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What generation are you? in c/[email protected]
[–] [email protected] 11 points 4 months ago (3 children)

Elder millennial here

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How long does it take for neurotypical (or just typical) people to get over a minor fight? (endlesstalk.org)
 

Tldr: my wife and I get into verbal fights quite often (once a month or so) I get over it in an hour and it takes her days. Both of us think that the other's timeline isn't normal. What's typical/normal?

I'm ADHD (my current therapist thinks it's AuDHD) so I'm prone to emotional deregulation and pretty crazy mood swings. I'm pretty sure my parents are somehow ND as well so I don't have the best basis. My wife is also ND, but it's audio processing not emotionally related

My wife and I get into fights and arguments sometimes over petty stuff. I feel I hear her out but it's difficult for her to listen to me straight through as I tend to take a while to get to my point. She interrupts me a lot with either snide comments or questions that if she just waited a sec I'd answer. This leads me to getting frustrated and raising my voice and yelling, which gets her pissed off and raises her voice and suddenly we're in a shouting match.

Eventually one of us gives up or realizes they're wrong and we end the fight and go to our separate (safe) areas.

After about an hour I feel I'm back to normal and can talk about other things. (We usually have something we need to do with our kids or work or the house that we need to communicate on).

My wife feels it takes her a day or two to come down from a fight so shes very short with me until that time, where I feel I can talk after an hour or so.... She feels that it's not normal to change in that short of time.

What do people think?

What's an idea you have that should be an actual thing? in c/[email protected]
[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago

Yeah. But she wanted to carry a really small purse that wouldn't be able to hold the foldable :(

What's an idea you have that should be an actual thing? in c/[email protected]
[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago (3 children)

After an impromptu upscale bar/lounge crawl with the wifey the other day.....

A shoe that can easily go back and forth from high heel/wedge to comfortable flats w/o much, if any, tooling or carrying around extra parts. She also brought a clutch purse

Wifey was dead the next day from foot pain of walking between places.

Hamas launches rocket attack on Tel Aviv for first time in months in c/[email protected]
[–] [email protected] 0 points 5 months ago

You missed it. I'm talking from the pov of Israel, not Palestine.

Hamas has it in their charter to destroy Israel and every other Jew in the world...

"From the river to the sea" doesn't mean "hey Israel, get off our backs" it means death to Israel. And when has appeasement ever worked?

You also never answered my question.

Hamas launches rocket attack on Tel Aviv for first time in months in c/[email protected]
[–] [email protected] 0 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (4 children)

Question. If a group of people raped and kidnapped almost all the women in your family and the family of all your friends in front of you and killed or kidnapped almost all the men. Leaving you as one of the few people left. Would you kill an innocent child to get to the people who did and planned this if it was the only way, or just say, "oh well! Guess they can get away with it, I didn't want to be a monster...."?

USA ADHDers. Anybody have luck getting their stimulants abroad? in c/[email protected]
[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

I'm not saying that. Just asking for myself. Haha

Is texting not a conversation, or is it just me? in c/[email protected]
[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

It's not just you. I hate texting in general unless it's for work. Usually if I'm running around on errands or a nice walk, I end up getting a text response to someone from an hour ago, and it boils my nerves that I feel I need to respond.

I'd rather be on a phone call to get all information in/out at once. Especially with wireless headset/earbuds

Though my therapist thinks I'm AuDHD. So that gives credence to your asd worry

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USA ADHDers. Anybody have luck getting their stimulants abroad? (endlesstalk.org)
submitted 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
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Having issues gathering vyvance, which is slightly working for me. A friend suggested that she has friends who can help get some from Brazil, where the DEA isn't down everyone's throat. Just curious about people's experiences

If we can ban trans medical procedures, why haven't we banned circumcision? in c/[email protected]
[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

It is a religious practice for Jews ... I completely agree with your point of it being a "health fad" for non-jews though.

My real worry with Google's voyage into enshittification (thanks to Cory Doctorow @pluralistic the term) is YouTube. in c/[email protected]
[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago

Ask any Dr who fan. The BBC did this as well back in the day......

Which album was a band's creative zenith/magnum opus before falling off? in c/[email protected]
[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago (2 children)

More popular, more commercially successful, and more accessible to casual fans. Agreed.

But for magnum opus, I gotta agree with the wall for a few reasons

  1. They made a movie out of it
  2. The ode to the intense para social relationships that revolve around stardom and how a truly crazy creative can take advantage of it in scary ways was not only true back then, but predictive of how much worse it would get in current time.
  3. DSotM always seemed like a lot of good ideas in an unordered list. I felt like they could be scrambled and the album would be similar, except for the first and last songs.. Meanwhile the wall tells a story of pain, alienation, search for meaning, lashing out, and then a quest for self-forgiveness.
The pirates are back - Anew study from the European Union’s Intellectual Property Office (EUIPO) suggest that online piracy has increased for the first time in years. In fact, piracy rates have bee... in c/[email protected]
[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Hmmmmm. Let's see here.

People don't like cable, because it's too expensive and inconvenient

People start pirating

People like having 2-3 streaming services that show everything, without ads, for much cheaper even combined than cable. They stop pirating.

People don't like having 20-30 streaming services that show only a little in each service, NOW WITH ADS!?!?! and that become MUCH more expensive than cable ever was.

People start pirating again......

I wonder what happened?!?!

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Do you basically get double taxed if you make non deductable contributions to a traditional ira? Why do it? (endlesstalk.org)
 

In the US, if you make a lot, are covered by a work retirement account or you contribute to a Roth, you can't deduct traditional ira contributions right?

So that money gets added to the rest of your traditional ira monies right? and then when you hit retirement age, you have to pay income level taxes on deductions on that already post tax money right?

Why get taxed twice? What's the benefit? +Not being able to touch it til retirement age.

Transition party when? in c/[email protected]
[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago

A trans friend of mine actually did this. After she came out publicly, her wife threw her a coming out party at their place.

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