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[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago

Comming from a simular situation. So the best I can give is my own story.

Nearing my 40s. More of a rimworld/minecrafter. Every day off work, every waking minute im in a game.

short version of a long story. I'm experiencing huge life changes. Therapy and friends convinced me to remove one of the major causes of my isolation. And with it going away I saw just how isolated I actually was all this time. I saw how badly it has affected me. The negativity is part of that. It's like a symptom of isolation poisoning.

I feel for the first time that I've wasted so much time. I didn't value making friends or seeking a life parter. Though having made a friend everything changed.

Honestly the desire to play games is fading and it now feels bad to play games all day. Making a real friend who is postive made me want to be more positive i leared that it's a genuinely good feeling.

Isolation is comfortable but it comes at a cost you may not see. It's good to go out and get some perspective occasionally.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 6 months ago

Often me. I make tools/interactions for learning management systems. So the back end is a thid party I have no controll over. Just take the api and make the magic happen.

You need me to save data somewhere but don't want to buy server space? Sure we can cram that into places it's not ment to go within the system. It will slow things down and likly cause issues but it's free.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago

It's been recommended on here a few times but I'm finding that Goblin tools the judge tool is pretty good. If thats not cutting it I just have chat gpt do the whole letter. I'd generate one from scratch or have it make my existing letter "more readible" and ask it to be "less wordy".

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago (3 children)

The frequent over apologizing was a thing I had issues with as well. I focused on stopping because I realized it can be negative for those you communicate with.

Apologies are hard to reply too. So if your apologizing all the time your are putting a burden on them to acknowledge it. This can strain communication over time.

Also, like other things, overuse of apologies weakens them. If your a little more picky about when to apologize it will make them more genuine. This is also why I avoid yelling and cursing. So when I do those things, the expression has some potency.

Lasty it's unprofessional in written communications. This is probably a more controversial opinion. But for the reasons above and because it can make your communication less concise. In the professional environment being clear and concise is more important then being polite. (Though you still need to be polite).

The added bonus is that doing this will make you sound more confident.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago

This game and the zoo one are on sale so frequently. It seems the sale price is the real price and the full price is just a made up one to make the game seem better.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 7 months ago (4 children)

I heard of this one. I can't help but think that this guy was just killed because it will be cheaper in the long run to excute him rather then pay to keep him in prison. I dont think this was about mercy, rehabilitation or justice it was about profit and the value of human lives.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago (7 children)

Guess the game.

Your friend has enslaved a local tribesmen and is having them craft a hat using leather made from their sons skin.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Also just being realistic those parachute are probably just going to be questionable bargin bulk buys. They'd be designed to be as cheap as possible while just barely passing legal standards. They never be maintained or inspected. And there's no way they support my 6'5" 300lbs ass as my frozen corps plummets to the earth below.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I like that way if thinking of it. I'm a big supporter of story based education so we can actually teach others with this idea.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago

Though I won't argue the truth on that in some cases it's not relevant to this situation.Your making a lot of assumptions here, and that might be my own lack of clarity in writing.

Intrusive thoughts do not represent actual conscious feeling, this is why they are so repulsive to those experiencing them. They can be sexual sure. Intrusive thoughts can also be extreamly violent, or just weird. As an Ace I really do not like sexual thoughts and the conscious part of my brain whould much prefer focusing on work or food.

We all do this to varying degrees. We can have fantasies about driving certian politicians into a slow chipper but that doesn't mean I actually want to harm people. Maybe you want to beat a man to death for cutting you off in traffic. I'd be much happier if my mind didn't go to such places but it does, in a more functional awake state the idea churns my stomach.

I do wonder if being autistic means we are just more in touch with, and more repulsed by, our Intrusive thoughts.

Also there is no females involved, I've never had intrest in men on any level but Intrusive thoughts don't really work in sensible way.

[–] [email protected] 36 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (7 children)

Half as interesting just did a video on this

https://youtu.be/3i_RyiQ3-Ak?si=DRWUQw0FHnHRDsts

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