A Boring Dystopia

I would of been in your situation if covid didn’t happen and put me around 80k in the hole next to a government that refused aid to me.

Yup, living my best life after getting married. Two kids, two cars, and a house in the suburb. I worked my ass off through my twenties and only in my mid thirties did it start to all come together.

Why is it all so great? Wife had a windfall from her mother who died from cancer as well as from her grandparents who passed away soon after. Bittersweet, mostly bitter. It doesn't feel right to me most days, but at least our children have a good chance to get there faster than we did. For us we don't have to worry about retirement as long as we keep that money invested, and the world doesn't go sideways.

I think if childcare and college were free people could basically have the same benefit. That money can go into retirement and a mortgage instead.

Im like you, doing pretty well. The only way this was possible is we have no kids. Kids would have killed us financially and I would be hand to mouth for the rest of my life. Fuck you capitalism, no future labor to exploit from me!

You're literally in such a small minority in the US it's not even funny.

Congrats, you're above the curve. For now.

How do you think you will do with a decade of 30% inflation?

There are plenty of people in your situation (I'm also one of them), but the fact is that (unless you're at the very top of the pyramid) nearly everyone (including people like us) is a bit worse off than they would have been at a comparable stage in life 30 - 60 years ago.

I had to work hard and make sacrifices to make it, however with my qualifications my parents (and even moreso my grandparents) generation would have just walked into secure, high-paying jobs with real prospects of advancement. Instead I've got to constantly be switching jobs and looking out for myself in order to not fall behind. I know the rules of the game, so I do what I have to do.

Now just imagine people who 50 years ago would have been 'making it with sacrifices and hard work', since (virtually) everyone is now a bit worse off, their situation has shifted to 'underwater despite sacrifices and hard work'.

TLDR: The average millennial is poorer than past generations and it's harder to make it than before. This doesn't mean that there aren't large amount of individual millennials (like us) who DO make it, although even for this group (unless they are at the top of the pyramid) it's harder than before.

Well, that's great. It's very easy to make this about you and fail to see what many others face. I hope you never have to face the brutal hardships caused by not being in the right place with the right connections and the other life circumstances that can lock people into a life of deeper or generational poverty. But it could be the tide just hasn't risen to a level with your head barely above the turbulence stuck treading water with no way out. In an instant, everything could get turned upside down and through no fault of your own, now the world is a different place all of a sudden. But it's not any different, you've just joined the millions of others who got the rug pulled from beneath them earlier than you.

I too have been quite successful in life through hard work, discipline and the right life situations that gave me the opportunities to carve my own path in life doing what I love. I can still see how things have collapsed and I would never question the validity of the millions of others simply because my life experience has been different. This alone makes you venerable to being pushed to the front of the line next.

Millennial here. Doing alright. SINK tech worker with no pets.

Was sort of on a track to retire at as early as 45, though recent inflation has made me rethink how much I need saved.

I bought my condo, 1 bedroom + office, in 2016, and it was within my budget and was slightly bigger than apartments I had rented in the past. Back home though I could use my parents garage when needed.

Now I feel somewhat trapped because to get even a small place with a garage (I miss working on my car myself), is prohibitively expensive given how interest rates and house values have changed. Sure my condo is up quite a bit in valuation (something like 50% increase in the past 8 years), but homes have gone up quite a bit more, like 100% increase in some cases. Also my HOA dues just keep going up too, and we don't have a pool or anything crazy. Not to mention developers in the area grab up small starter homes before they can hit the market, bulldozer them, and drop a mansion on the same land that is completely unaffordable for me.

So my options are stay where I am (and it's fine for now I guess), or move and expect to have to work much longer, and have a longer commute.

Pretty much checks all the boxes you said. No debt except mortgage. Emergency fund. 401k. HSA. I'm not house poor. These days I can afford pretty much anything I could want in life except for a slightly bigger house :p

But I look at how prices are changing and I'm still worried for the future. Ideally I live another 60 years. Statistically another 40 or so. That's a long time for high rates of inflation and greed to change things.

Edit: also with all the tech layoffs happening, there's just an underlying sense of gloom. I've been laid off twice throughout my career. Once it took me something like 6 months to find a job. The other time a little under 2 months. Not fun though.

I'm a very late Gen X, my wife is very early Millennial, most of our friend groups are a similar mix... And we're in the same boat as you. I paid off my student loans last year, my mortgage is bearable, I got laid off a little over a year ago but had the savings to bridge the gap until I found a new job (and landed in a better paying position), and just got back from taking my family to Disney World for a week. But I spent most of my 20s and into my 30s eating ramen, saving up to go to maybe 2 concerts a year, asking my parents for gas money, and truly living paycheck to paycheck. Gradually it got better, but I was lucky to not get sick, injured, or addicted and I do acknowledge just how much of my current situation is due to luck, but I also had to put in plenty of hard work.