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Look into love languages. Some people want to hear a verbal expression of love, others want physical contact, others gifts etc
I hate the love languages stuff. Not bc it’s not true that ppl have different wants, but that shit changes by the hour.
I never thought much about gifts. They’re nice, but I usually just want to spend time with someone, not receive a toy
But I learned over time that those people give gifts because that’s what they would desire someone do for them. So it’s not about how the gift makes me feel, but what they wanted to express. Basically “it’s the thought that counts.” And in turn, if I want to express my love for them, a gift might be the right move even if it’s not my first choice.
Some of my loved ones bring a small gift (even just a bag of candy) on every single occasion.