Hate it when someone nails me and doesn't even know me : adhd

[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 days ago

I eat enough to not feel hungry long enough to fall asleep

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 days ago

DAE rotate between The One Meal and I Am a Grazing Gazelle? Some days I just have the one big meal and nothing else; other days I just eat crackers and fruit and cheese all day.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 6 days ago

Or the old deciding I need to eat, getting up and going to the kitchen, seeing a chore that needs done to unlock the ability to eat certain foods, like I want ramen but my pots are on the drying rack, then realizing after I had been sitting down again for an hour that I just put away everything on the drying rack and forgot to cook and eat the ramen.

Then get up, go to the kitchen, and notice that the plants need to be watered...

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago

I want to eat more, but always forget to!

[–] [email protected] 12 points 6 days ago (1 children)

That's it... I sent my general practitioner a message to get tested for adhd and autism. It's gonna be fun to find out where on the spectrum I land

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (1 children)

I like to say we're part of indigo - it's a color that's underrated, overshadowed by more "standard" colors, and often misunderstood or misidentified.

Also, once you get an eye for identifying indigo, you start to spot it more easily. Just as learning more about one's own autism can lead to one recognizing traits in their family or friends.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 days ago

That could lead to undesired association with Indigo children...

[–] [email protected] 8 points 6 days ago

Thanks for reminding me, I should eat something today before I crash for the night.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 days ago

Yo what the fuck, stop telling on me

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Happy the One Meal to you too, although mine is picked at all through the night

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

Same. No breakfast, no lunch, no appetite. But when I get back home from work, it's basically one long grazing period until it's time to go to bed. A few baby carrots here, a few chips there, maybe a sandwich or a salad. The only times I have an actual, full "meal" are when I'm having a sit-down meal with others, like going out to dinner.

I am also somewhat surprised - I didn't realize this was an AuDHD trait. I love discovering new things from this community.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 6 days ago

I didn’t know this was an ADD thing

But this is so me

[–] [email protected] 7 points 6 days ago

Happened today for the first time in a while. I was too busy with other stuff and then realized around 6pm that I was really hungry and oh I hadn't ate yet today.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

And a pleasant The One Meal to you too.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 6 days ago (2 children)

OMAD is a common fasting method by more than just ADHD people.

[+] [email protected] -8 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Yeah more eating disorder than adhd

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (2 children)

Can we please stop pathologizing every little quirk? There is no one way to eat. Just because you're accustomed to the idea of 3 square meals in a day doesn't mean that deviation from that pattern is wrong. Different cultures approach meals, meal sizes, and meal times in different ways. How is that any different than an individual eating by their own schedule?

But when you get down to it, this isn't even about food. If there's any pathological component to this scenario, it would be the inability to keep track of time and/or sensory differences that don't trigger sensations (such as hunger) in the same way as neurotypicals. Which we're already well aware of. Having an unusual eating schedule is just one way that these differences manifest.

[–] [email protected] -2 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

That's not what was described in the post. What was described in the post is deliberate, and is indeed an eating disorder. I'll happily be corrected by a professional who knows better than I. I won't take your word for it that it's actually healthy mmkay.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 days ago (1 children)

No no. I it must be autism

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I honestly have no idea what this is in response to. It doesn't make sense to me in the context of this thread.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 days ago

Idk man, It's sarcasm of sorts.

that man must be wrong because autism! /S

[–] [email protected] 18 points 6 days ago (2 children)

True... but it's not really intentional or desired for some of us. Like, I WANT to put on weight (especially fat), but unless I set timers or am incredibly conscious that I need to eat, time just zips by, and I end up eating as described in the post. When I super focus on it (meal prep, shakes, etc), it starts to become a major point of anxiety in my life, and my relationship with food starts to get kind of toxic. I'm alive, healthy, and all that, but this kind of thing is very different than intentional fasting or dieting.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 days ago

Food feels great when shared communally. Pretty sure it's hard for a lot of people to eat because we've sort of lost that as a society.

[+] [email protected] -12 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Right you have an eating disorder

Is fine

Many do

[–] [email protected] 13 points 6 days ago (2 children)

You're entirely wrong about that, and I think that's the entire point of this post. Eating does not repulse or disgust me. I have zero anxiety that xyz food is going to make me gain/lose weight. The idea here is that our brains absolutely do not easily create a routine around food. Let's say it's 10am and I'm starting to get hungry- I'll tell myself "okay, lunch in the next hour or two!" I briefly go back to whatever I was doing, look at the clock again, and it's 6pm.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 days ago (1 children)

It's an unfortunate stereotype that all eating disorders are anorexia, but not all of them come from a concern about weight gain/loss. I have a binge-eating disorder from growing up in poverty, and it's given me the compulsion to stuff as much food into me as possible because I grew up not knowing when my next meal would be.

