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[–] [email protected] 1 points 8 minutes ago

Thanks for the read.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 minutes ago

Yeah, I'm not engaging with the bear vs man debate, lol.

I'm more concerned about how some reacted to it than the debate itself.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 1 hour ago)

Also, somewhat off-topic, but since you mentioned sharing important explanations to others, I have some that have worked for me. Feel free to disregard if they're not helpful for you.

What I personally found persuasive when speaking with men is citing the research that 87% of rapes against women by men are explained by repeat offenders, which is 3% of men. That means 5 out of 6 rapes are done by a very, very small portion of men.

And it might explain some of the disconnect. 95% of men didn't rape anyone, so they might be genuinely confused at the strong reaction.

I also explain that rape causes the equivalent of $122,461 in damages to the victims. This is just what is quantifiable and measurable via econometrics - the subjective damage is obviously much higher (and I am personally seeking reparations for much higher than this based on my own calculations).

5% odds with a random man might not initially seem that bad to some until I explain that it's equivalent to rolling a nat 1 in D&D. That and you are literally rolling a 1d20 for each man you encounter, so unless you only meet at most 19 men in your lifetime, you're expected on average to roll at least 1 nat 1.

I also explain that addressing rape culture benefits men, too. About 1 in 3 men are raped in their lifetimes, and about 40% of women blame victims and survivors (of all genders). Also, in the majority of states and countries across the world, it is not legally possible, either in theory or in practice, for cis men to be raped. That, and a lot of (anecdotal and not measured, but I'll be measuring this one day) individuals, both men and women, believe that as long as no penetration happens, it's not rape. This belief is not just used to the benefit of cis male rapists against cis female victims ("It's not rape as long as I don't penetrate her."), but also been used against both cis male victims and lesbian cis female victims (by other cis women).

Often times, the counterarguments I receive are against the impressions left by bystander intervention training. I actually suspect that bystander intervention training is at best a profitable way to exploit funds for victims and survivors, and at worst a covert sabotage to create a bad defense for addressing rape culture. We don’t have good evidence yet that perpetrator-focused strategies actually work, and most strategies that have been rigorously evaluated are not only ineffective at preventing rapes, but sometimes increase false rape accusations against black men and decreases women's empowerment by reinforcing harmful stereotypes. Please, please stop funding, promoting, or supporting bystander intervention training, or at least fund a randomized controlled trial (RCT) of a bystander intervention training program to measure its impact (and it would give strong, nearly irrefutable evidence in support of it if it actually works). As stated earlier, 95% of men don't even rape, so the training doesn't do anything for them. And for the 3% repeat offenders who explain 87% of rapes, well, I, and many others, suspect that serial rapists are probably not going to stop just because some training to tells them to. That, and ~80% of rapes are done by people you know, in private or secluded spaces. It's very rare for some random man to jump out of a bush and rape you then and there. Bystanders can only intervene if they are actually nearby.

I don't have the names of research papers memorized off the top of my head, but all of these are Google-able.

I did a lot of edits trying to recollect all the discussions I've personally had. Hopefully these cover 80% of those conversations.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 hours ago

Thank you. I was hard on myself, but the course was upfront that the exams would be challenging on purpose.

My understanding is that the grades are curved. I still feel bummed about the questions I missed, but from what I've heard from my classmates, I probably did relatively better even though I felt like I fell short.

The stuff I'm working on is too important for me to make mistakes, so I am especially hard on myself. I often feel like I'm the only one solving the problems that I am.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 hours ago

Thank you. It's been rough, but she's finally back home.

She lived 18 years, despite a heart birth defect. Most cats don't even live that long.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 hours ago

Thank you for this.

For some reason, I thought Lemmy had more women specifically because of how Reddit treats women. 😅

Still, it's not like people are incapable of understanding others who are different from them. I'm hopeful the men here will listen to reason.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 hours ago

Haha, no need to thank me!

It was more out of survival instincts and gauging my environment.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago)

LOL I hear you on that. 😭

Ah, I see. 😅 Thank you for explaining it. 🙏🏼

[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 hours ago (3 children)

Thank you so much for explaining all of this. 🙏🏼

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 hours ago (4 children)

Unfortunately, I don't even know what the argument is, so I'd need you to provide context.

I'm just trying to understand how irrational or aggressive Lemmy is towards women.

Thank you for describing the bear vs man thing to me. So it was basically a question posted on social media, and then the reactions to the question (and maybe others' comments) was divisive?

[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago) (3 children)

Oh dang, I was told it didn't matter which instance I joined. 😭

I chose it from some join Lemmy website.

Nothing on that website or on the instance sign up page shows the settings or permissions of the instance. It would be nice to view those before signing up.

 

Silly question, but I haven't seen these since signing up.

I checked my settings, but maybe I missed something.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago)

This.

I support AI, but I don't understand why AI bros are complicating things or making things all-or-nothing.

OpenAI had enough money to hire a hitman on one of their whistleblowers. They can afford to pay for content, lol.

 

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In 1897, the Indiana legislature nearly passed a bill, known as the Indiana Pi Bill, that would have declared pi to be 3.2.

The bill, written by a physician and an amateur mathematician, never became law due to the intervention of C. A. Waldo, a professor at Purdue University, who happened to be present in the legislature on the day it went up for a vote.

 

Genuine question. It seems like a topic that isn't discussed in-depth often anywhere I can find online.

To be clear, I'm talking about technocracy as in policies are driven by those with the relevant skills (instead of popularity, skills in campaigning, etc.).

So no, I don't necessarily want a mechanical engineer for president. I do want a team of economists to not tank the economy with tariffs, though.

And I do want a social scientist to have a hand in evaluating policy ideas by experts. A psychologist might have novel insights into how to improve educational policy, but the social scientist would help with the execution side so it doesn't flop or go off the rails.

