Kendra

The reason I ask this question is that it seems like most people who leave Reddit for Lemmy—or the ones who get banned and then come here—got banned for some political reason. So it makes me wonder.

Also, not to mention, the content here is highly politically charged. Actually, I wouldn’t even say that. It’s just mostly political—and extreme.

In your honest opinion, do you think the Lemmy software was created as a place for political extremists to congregate, or was it legitimately made as a social media alternative to Reddit?

What’s your opinion? And what’s been your experience?

It seems like in recent years, I've noticed a growing trend of society, particularly in this generation, looking down on or outright vilifying femininity. Whether it's being labeled as "weak," "outdated," or "performative," femininity is often dismissed or misunderstood.

But why?

There’s nothing wrong with embracing femininity. Being feminine doesn’t equate to lacking strength, intelligence, or independence. It’s simply another way of expressing oneself, and it holds just as much value as any other trait.

Femininity is often about nurturing, creativity, elegance, and emotional intelligence. These qualities are not just valid—they’re necessary for balance in any society. Unfortunately, in an era where hyper-individualism and aggression are often glorified, softer and more traditional traits are sometimes seen as less desirable or even shameful.

To me, femininity isn’t a sign of weakness; it’s a choice and a celebration of self. It takes strength to embrace who you are unapologetically, especially when the world tries to diminish you for it.

What are your thoughts? Why do you think society has such a complicated relationship with femininity? And how can we push back against this narrative to reclaim and celebrate it?

Let’s have an honest and open discussion—whether you agree or disagree!

This happened last weekend and I can’t stop thinking about it. My boyfriend invited me to his company’s Christmas dinner and I was excited but also nervous. I wanted to make a good impression so I spent a lot of time picking the perfect outfit, doing my hair, and ensuring I was presentable.

When we arrived everything seemed fine at first. I introduced myself to his coworkers and they were polite if not a little stiff. As the night went on though things took a turn.

During dinner my boyfriend made a joke about my job. I’m an event planner and he works in corporate finance. He said something like “She just plans parties for a living while I’m out here making real money.” People laughed but I felt a lump in my throat. I work hard and I’m proud of what I do so hearing him belittle me like that stung.

I tried to laugh it off to keep things light but then he doubled down. Someone asked me about my favorite event I’d planned and before I could answer he interrupted saying “Probably one of those kids’ birthday parties. That’s her level of expertise.” Everyone laughed again and I just sat there mortified.

The final straw came during dessert when people were sharing funny stories. He decided to tell an embarrassing story about me that I’ve explicitly asked him not to share before. It’s a personal story from early in our relationship involving a mishap I had while meeting his parents. I was practically begging him with my eyes to stop but he told the story anyway.

I felt like I couldn’t breathe. Everyone was laughing, and I wanted to disappear. I quietly told him I wasn’t okay with what he was doing but he brushed me off, saying “Don’t be so uptight—it’s all in good fun.”

At that point I couldn’t take it anymore. I excused myself thanked the host and left. When he got home he was furious accusing me of embarrassing him by leaving. He said I made him look bad in front of his coworkers and that I was being overly sensitive.

Now he’s refusing to apologize and insists I owe him an apology for “overreacting.” My friends are split some say I should’ve stayed and dealt with it later while others think he crossed the line.

So? Thoughts ?

I started keeping a small drawstring bag in my trunk with backup essentials: socks, a toothbrush, a phone charger, a tiny first-aid kit, and a small blanket. It has saved me (and a few friends) multiple times when unexpected travel or minor emergencies popped up. Having a mini "just in case" kit can turn a potential disaster into a mild inconvenience.

Maybe they're too many lurkers. What do you think? Do you think content creators if they were on lemmy, would make lemmy better?

I’ve noticed that I feel confident and happy with how I look in the mirror, but photos often make me feel completely different. The contrast between these two perceptions is so strange to me. Is this a common experience, or does anyone know why this happens? I’d love to hear your thoughts!

Just wondering what's everyone's "NO WAY" in life