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Okay so what's going on in this thread is that I assumed the point was to help people, and you assumed the point was to lose weight. And I think that illustrates what Health at Every Size means perfectly. HAES is about helping people, and the people complaining about HAES aren't interested in helping people, they only want people to lose weight.

Always has been, as someone with a grass allergy. I fucking hate grass and I hate touching it. No, getting the sniffles will not improve my mental health. But it might make me puke up my lunch, thanks to a little thing called a post-nasal drip caused by long covid.

Lawns aren't some great mental health boon. They're a symbol of petty bourgeois waste and excess pushed by the racist suburbs that invented them to keep black people out. TL;DR: grass is racist.

Also outside is where we trans people get hate crime'd. Fuck that place, and telling us to get off the internet is imo violent speech. The internet is the only place where many trans people are gendered correctly and allowed to be themselves. Lower internet use for trans people leads to higher suicide rate.

Also what if someone wants to be fat? "No, you're not allowed to look how you want to look. You have to change your appearance to fit in because uhhhhhh you need to go produce more labour value for Capital.

Fuck that shit. It's fashy as hell. Also transphobic vibes tbh.

Nothing beats CI/CO ever, no excuses, nowhere in the universe. It's thermodynamics.

I got something that beats CICO. And it's called addressing your specific health concerns instead of just dieting.

You've got poor heart health? Cardio will help you more than fasting.

You've got diabetes? Limiting sugar intake will help you more than restricting everything.

You've got depression? Antidepressants or going outside will help you more than losing weight.

You've got a broken arm? Rest and a sling will help you more than losing weight.

HAES is about actually fucking treating your health problems at whatever size you're at, instead of blaming it on your weight and continuing to fail to lose weight.

CICO ain't worth shit if the patient can't lose weight. And if you're thinking "it's just a matter of willpower", well tough shit, people have limited willpower. And being sick doesn't help willpower either. It's way more likely for someone to get healthy at their current size, see a willpower increase, and then lose weight, than it is for a sick and suffering person to stick to a diet, lose weight, and then get healthy. HAES is about doing it the right way around, the way around that actually works.

That's completely not true. Yes, dismantling capitalism is the most important thing we can do to reduce the impact. But you're using some really strong words there. If I ride my bike to work instead of taking a car for one day, that'll reduce the CO2 emitted by about a kilogram. That one kilogram might reduce the severity of some hurricane enough to save a life. And yeah, it probably won't. But what about a year of riding my bike? What about a lifetime? What about installing solar panels at my house? What about not taking a flight? What about eating a vegan diet? Put all that together, I can probably save a couple lives in my lifetime compared to if I just consoomed. And yeah, in between all that, I'm on the streets volunteering for anarchist orgs and building systems to dismantle capitalism.

But the way I see it, fighting capitalism is like trying to win the lottery. It probably won't work in my lifetime. It almost certainly won't stop the climate crisis in its tracks right now. Making these changes in my own life makes me a healthier person with more money and a lighter conscience, and it's guaranteed lives saved. So I'm gonna do both. I'm not gonna bet on achieving communism and only then going through the degrowth that's inevitable anyway. I'm going to degrow my own life right now, so at the very least I'm ready when the communist revolution is complete and it's time to ban cars, and if communism doesn't happen before I die, I can still say with certainty, "I was part of the solution".

But that's not what's happening here. Blue is explicitly against telling Red what the problem is. You're changing the subject to a hypothetical nobody else is talking about. It feels like you just want to invent a scenario where people who empathize with Red have to feel bad about themselves. Did a Red hurt you?

No, all pawns are trans. They can end up either as a queen or a knight.

Okay so the lesson to learn from the mainstream success of StarCraft is to put sexy submissive and breedable murderous bugs in your game

Using my sense of affective empathy, I see that you're scared of me because I'm disabled. Using my sense of cognitive empathy, I make an educated guess that you've accepted a bunch of stereotypes about disabled people as true without seriously checking them. Putting myself in your shoes, I can only imagine I would take such a confrontational stance with someone just for how they were born, if I was scared absolutely shitless. Drawing on my own experience as a person living with NPD, and factoring in your lack of experience, I don't believe at all what you're saying about neurotypicals having empathy for people with NPD by default and making a conscious choice to turn it off. I've been in thousands of situations where a neurotypical interacted with a person living with NPD, involving thousands of neurotypicals. I only know of one time you've been in such a situation.

Work on a mine site and get used to waking up at 4:30 for a 5:30 start to the work day. Then sleep in.

Sorry, but my empathy is very deeply impaired and there's almost nothing I can do about it. The empathy I feel for others is very finely tuned, I have plenty of it, I always know and understand what other people are feeling. But the empathy I GET from others is nearly nothing. I receive an impaired sense of empathy from neurotypicals. Other people with NPD have been very kind to me, but neurotypicals make a choice not to put in the 10% extra effort it takes to feel empathy for a person with NPD. That's why you think I'm toxic. You're choosing not to feel empathy for me. You're choosing not to understand the position I'm in, and so when I complain about a problem or try to fix it, you think I'm complaining about nothing.

The only thing I can do to resolve my problems with empathy is to campaign for greater recognition of the fact that we disabled people ARE people. Whether you choose to listen is something entirely out of my control.

It means she's transitioning femmewards. She wouldn't call herself something she hates being, now, would she?