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i know someone who is a native russian speaker and said they were “eating lunch” at 5pm despite already having eaten lunch. i was confused, and either figured they were having a second or late lunch, when i found this:

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 hour ago (2 children)

this lady who was my friend for a while is mean a lot because she has anger issues and is just a generally miserable, rude person. she is also autistic (i believe) like me, and gets overstimulated and is rude to everyone when they start talking all at once.

however, she is also especially cruel when she wants some sort of goal, and acts superior to everyone else. you’re a useless loser no matter how hard you try, and you are disgusting to be around. how dare you stand less than 10 yards from her?! you’re lucky to even be in her presence.

also, she is “always better than you” and cannot admit being wrong or take accountability.

 

how would you tell, since “narcissist” is used so often to describe a regular, typical asshole.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 hour ago
[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago) (2 children)

she called a friend of mine a “b*tch”, presumably because said friend wouldn’t spend time with her.

these people are nice to your face (and sometimes not) but will talk behind your back. also, they’re so quick to discard you but then lovebomb again.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago)

i’d assume she is, since she also pulls the “don’t leave me for these other people. they hate you, I heard them say it. they don’t understand you like I do, they think you’re different. an animal. they hate your disabilities” and also that she can never be wrong and nothing is ever her fault. suggesting someone might be better/at her level can throw her whole day off and cause her to hate everyone for daring to criticize her.

if she’s criticized, she goes quiet (probably mad). if she’s humbled (someone is more talented than her), she calls them slurs depending on if they’re a minority. like my friend is black and was more talented than her which humbled her, so she said “fuck you n*****r b*tch”

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

literally 1984

 

i don’t mean this to say that people with mental health conditions are all abusive, nor do i take your comments as a diagnosis, i’m more or less just curious. after all, only a professional could help the specific person.

i have been emotionally abused by someone. they can never accept their own faults or mistakes. telling them they made a mistake will set them off and cause outbursts of anger. they strictly adhere to rules and try to control people to follow a rigid set of them.

will often prey on weaknesses to make you stay with them because “no one understands you, just me”. discards you but comes back after a while and the cycle repeats.

often makes others feel bad about themselves, that they are the best/only good person and they should be the reliable one to come to when something’s wrong. in their eyes, you are worthless no matter what you do to change it.

 

for example, when i go to lemmy.world, i see downvotes, but here, there are none. i find that pretty cool :)

i want to be able to post genuine things without being downvoted to hell, even though they shouldn’t matter to me in the end.

 

i have a lot going on besides that. just broke up with a guy, realized i wasn’t even into guys (but it stung more that he didn’t pay attention to me/care regardless), then having some rocky relationships with my gf (open relationship) and long-time friend, the latter i’m cutting contact with. (meaning i will only talk to her if i have to or if she talks to me first)

with all of this, my anxiety’s acting up and i’m a bit (still although it got better) on edge.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

we are poly, kinda. the agreement is that we have to know the person and/or know about them before we can date them or it’s considered cheating.

for example, she has a gf. i know of the gf: i know she has one and i’ve talked to her before, so this is alright. she has spoken to my ex a little when i dated him (before i figured out i wasn’t into guys) and knows he dated me.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 days ago (1 children)

i have, she says she’s sorry but then continues

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (2 children)

she hardly ever talks to me anymore. usually she’s too busy to hang out with me, doesn’t invite me to play with her, and doesn’t seem interested when i wanna play a game or “forgets”. thank you so much, though 🫂

i try to be interested in her hobbies but she doesn’t pick up the conversation or “doesn’t see” my messages, and she doesn’t try to be interested in mine in return, usually I either get a “that’s nice”, she laughs at it, or is like “oh! that’s not…” or even just “… ok”

i should also say lately shes had romantic messages about guys but “can’t tell me” who she’s talking about. at first I thought she was referring to me. flirtatiously I asked, “who are you referring to 🤭” and her response was “i can’t tell you…”

she also seemed rather guilty and avoidant. i also found out she was referring to some guy and talking about how she wanted him to get her pregnant??

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submitted 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 

she’s just not a very active person online. when she is, shes only active in group chats with her friends.

usually, she talks about video games, and is actually offline because she plays video games almost all the time.

is there any way to salvage the relationship? she’s too focused on her interests to be interested in mine, and like I said, is almost always playing games so we barely talk aside from: “hi ❤️” “Hi sweetie ❤️” “hru??” “Good, just playing games, you?” “good :)) im listening to music” and then the conversation ends because she doesn’t message first and is busy with the other stuff.

(i have tried talking to her and she says she’s usually busy. shes either genuinely busy, busy with games, or in a bad mood and doesn’t feel like talking [sad/tired])

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 days ago

i know bilingual people who DON’T read english

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago

if no one sees this, try an advice community or an lgbt one (bisexual, lgbtq+, etc). like i said but i think u deleted it, he may not treat u like his other friends because he doesn’t view you as a friend ?

he seems to like u but idk if it’s platonic or not

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

hmm… is it possible he flirts with all his friends but doesn’t flirt with you because he doesn’t view you as a friend ?

just speculation, he seems to like you, but it might be in a different way than a friendship way from all i see in this post

 

I created [email protected] for the people who have crushes

 

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anyone who’s attracted to someone can post here :)

I’ve seen adults with crushes so…

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