FriendOfDeSoto

Ich wollte meine immer schon mal grün streichen.

If you enter into starting a family, adding kids through whatever means, and you think this should not alter the relationship, you have another think coming. Kids are hard work. First your focus is to keep them alive and out of trouble. And over time this gradually shifts towards them not becoming a-holes. This takes energy and time, a lot of it. And that's the most common reason why some couples have much less bedroom fun. They're exhausted. They're stressed. People behave differently when they're exhausted and stressed. Raising kids is a marathon, not a sprint. Ideally, it's a series of never ending gut wrenching crises until they move out. And truth is it doesn't even end there. Some relationships handle this better, some don't. None stay the same. If you think that your current childless relationship is any indication of how this would work with children, and you measure it by loving attention and how much sex you're having you're looking at the sky to measure the sea level. Get your head out of the clouds. You have to look at how you handle problems under pressure together. How you can support each other and not look at it as transactional. If that works, you stand a chance of a less bumpy transition into a functional family life.

Of course, every relationship is different. There are many other factors that will play a part and make shit even more complicated. I'm fairly confident though that I'm more right than wrong here with my generalizations.

You couldn't survive such a radical personality change? Yours changed too. You will probably not win any argument on the assumption that your partner changed into a version is their folks while you stayed the exact same. You're just the frog in the pot who didn't notice it got hotter.

I'm a still married father of two.

But we already know what to expect thanks to Stormy Daniels.

It's where all good engagements start!

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No, I mean engagements to marry.

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Is it just me? It's just me, is it. Oh, okay.

qA fA qing plaH! Today is a good day to die!

I do not sense this. Your experience is your own. Just keep in mind you're looking at a sliver of the whole thing at the best of times. You're too tiny a dataset, especially considering you just made the sensible swap.

It would also make more sense to divide the day into something decimal but some base twelvers showed up first. It would also make more sense to stop using measurement systems where 12 hooplas equal 1 boink. The alphabet is just another thing like that. It's been stolen and rewritten and now we are stuck with it. You can write an alternative sound map to help new learners. But the 26 letter order is here to stay.

I get that. It's just the constellation of stuff here. Polish youths in considerate numbers falling in love with Russian culture is a bit like saying 9/11 firefighters are turning to Islam for guidance. Not that both scenarios would be inherently bad, they're just not very likely. That's why I asked for more than hearsay.

Can you back this up with anything but personal observation? There is nary a country in Europe that is under threat of a Russian invasion as much as Poland, now that they're already in Ukraine. Right wingers all over Europe are very pro-Russian - except in Poland. History looms large in a country whose neighbors split it 3 times. It's obviously possible that Polish younglings, unburdened with things like history, like the culture. You are well within you rights to separate the culture from its people's history or what the current government is like. But I have a hard time imagining this as more as a passing fluke at best, or propaganda at worst.

When you're using lemmy or mastodon, you don't have to use the website. You can use an app that goes from your fingers to the server without needing a browser and a website to exchange the information.

So most if not all the instances of the fediverse are also a website if you need to use it. But not every website is an instance of the fediverse.

But you had Facebook. That's as good as having it. They know you. Their grubby tentacles will never let go!

Whether you like it or not, they probably already know who you are too. They're collecting shadow profiles of people who haven't signed up through various means.

If others have posted pictures of you on a meta service, there is a good chance it already knows what you look like and they know it's you even if you're not tagged.

People who allow them access are just less work for them. And now they have info to train their so-called AI models. Now it's a question about what are they going to with them. The application is wide. Create fake pictures, create fake profiles, etc. And at some point we will find out about a massive data leak that happened because the company is run by unapologetic sociopaths.