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"Dangerous by default" is one hell of a thing to internalize ๐
Speaking for myself, it's more like "I know I can look intimidating, and I don't want you to feel uncomfortable, have a nice day". I know there's nothing wrong with me, but other people have had bad experiences.
It's a bit white knight core ngl. Personally, I do avoidance but it's cause I'm uncomfortable with the people not because I want to make them feel better ๐ญ
"White knight" indicates an unstated intent to build a reputation to eventually earn rewards.
Some of us just don't want to start shit.
IDK about "white knight"; I first heard the phrase "dangerous by default" from a black man recounting how he got nervous being on an elevator with a white woman.