No Stupid Questions

Bro ain't you gonna face structural racism on your eat pray love vacation.

Just look up "i went to racist town as a " and don't goto those towns, youd have to go out of your way to find them.

Racism in America is real. Anyone telling you otherwise is probably just living a charmed life and incapable of accepting that their personal experience is not universal.

I don't have the time or energy to prove this exhaustively, but here's a starting point: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Driving_while_black

In 2019, as reported by NBC, the Stanford Open Policing Project found that "police stopped and searched black and Latino drivers on the basis of less evidence than used in stopping white drivers, who are searched less often but are more likely to be found with illegal items."

Please refer to the citations on that page for more details. Lots of studies in various states showing the same thing. The fact that the mere existence of racial profiling in America is still debated, when it has been consistently proven again and again for decades, is itself a clear indicator of a different kind of racism.

Here's a little story that stuck in my memory, about how a white woman finally came to realize that racial harassment by police was a real thing. It's kind of hilarious, in a dark, face-palmy kind of way. https://franklywrite.com/2020/06/01/a-white-woman-racism-and-a-poodle/

You'll probably be mostly fine, but expect people to find your accent to be a novelty.

Racists usually keep their mouths shut in public, just pay attention to your surroundings and be careful (good advice anywhere you go).

Don't listen to the people saying there's an issue anywhere.

All this racist nonsense is just that - nonsense.

I've lived or worked for extended periods in numerous states, from Maine to Alabama, North Dakota, Washington, Texas, California, and all over the midwest, especially in rural areas (worked with trucking companies), and you really don't see all the racism people claim on the internet, even in the trucker world.

Yea, you'll find an ass here and there, but that's very much the exception today. Far more so than even the 70's, when being openly racist in a small town was tolerated a lot more ("the older generation don't know no better" kind of stuff).

So come to the US. You'll be fine anywhere except specific areas in certain inner cities (and that's a general crime issue, not a race issue).

I think this will be a complete non-issue. Interracial/interethnic marriage is quite common in the US. There might be a few isolated backwater areas where people would judge you but such people would be in the minority and would keep such thoughts to themselves.

And regardless, anywhere international tourists would know of or visit will be cosmopolitan enough that such pairings will not be unusual to see.

But I heard that in some procedures in America you have to say what your ethnicity is?

Not sure what you mean by "procedures," but no. It's explicitly forbidden for anyone to discriminate against you based on your race or ethnicity. You won't be asked if you are black or white or anything else. People might be curious where you are from, especially if you have a strong accent, but you're free to tell them to fuck off (especially if they are being racist.)

We even heard things like that in some places they divide people by "skin color" and base different cultures on that (we noticed that people from America even speak and behave differently based on whether they identify as "black" or "white") and even have schools for primarily people with dark skin or so.

We have laws preventing creating neighborhoods or schools that exclude specific races, but there are regional schools in communities that are primarily one race or another. Generations of racial segregation, redlining, blockbusting, and gerrymandering have created persisitent segregation that survives decades after those practices were outlawed.

So no, you're not misinformed. Historical segregation was real and still affects communities today, but there are no laws enforcing racial segregation. We do have a lot of bigots, as evidenced by the literal Nazi salute at the Trump inauguration today, so you should be careful in places like rural Alabama, Mississippi, Florida, Texas, Utah, and South Carolina. But if you're visiting a major city, or any famous tourist attractions, you'll probably not experience any overt racism beyond a Trump bumper sticker.

Just go for it, so long as you aren't overtly rude you'll have minimal issues (hard to do, in my experience Germans are quite polite). Few people will care at all and those that do probably won't tell you to your face which is for the best for everyone anyway.

Assuming you're going to visit as a tourist most places you will be at will be fine for both of you.

Also check out Atlas Obscura and Wikivoyage if you haven't they are both cool resources for getting around and finding things to do

I would highly recommend staying away from the US for the next 4-20 years if your skin tone is anything darker than paper

It kinda depends on where in the country you're going.

West Coast, and Northern East coast is going to be a hugely different experience than the middle of the country or the southern coast.

Big cities, you will be fine. If you’re planning to hit up rural areas then maybe it would be an issue.

Are you comfortable being a bit more specific about what area you're going to? Vermont and Louisiana would be drastically different experiences.