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Why companies/HR get so pissed when they are rejected by the candidate? shouldn't they be calm like us and not take it personally like they say? (lemm.ee)
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I got rejected a gazillion times in my career and I still get rejected left and right.

However the moment I express my lack of interest advanced in the position, I get bombarded by emails and requests for meeting..

This happened to me twice:

  1. A few years ago. I passed all the stages, the position included relocation, I missed one thing in my negotiation: the taxes in the new place are really high. I emailed them explaining my position, not interested anymore because of taxes.. Then I start getting requests to set up meetings, and attempt to get me to explain to answer a long list of questions.. I tried to be nice and helpful but it seems people lost their temper already (started getting "unprofessional" emails)

  2. More recently, I passed the first few stages, the last stage seemed too frustrating and slow so I gave up. All of the sudden, things changed again and everyone is trying to understand more in detail...

Why are we expected to eat rejections and not take it personally but they can't take their own advice?

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 week ago

Perceived leverage. Perception of value... Everybody acting as they are a king but relative in the hierarchy we are all slaves pushed and pulled by external forces. It seems like getting a job is like buying a car. It's a song and dance. They take forever on purpose. They're really trying to like torture you subliminally. And physically. These are all just policies from the top and they literally just want to demoralize you. So you'll be happy for crumbs. It's a web of nonsense just to maintain the hierarchy. We are literally in a standstill, in my opinion, when it comes to human progress. I mean, it seems they're getting better at killing poor people in other countries. But then again, even that they can be critiqued over due to some of their recent failures, in which I celebrate.. I think just the modern day yankee capitalist is maybe just dumb. They have their secret plans, but once the veil is removed, it's just gonna be a sad droopy dick. This AI nonsense is almost over. Just a silly-ass parlor trick that's really just going to be used for the surveillance state. What a fucking wretched world.