(Not using my typing quirk causes me dysphoria. I will provide a translation upon request only.) ~ The reason why I joined this instance was 8ecause I've 8een kicked off of Tum8lr for having the opinion that transness doesn't just apply to gender. I don't just pull this out of my ass - I actually experience nongender transness myself and I'm fully willing to 8e asked and/or grilled a8out it. I call myself transcharacter.
My Tum8lr termin8ion came entirely from claims of transpho8ia, 8ecause somehow in their minds identifying a8normally equals not supporting trans folkel/people? I don't quite understand how that works, 8ut I can say I'm not transpho8ic. I discovered that I feel this way through hearing other trans folkel/people discuss their experiences and came to my own conclusions a8out myself.
I guess I'm wondering if this is a safe space for my ilk or if I'm just going to get kicked out again?
Yes you can. Respect of identity isn't contingent on understanding. You can ask for information to help you understand, but you can't demand understanding before granting respect. If you don't believe someone's identity to be authentic, then don't interact with them rather than normalising invalidation.
Would it be better to say "I'd be more comfortable and understanding of your gender identity if you explain it to me in more detail."?
Not really. You can ask someone to explain to help you understand, but they don't owe you comfort or understanding. They should have your support even if you don't understand.