When I super focus on it (meal prep, shakes, etc), it starts to become a major point of anxiety in my life, and my relationship with food starts to get kind of toxic.

I go through the same thing whenever I try to control my binge eating, and it turns hella toxic.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 days ago (1 children)

My understanding of binge eating when it comes to eating disorders is that people will eat when they don't want to, are already full, eat till they are sick, feel negative about binging, eating fast for hours, etc - this isn't what I experience. I do get hungry and I eat till I'm satisfied. I would not classify the way I eat in this manner as binging - it doesn't bother me, I don't eat myself sick, and I can stop when I want.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 children)

No, I don't fast after, which is what differentiates my BED from bulimia. I've never felt shame from my eating specifically, it's always been a method of self-soothing anxiety about future availability of food. I do feel shame when I'm reminded that's not a healthy mindset around food, but the shame is complicated and partly about my economic status, not the food itself. You may not have BED, but I would recommend looking into eating disorders.

The only reason it's getting brought up is because you said that your relationship with food can be toxic when you try to meal plan, and that's a big indicator light that you may also have an eating disorder. Autism, ADHD, and eating disorders are very commonly found together, so it's not like you can only have one or the other.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 children)

Okay, this is getting to be a bit much. I'm over 30 years old, have been seeing my PCP for the entirety of my life- he was the one who first diagnosed my autism and have me sent to be evaluated for ADHD. Due to insurance, I've had multiple psychs/therapists, but often see them for 3-5 years. I spend hours with these people talking about a variety of things, including eating habits. Never ONCE has any medical professional diagnosed or hinted that my relationship with food is related to an eating disorder. My anxiety around meal prepping was due to me training for competitive bodybuilding and having to eat 6 large meals throughout the day mentally wore me down. This mental hangup continued after I stopped training, and has less to do with the eating and more to do with the planning my schedule around eating. I very much dislike ANY form of structure which feels rigid or like I have to be conscious of times/date. I have no problems with the food itself, I have no problems controlling my intake of food, and my only issues stem from the scheduling and routine of eating.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 days ago

Ah, I assumed "relationship with food starts to get kind of toxic" meant a toxic relationship with the food, not the structure.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (1 children)

Your 2nd sentence implies you have no clue at all what an eating disorder is.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I'm honestly going to go by the fact that not a single time in my life has it been brought up by my doctors, psychs, or therapists - some of whom I've been seeing for decades. I'm sure you're incredibly qualified to make these types of diagnoses based off of a few sentences from someone on a message board, but please use your time for your actual patients.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 days ago

I'm more than happy to be corrected by someone with a real professional background, but going to a bunch of therapists doesn't make you any more of an expert than me. But what is clear from your message is you definitely dont know what an eating disorder is, because you described incorrect symptoms.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 days ago

News to me that we all do this.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 6 days ago

Yeah so my kid does this.

He ate a full ass portion of sweet and sour chicken rice and vegetables. And a brownie. And a cheesey roll up. And drank all the chocolate milk we had.

The kid is as thin as I was at his age, the biggest difference is that he has two parents that also both have ADHD so they get it, and also get that getting that food eaten is what's most important.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 days ago

Ouch. Do love that one meal tho

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago

Phrasing!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 days ago

I feel called out...

[–] [email protected] 10 points 6 days ago

I'll have you know I had some cereal for lunch, so its two meals today.

(Fuck me I really need to get my official diagnosis - I'm waiting for an appt)

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 week ago

i’ve recently been started doing One Meals a little differently. i now get a big pan and add in basically every kind of food i should be eating throughout the day (fruits, vegetables, eggs, tofu, etc.) and cook it with a bit of oil and seasoning. i then add a bunch of spicy stuff to mask the taste, and sometimes add in yogurt to make it last longer and undo some of the spicy. i can then just scoop this into a bowl and heat it up in the microwave anytime during the day when i get hungry. it’s still One Meal, but it now lasts upwards of 3 days and i nibble away at it as needed.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 week ago

Yum, snakemeal. Mine is pasta tonight

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