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Autistic people are selfish and I'm frustrated every time I work with them (redlemmy.com)

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I have my own struggles with BPD and depression, and I know how hard it can be to meet others' expectations, especially when those expectations are not perfectly clear. Some days it's all I can do to get out of bed. I imagine it's just as hard for people with Autism to meet expectations of people who give ambiguous instructions, or are inconsistent with messaging. I'm guilty of communicating my needs poorly, and I understand that some of this frustration is my fault. But I am fucking tired of Autistic people ignoring what I say, interrupting me, asking me to repeat myself, cutting me off, throwing away my suggestions, and just generally being selfish in conversation. They're so demanding. I have two colleagues that I work with regularly that are on the spectrum and they're both a nightmare, I dread seeing them. I'd rather not work with Autistic people at all.

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 day ago

I understand being upset by someone’s words, but your credibility is on the line here.

I complained about the behavior of two people, not all autistic people. You accused me of bigotry, which would require me to have generalized all autistic people, which I did not.

I'm not who you responded to, but your thread title, without the additional context of a single line at the end of your post, reads exactly like generalizing your dislike of all autistic people:

"Autistic people are selfish and I'm frustrated every time I work with them"

Further, your entire rant is generalized to all autistic people until the second to last line of your post:

I have two colleagues that I work with regularly that are on the spectrum and they’re both a nightmare, I dread seeing them.

So your framing immediately suggests your generalized bigotry and you shouldn't be surprised that that is the message your audience comes away with that.

Please be respectful to me, and please be respectful to yourself by not destroying your credibility publicly. Have a good day.

Do you not see the irony here of asking for being treated respectfully despite your failings in framing your post, when you're having difficulty expressing your position without it coming off as inflammatory? So many of your complaints are near the same failings as you have in your post as attributed to autistic people I'm not entirely convinced your post isn't some sort of meta-trolling to try to frame the difficulties autistic people experience. While I am not autistic myself, one opinion I've heard from some that are is they sometimes have difficulty working with other autistic people. I don't mean to be insulting, but have you considered that for yourself?