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I have no idea how it'll read for you, but the philosophy that I carry to simply not drink is "this situation is bad, but at least I don't have to navigate it drunk."
I've never had a problem with desire for alcohol, so my philosophy never got "pressure tested." But I imagine drinking like a scaling debuff to strength, constitution, charisma, wisdom, intelligence, and dexterity in the DnD of life. Like if I encounter a problem and I have to use any of those, I don't want to have to navigate a -2 to my rolls. If my keys fall in the sewer, maybe I can intuit a way to fish them out or I can take the constitution hit and jump in after them. But if I were drunk I'd just sit there going sigh godammit!
In a sense, I imagine drinking for problems like going "could this get any worse?!" and then thunder cracks, rain starts pouring, & laugh track plays.
I normally like this mentality, but anti-psychotic withdrawal is definitely a time that being drunk is preferable to being sober. There's so much bodily discomfort that comes with it, so much physical pain and resentment that alcohol is a band aid for. It also makes the snappy decisionmaking feel okay.
I guess I shouldn't say it is better to be drunk off my meds. But it definitely feels better
As a person who has had strong desire for alcohol and is an alcoholic, this reasoning unfortunately doesn't hold up well. Because, for me at least, it was this sucks... but I COULD be drunk and it might suck less. I was the kind of alcoholic who'd down a 9% tallboy before work some days just to ease into my day. At 3am.
That said, to OP, you've got this. It feels like a long time, especially if it's your first out of rehab. Try to keep yourself busy. Find something to read, a video game to lose yourself in. Go on walks. I like bike rides, if that's your thing. I just went and rode a few miles of trails yesterday because I was having a rough mental health day.
If you need someone to talk at hit me up. The only thing that sucks more than falling off, to me, is having to start sobriety all over again.
Good luck friend!
Playing it forward to the next day has helped me a bit. Sure this sucks, and sure I could go to the store right now, but what about tomorrow? How will I feel tomorrow about all of it while hungover?