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TenForward: Where Every Vulcan Knows Your Name

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 month ago (6 children)

There are tons of reasons why one might not want to change their name. At a minimum you have to send a form to the state, update any licenses you have, contact your banks, your insurance, your place of work... Best case scenario it's an annoying hassle to deal with.

Was I appreciative when my wife took my name? Sure. But that's mostly because we also share the same first name so it's hilarious to share the same last name. But I told her many times before we got married she didn't need to do it. I never expected that out of her.

If having a matching name is a big deal with you, then you can change your name.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago

My wife meant to take my name, but then we never did the paperwork. So we just left it.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 month ago

If having a matching name is a big deal with you, then you can change your name.

'Why should I have to change? He's the one who sucks!' -Michael Bolton

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

It seems reasonable for each partner to continue to use their original family name if they want to, even if it's only the husband's name on the marriage certificate.

If you go down the legally hyphenated name path, after a few generations, this could potentially devolve to family names like: Jones-Smith - Smythe-Johns - Longbottom-Allcock - Junior III (etc).

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

I know a couple of hypenateds that got married. They picked one of the 4.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago

So curious what your first name is.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago

You both share three same first name as well? That sounds very confusing for your peers

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

Yeah my wife has agreed that taking my name would be nice, but it’s a pain in the ass. And omg yes I love your attitude. Part of why I wanted to share a last name is so we can be Ms. and Mrs. Lastname.