical? No need to get into specific diagnoses
Dopaminded
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