The more I look at successful organizations like J-PAL, which trains government personnel how to conduct randomized controlled trials on programs (among other things), the more it seems like we should at least have government officials who have some evidence base and sound reasoning for their policies. J-PAL is the reason why several governments scaled back pilots that didn't work and instead allocated funds to scale programs that did work.

 

If there's a post you want to see, comment it here!

Feedback is encouraged. I welcome other views and want to build a community ran by the people.

I have a huge to-do list of several ideas to post here. It would be easier for me to prioritize them if you requested something you need this week, or something you wish existed that would've helped you recently.

It would also help others know what posts to create, especially if they have specialized knowledge.

 

On one hand, enforcing DEI and 'woke' activities will cause your uni to get defunded.

On the other hand, not enforcing DEI against anti-Semitism will cause your uni to get defunded.

Columbia University, an Ivy League that was fully compliant with dropping its DEI and 'woke' programs, still lost $400 million in funding due to failing to enforce DEI to address anti-Semitism on campus.

It's a catch-22: Damned if you do, damned if you don't.

 

Right now, it shows a generic error image.

Are there specific resolution requirements, or?

EDIT: It solved itself. I guess Lemmy lags a little when propagating new community icons/banners.

 

Been transitioning from Reddit, and Lemmy is such a godsend.

No more subreddit hoarding and mod abuse (mostly). The decentralization makes it nearly impossible to exploit and abuse.

I finally get to create a community that isn't a bunch of subreddits controlled by the same mod network. Working hard to build it up from scratch (and unapologetically taking inspiration from the good posts in each subreddit).

Is there a convenient way to find communities related to the subreddits I'm subscribed to, without manually searching for them? Looking for some kind of smart pseudo-import/export feature.

 

This guide assumes you are starting at the absolute bottom. Skip the steps that aren't applicable to you.

1. Find resources while homeless:

Research: Unfortunately, no research has been done on any programs at scale. Some 'housing first' organizations have shown promise, but there's very few across the country.

2. Find funded training for certifications in well-paying fields. (Varies by location.)

2a. Visit https://www.careeronestop.org/FindTraining/find-training.aspx

2b. Under 'Find Local Training', put your zip code and distance from the training program, then search.

2c. Check the box for 'WIOA-certified training programs only'.

2d. Some common certifications/sectoral jobs that MIGHT be well-paying (Varies by location. A lot. Choose a certification that makes the most sense in your area.):

  • CompTIA A+
  • CompTIA Network+
  • CDL (Commercial Driver’s License)
  • Pest Control Technician
  • CNC Machining
  • Diesel Mechanic
  • Welding
  • Supervisory Leadership
  • Phlebotomy
  • Certified Health Care Access Associate
  • Patient Care Assistant
  • State Tested Nurse Assistant (STNA)
  • Medical Billing & Coding (CPC)
  • IT Sector (Security+, Microsoft Certs)
  • Environmental Remediation (HAZWOPER)
  • Financial Services (FINRA Licenses)

Research: https://www.povertyactionlab.org/publication/sectoral-employment-programs-path-quality-jobs-lessons-randomized-evaluations

(WORK IN PROGRESS. UPDATING THIS POST LATER WHEN I'M FREE.)

 

1. Explore different interests before focusing on one.

  • Correct: Trying chess, trying basketball, taking an open online computer science course, cooking something new, trying tennis, learn how to draw your first digital art, learn the basics of competitive Street Fighter, attempt your first speedrun of a Trauma Center game, etc.
  • Wrong: Deciding you want to be a chess grandmaster WITHOUT exploring anything else first.
  • Research: https://characterlab.org/tips-of-the-week/sample-then-specialize/

2. Choose your Ultimate Goal in Life™.

  • Correct: After exploring several interests, you discover that you are persistently passionate about becoming a content creator.
  • Wrong: Graduating college (which is a great goal, but one that leads to your top-level goal).
  • Wrong: Getting 1 million Twitch subscribers (this might be an 'end goal', but your ultimate goal should be a journey, not a destination).
  • Research: https://youtu.be/NBgBy4vP_QE
  • More Research: https://characterlab.org/tips-of-the-week/step-by-step/

3. WOOP your life goal.

  • Video Guide: https://vimeo.com/262725813
  • Wish: What you want. (Your life goal.)
  • Outcome: Vivid details of the ideal outcome.
  • Obstacle: One (1) inner obstacle, something within your control, that is most likely to impede you from your goal. (e.g. Procrastination.)
  • Plan: If (Obstacle), then I will (Action). For example: If I feel like procrastinating, then I will shut off my phone and use the StayFocused browser extension to block out all irrelevant websites (YouTube, etc.) for the next hour.
  • Research: https://woopmylife.org/en/science

4. Use 'Expert Practice' to get good.

Video Guide: https://vimeo.com/797475870

If you are having difficulty brainstorming or connecting the advice from this post to your life, AI chats like duck.ai can help flesh out ideas.

And that's pretty much it! This advice is very generic to apply to as many people as possible, but if you follow these, you'll succeed in life.

 

Hey! New Lemmy user here. Happy to migrate from Reddit.

I created [email protected] so that others can seek and offer help.

I'm still hashing out the details, but this can range from anything to advice to wishlists to loaning/borrowing to fundraisers to literally anything else.

However, I will be putting in measures to prevent scammers from exploiting the community. From what I've seen so far, there doesn't seem to be a auto-moderator, so I'll probably need moderators to remove posts that aren't compliant. I also don't see a tagging/flair feature, so I'll work on a post title format for future posts.

 

This is a new community in the works.

I'll be creating rules on post formatting soon.

Until then, feel free to post anything you need help for or are offering to help with.

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