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what they mean by that is, "thank god they learned to mask the problem so they stop inconveniencing us"
As someone who has many ADHD traits, but never formally diagnosed, I always view this perspective as strange. Like you're so incensed by it, you get defensive and almost act like you have zero responsibility on the issue and everyone should just accept you and allow you concessions because you can't keep your shit together.
I've certainly 'grown' out of a lot of it, but a lot of it is hard work and establishing habits to minimise issues. It lets me live a better life and to treat it like a disability is only selling yourself short.
Don't cut yourself on that edge.
It's not that we think we have zero responsibility or whatever - it's that, as you described, we put in a lot of effort to find coping mechanisms and management strategies, and then people like this cut-rate psych point to the results of that effort and say 'See, it's gone!' It's not gone, you dingbat, we have to manage it and it takes a lot of work, and maybe it would be nice - just once - to get some recognition for all that work we're doing rather than pretending the problem doesn't exist any more.