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i suspect that being brown, autistic and queer did it for me since this trio guarantees that i will never fit into the dominant social groups within this country.
I can relate to the autism, and political theory is definitely a special interest of mine. Neurodivergency alone was enough to make me feel completely alienated from my family and broader social group.
same here with my family; half of them are white-passing that they've all intermarried with maga-white people.
and i know it's the maga thing because my extended family is not white-passing and they accept me and my political views without conditions.
I was literally thinking recently that all the evil shit that's been done to me has been by white cishets. I'm white af, but this slow realisation has certainly pushed decolonisation theory on me.
Sorry though, your experience is certainly much harder than mine.
and there are others who have it worse that i do, so i don't think it's entirely about hardship.
for me: i think it's about experiencing being a stranger to the "tribes" that the people who were close to me belong to. eg. my white-passing family members discluding me from the families they've started with maga-white people; or the leftists groups being wary of me because autism-affected socialization makes them suspect that i'm an infiltrator of some type; or autism support groups that think that i'm not "autistic enough".
don't get me wrong: hardship is definitely part of it; if i had a thousand dollars for every time a manager or interviewer suspected that i was incapable of doing a job because of how i look and/or how i think, i would be a millionaire who wouldn't need to work.
i think it's understanding (or atleast being aware) that social and political hierarchies exist and are perpetually on-guard for outsiders. after all: there are maga brown/black people and gay republicans who are clueless about their places within these hierarchies.