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I've never really felt fully comfortable being open about myself on big platforms like Reddit, but on here it feels a lot safer, especially since adopting better digital hygiene.

So I'm just kinda saying it explicitly for the first time that I'm a trans girl. I like myself, I like my body, even if it's not perfect yet, and I like being pretty. I'm even slowly coming out more and more in real life too! Idk, everyone congratulate me or something haha

Things are hard, but I like how accepting the federated side of the internet has been so far to me.

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago (11 children)

You can be a biologically-male woman all you want, that is your choice and your right, but you need to make sure not to give kids the wrong idea because they are young and impressionable and it could make them confused. Boys need to understand that they are not women and will never be women, their role isn't to bear children, it's to meet a woman and be the father of a child.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago

Why would you feel the need to type that out in a tread where a woman is just trying to express feeling happy about something that has nothing to do with anyone else?

[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Yeah let's focus on trans people, and ignore all the religious bullshit we feed our kids, or all the violence we show them. Its mind boggling how Americans are afraid of some nudity, but simultaneously show kids cartoons where violence and murder are just normal.

I worry about the poor boys that don't like women and have an idiot like you as a parent.

I have a boy and trust me boys are not growing up thinking they are women. There are more people in jail/prison in the USA than there are trans people, so now all boys are growing up confused thinking they should be in prison?

[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago

Agreed on basically all points, but tbf there are more people imprisoned in the us than an awful lot of more popular categories than trans folks.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago (1 children)

@[email protected] You got no arguments because you know it's true

[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago

No??? I don't need arguments to know it's not true You're just lying to yourself about gender-related things

[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago

Making entire account just to hate on other people looks like a very sad way to spend your time.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago

Your role in life is whatever you define it to be. Whatever makes you happy.

Would you say any infertile woman is not a woman? Did they fail life because of it? Would you say people that don’t want children are neither men nor women? Is there a difference between being female and male? Sure! But not being able to bear a child doesn’t disqualify you as a woman. Gender is just a construct society made up.

It’s good to question your identity, so you can be who you truly are.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

So what is your take on when someone with XX chromosomes experiences standard expression of FOXL-2 for part of the gestation, but stops functioning before finishing primary sexual characteristics?

How does that fit under a biological classification? Are they meant to bear children? Be a father? Will they ever be a boy? A woman?

Furthermore, are there other genes that inform your thesis to the above statements? How would their expression through developmental stages possibly affect the expressed sexual characteristics in both normal and impeded function?

[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago (2 children)

Fuck off TERF. Weak ass sorry excuse for a vegan.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago (1 children)

You're arguing with a troll lol.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago

Oh I know. But taking abuse and letting off steam is the only thing TERFs are good for in this world. So why not take the opportunity :)

[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Ooh I struck a nerve didn't I, keep coping loser 🀣

[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago

I am sure you struck several nerves in your head repeatedly to be filled with hate like that.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago

You can be biologically-homo sapiens all you want, but you should grow up out of your delusion that you're mentally capable to do anything other than peeling potatoes.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

Dude what is wrong with you?

If someone wants to transition then let them transition. It's not brainwashing children considering there's many people in their lives for them to look up to and make their own decisions based on.

Also, men have no obligations to be fathers, nor do women have any obligations to be mothers. People are allowed to be happy, and not act like animals, constantly breeding for the sake of continuing their lineage.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Oof your comment is wrong in sooooooo many dimensions

[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (4 children)

Nothing I said is in any way wrong my dear. A man's role isn't to bear children, it is to meet a woman and father a child with her. I don't know if you noticed but we aren't capable of bearing children, we're not seahorses, we're mammals, and in mammals the females bear the children. It's just basic biology my man 😎

[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

You clearly know nothing about biology, otherwise you would know Biological sex is largely a Myth.

To summarize:

  • Chromosomes don't mean shit: People exist with XY chromosomes who present outwardly as females.
  • Genitals don't mean shit: 2% of humans (2.8 million per year) are born with ambiguous genitalia.
  • Hormones don't mean shit: Testosterone levels overlap between males and females.
[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago

The man's "role" is biological and infallible, you make it sound like it's so inflexible. But it's also so delicate and so easily influenced that children might be confused. How can it be both?

Is it actually about children instead? Well it's no one but the parent's responsibility to teach the child, right? So stop telling other people how to live

[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago

A woman is a lot more than a just bearer of a child, you fucking delusional piece of rat shit. I am confident this incel created this account solely for the purpose of trolling.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago (1 children)

basic biology when advanced biology walks in 😎

fr tho being female/male/intersex should not ever dictate who u get to be as a person and what ur societal roles are allowed to be. fuck that ancient conservative belief and just accept us for being who we are.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago (3 children)

Do you really want children to be confused and mutilate themselves under the false idea that they are girls when they're really just using their imaginations?

[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago

Kids do not care. They need to be taught how to be bigoted.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I reject the premise that a child can be momentarily confused and end up getting full gender reassignment surgery. That's just conservative fear-mongering that is willfully ignorant of all that's involved in gender-affirming care.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Not momentarily confused, I mean deeply confused for a long period of time, are you deliberately misunderstanding me?

[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

And being "deeply confused" for a male child means not wanting to act out the traditional role of marrying a woman and bearing children?

From your original comment:

You can be a biologically-male woman all you want, that is your choice and your right

But then you say:

Boys need to understand that they are not women and will never be women, their role isn't to bear children, it's to meet a woman and be the father of a child.

So which is it? Is it the right of any person to identify as they choose, or must you act out the traditional (conservative) gender role predetermined by your biological sex?

[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago (2 children)

It is imperative that one have biological children to help carry on the species.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago

Biological children, huh... You must be especially triggered to spam like an idiot, you little snowflake. As if you'd be anything but a temporary inconvenience.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago

That's a fine perspective to have, the moral imperative to have children is a common enough feature of various religions and cultures. It is, however, just one perspective. One which you have no right to force onto others.

Here's my perspective:

Every person has the inalienable right to self determination. One's body is inviolable and subject to one's own will alone. Having children is a personal choice that no one else can decide for you.

You are entitled to your opinion just as I am entitled to mine. By all means, be fruitful and multiply, but don't demand that trans people hide themselves from children because you're afraid of the ideas they might have. If you agree that people have the right to choose then you should have no problem with it being an informed choice.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

no, i dont. and thats why i support trans kids instead of forcing them to live as who u decide them to be based on their fucking genitalia alone.