Off My Chest
RULES:
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1. The "good" part of our community means we are pro-empathy and anti-harassment. However, we don't intend to make this a "safe space" where everyone has to be a saint. Sh*t happens, and life is messy. That's why we get things off our chests.
2. Bigotry is not allowed. That includes racism, sexism, ableism, homophobia, transphobia, xenophobia, and religiophobia. (If you want to vent about religion, that's fine; but religion is not inherently evil.)
3. Frustrated, venting, or angry posts are still welcome.
4. Posts and comments that bait, threaten, or incite harassment are not allowed.
5. If anyone offers mental, medical, or professional advice here, please remember to take it with a grain of salt. Seek out real professionals if needed.
6. Please put NSFW behind NSFW tags.
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You are welcome to feel that way, and the rest of us are welcome to shun you for such bigoted generalizations.
Disentangle the concepts of your personal relationships with autistic people that you work with that may or may not be assholes (I will take your word for it for the purposes of this discussion) from the concept of ALL autistic people or the rest of us will resist with force if necessary. The ideology you are espousing directly empowers violence and discrimination against autistic people.
This not a joke, bigotry against autistic people in my country is increasing rapidly and it is scary, I will defend my autistic community members without a care in the world for your fragile stereotypes you badly extended from anecdotal experience to talking about a wide swath of humanity.
Your work colleagues suck and you are a bad fit for them, move on, don't become a bigot just because you had a bad experience with a handful of people from an entire category of hundreds of millions of human beings....
You wasted your time committing these vile thoughts to words, your heart only meant them in the outburst of the moment to be empty expressions of frustration yelled at an empty field where you could get your childish immature hate out and let it whisk away into the air before it got it's talons in you and convinced you to harbor prejudice against others... and you failed at that responsibility the vast intelligence and empathetic capability of the human brain conveys to you. Do better.
I understand being upset by someone's words, but your credibility is on the line here.
Again, you're welcome to your frustration, but let's not sink to making baseless accusations. My original post wasn't edited, so the proof is right there. Please be respectful to me, and please be respectful to yourself by not destroying your credibility publicly. Have a good day.
That is what you did
I'm not who you responded to, but your thread title, without the additional context of a single line at the end of your post, reads exactly like generalizing your dislike of all autistic people:
"Autistic people are selfish and I'm frustrated every time I work with them"
Further, your entire rant is generalized to all autistic people until the second to last line of your post:
So your framing immediately suggests your generalized bigotry and you shouldn't be surprised that that is the message your audience comes away with that.
Do you not see the irony here of asking for being treated respectfully despite your failings in framing your post, when you're having difficulty expressing your position without it coming off as inflammatory? So many of your complaints are near the same failings as you have in your post as attributed to autistic people I'm not entirely convinced your post isn't some sort of meta-trolling to try to frame the difficulties autistic people experience. While I am not autistic myself, one opinion I've heard from some that are is they sometimes have difficulty working with other autistic people. I don't mean to be insulting, but have you considered that for yourself?
Thanks for your response, but I'm not empowering anyone to be violent. I'm expressing frustration. These are not the same, and frankly I can't believe you'd accuse me of it. Have a good day.
Read your words again, see the ways in which you are closing yourself off to a whole category of people.
Flailing out at mean as you succumb to simple attraction of stereotypes won't do anything for the health of your soul.
I was careful with my words, and I meant them. I'm sorry you were offended. "Off my chest" may not be a healthy environment for you if it makes you this angry. Best of luck to you.
I understand that you have a right to vent and be upset at people, but that doesn't mean that it is suddenly okay to perpetuate ableist stereotypes.
Look I'm trying to be understanding here but this community actually does have a rule against ableism. So we absolutely are not expected to tolerate ableism even if you're just venting.