I feel like people are doing a disservice by using the phrase "toxic masculinity"
You can't use that phrase without implying masculinity in general is a bad thing. Trying to draw a distinction between "masculinity" and "toxic masculinity" is using the same logic as the people that say "but you're one of the good ones" when they're talking to someone of [insert race, gender, religion, etc].
They're toxic people that cause these problems. There's nothing wrong with masculinity.
It's absolutely authoritarian. You're an idiot if you think otherwise. I'm not even going to offer an argument, you're just stupid.