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saying I love you as a reflex is not feeling love.
If that's the way you feel, your relationship sucks.
I've been married close to a decade and we mean it even if it sounds casual.
I have been married 24 years so take that what you may. One reason my wife like me is because I show love more often than say it and vice versa.
Saying "I love you" as a reflex is an indication that you're surrounded with love so much of the time that instead of having to consciously think about whether love should be expressed, you instead have to consciously think about whether love shouldn't be expressed.
It means you are surrounded by phrases of love. Love expressed so flippantly has meaning equivalent to I love chocolate.
You're the one in the flippant relationship lol, do you not see how much projection you're doing rn? You're a goddamn overhead with the wet-erase markers
I think you are extrapolating a lot of information that isn't there. You should reflect on why that is
Damn bro are you okay?
I think you have some issues to work out, man.
Feeling the need to end all conversations with "I love chocolate" likely means that you really love chocolate. Most people don't express love so often that they do it accidentally unless they feel it so often that they'd want to express it at the end of most conversations.
Counterpoint: love deserves reinforcement, and for many people the seemingly trivial task of appending it to a verbal statement - our most basic form of communication outside facial gestures - serves well enough if you know the foundations of your love are good.
You may not see it that way and you may feel different, and that's fine. But this is clearly an issue for you and your partner(s), not us.
this I get but I do worry about those folks as I think they will fall into the trap of looking at words of love rather than actions of love.