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Are infidelities really that common? (lemm.ee)

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Hello. So last week I went to a school reunion for the 20th anniversary of my hometown school. I'm not the kind of person who enjoy this kind of social events, but for this time I made an exception. My old friend from that time asked me to go and I thought I would be funny (spoiler alert: it wasn't funny). After the event and speeches, all my classmates and I went to a restaurant. I sat in front of a girl that I had a bit of a crush on when I was a kid. During the dinner I was mostly in silence, they were talking about gossips, old memories, relationships, comparisons... At some point she talked about a boyfriend she had. She said that she cheated on him like 10 or 20 times, she didn't know the exact number. The thing is... She was laughing about it, and so the others. "I told him I cheated on him, I don't know how many times.." She said, like nothing happened. My ex girlfriend told me that she also cheated on his fiancée some time before the wedding. She always said that infidelities are always there, like it is normal... But is it? I've been thinking about it for some time now, because I know some other cases. But I don't understand... There is no sense of morality ot loyalty or empathy?

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 15 hours ago

First off, thanks for answering. I'm a bit obsessed with this kinda stuff.

I mean, there's all kinds of ethical philosophy out there. I don't really deviate too far from it.

So vaguely western ethics? I mean some ethics frameworks are quite incompatible.

In practice, there's a lot that most people can agree on without too much thought, too.

This is a theme I see. It's fair to not think through it, especially when it feels obvious.

For example, the classical case study for how being agreeable can work against doing the right thing is how ordinary and nice a lot of Nazis were, when not being ordered into atrocities.

This is consistent with the above statements. I sorta agree, but obviously I have a different worldview.

So my best guess given all that is that doing a bad thing from your perspective is: Doing something you consciously know will bring harm to others.

Which I think requires:

Free will / Independence / a distinction between internal and external.

Does that sound right?