JackiesFridge

Oh wow you struck gold with that therapist! We need WAY more of him, but you're right it's draining work. Like just hanging out with a good friend will wipe me out, but digging deep into the root of someone's pain, over and over, every day...ooof.

I'm sorry your friend cancelled. Hopefully he gets over this bump and you can reschedule.

I am so happy to hear you have a friend who is willing and able to help you out! My partner and I have good days and bad days. She's usually more motivated, but I tend to be handier (when I can focus). I lucked out there I think.

Wouldn't it be great if we could get some mental health professionals who actually trust that someone is accurately describing what they're dealing with and how? Like - you can throw neurotypical-friendly solutions at me all day but there just might be a reason they won't work the same as they have for someone else.

Take care of you! Here's hoping for an uptick in The Good Days soon!

Love it! Minimal but effective.

Oh that's just awful. So any time you need to do Big Project, each smaller step is in itself Big Project and subdividing is off the table.

It also sounds like you're tackling everything without help. If you can stand it, would organising a group task force help? My partner (not me - I can't do people very well) got together with some of her more reliable friends and they will plan every other weekend to all descend upon one of their homes and spend about 4 hours doing What Needs To Be Done. It turns the activity into more of a social gathering, and they actually get things done.

Not sure if that would help with some of what you're dealing with. Also, I'm definitely not a professional so I can't really help, just try to throw suggestions into the ether in the hope that they might improve someone's situation a little.

🫂 Not a mess, you just operate differently to how you'd rather. Brains are wildly variable and affected by the strangest stuff. A trick that might work under certain conditions might not with others. Juggling moods, free time, seasonality & weather, finance ("can I afford to do this project right now") and all that other garbage is a whole task in itself.

That's when it might help to fall back on compartmentalising the task as others suggested: what is the next single step to refinishing the closets? Sanding the walls? Okay today I will sand one wall and then stop. Done. Feel like tackling a second wall after? Let yourself do that. If not, you are one step closer. Not up to even that single wall? Do future-you a favour and get your equipment staged to do that wall.

Small progress is still progress.

Can dimly remember what he looks like. Apparently he looks like someone's creepy uncle who was always doing sleight of hand tricks to wow the little kids

This can be dangerous, but sometimes I will force myself to stop short of reaching a good stopping point. Like, say you have to put up panelling, and 5 sections will cover a wall. Put up 4 panels and stop for the day. That 5th panel not being in place will drive you mad until you dive back into the project.

This will sometimes backfire, and I do have years-old half-finished projects that I've wandered away from

"We heard that song. Aren't they all just detachable?"

A: Not hate. More bewildered pity.

B: Not about how you vote. That's up to you.

C: In this case, proudly advertising that you support a garbage person after he's proven time & again he's a garbage person says a lot about your morals, or at the very least, your critical thinking prowess.

D: Joke explained; humour removed.

Why does this gem only have 3 upvotes?? Adding one.

I am so close to pulling into these people's driveway and asking "from whom? Taking America back from...?" just to watch them not want to say it out loud.

This will be interesting if allowed to play out. The president* is immune to prosecution, but none of his flunkies are. So he has to do every last thing himself because nobody is gonna risk their neck. I would pay to see that.