neurodiverse
What is Neurodivergence?
It's ADHD, Autism, OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, bi-polar, aspd, etc etc etc etc
“neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behavior”
So, it’s very broad, if you feel like it describes you then it does as far as we're concerned
Rules
1.) ableist language=post or comment will probably get removed (enforced case by case, some comments will be removed and restored due to complex situations). repeated use of ableist language=banned from comm and possibly site depending on severity. properly tagged posts with CW can use them for the purposes of discussing them
2.) always assume good faith when dealing with a fellow nd comrade especially due to lack of social awareness being a common symptom of neurodivergence
2.5) right to disengage is rigidly enforced. violations will get you purged from the comm. see rule 3 for explanation on appeals
3.) no talking over nd comrades about things you haven't personally experienced as a neurotypical chapo, you will be purged. If you're ND it is absolutely fine to give your own perspective if it conflicts with another's, but do so with empathy and the intention to learn about each other, not prove who's experience is valid. Appeal process is like appealing in user union but you dm the nd comrade you talked over with your appeal (so make it a good one) and then dm the mods with screenshot proof that you resolved it. fake screenies will get you banned from the site, we will confirm with the comrade you dm'd.
3.5) everyone has their own lived experiences, and to invalidate them is to post cringe. comments will be removed on a case by case basis depending on determined level of awareness and faith
4.) Interest Policing will not be tolerated in any form. Support your comrades in their joy!
Further rules to be added/ rules to be changed based on community input
RULES NOTE: For this community more than most we understand that the clarity and understandability of these rules is very important for allowing folks to feel comfortable, to that end please don't be afraid to be outspoken about amendments and addendums to these rules, as well as any we may have missed
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I don’t have a resource, but you’re not alone in this - I struggle with this too (usually while walking away and going through my mental conversation checklist realizing that I’ve forgotten to ask people about themselves…). I do genuinely care, I just want most social interactions to be over asap and have about a dozen dvd logos bouncing around the corners of my brain lol.
I echo what others have said though. For me it’s like any physical exercise, repetition and training are key. And learning my own boundaries around mental/sensory overwhelm; because if I’m overwhelmed but ask out of obligation and then someone starts talking about their issues, there’s a non-zero chance I’ll immediately glaze over.
Yeah my problem is that i always gravitated towards people who were pouring everything on me without asking because i was way more comfortable reacting to others than leading a convo but now i feel i came to a point where i can't ride it out anymore and even with these kinds of friends my relationships became kinda shallow so i'm trying to up my game. Thanks a lot for the answer!
Boundary setting is really hard, especially when you don't realize a boundary is being crossed. As the other poster said, a lot of practice and repetition to realize what you're comfortable with, and also to be firm enough that the boundary doesn't get crossed.
Best wishes on your journey! It takes an effort for sure, good on you for trying