Blazingtransfem98

joined 1 month ago
[–] [email protected] 1 points 20 hours ago

I'm sorry I wasn't entirely clear, BIG server, with open sign-ups. The complaints about finding people aren't really valid when we have big servers like this one or mastodon.social. Such servers have the best reach and the easiest onboarding. Pick those.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 21 hours ago

Your example with YouTube is not an anti-spam measure, it's them trying to restrict and create exclusivity with their content, they're just lying and calling it anti-spam. I think it's better to have some annoying automated spam defense like Reddit and the gang does than it is to be judged on my worth and denied because I'm not interesting enough or meet some dumb criteria to join the exclusive clubs Lemmys are slowly becoming fuck that.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago

It is, I don't go on Reddit anymore, it's insanely toxic. I've gotten all I could've gotten from there anyway. I only use Lemmy nowadays.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I'm gonna need a source on that.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Just pick an open one, that's the easiest choice. No essays, no worrying about being denied, easy.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

Just pick one, you're thinking too hard. I just picked one that's open because I didn't want to write an essay about myself to prove my worth and get someone to accept me, because I know that there isn't any reason why anyone would accept me over someone else (I'm a nobody). I hate the idea of someone else having to review my worth before being allowed to sign up, what a disgusting concept. "Oh it's to stop spam 🤓" All the other sites have been dealing with Spam good enough without asking me to prove my worth to them, maybe the Fediverse should take some pointers from the big boys at Big tech, they seem to be doing better than you are when it comes to this.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Shoot him in the balls instead, where it really hurts. Headshot is too humane, ends his suffering, he won't pay for it that way, this way he will though.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 day ago

I've never been able to get it the official way because the perverted doctor and therapist I was seeing really wanted to see "a man pretending to be a woman" and required I dress and act like a woman to get it. I wasn't willing to humiliate myself for them (I still have dignity) so DIY for me.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 day ago

I have tried, I've tried for years. My voice is just too deep for it to sound feminine no matter how I speak, and it's not to say that I haven't been trying. I won't deny that I sound slightly more feminine than I did before but it still doesn't pass. Some people tell me it does but I do know they're only saying it to be nice, because anyone else will greet me as miss or ma'am when they see me but then change to sir when they hear me speak, even if I'm speaking fem.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 day ago (2 children)

You'd be better off simply buying extra on your own. I can't share where I get mine but I'm sure you could find a supply for you to stockpile in case you need to DIY in the future.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I think I'm the sad one, I wish I passed better. I pass alright from what people say but my voice doesn't. I've tried voice training but no matter what I still sound like a man (I asked outside opinions, people without seeing me said my voice sounded masculine). I wish I could get voice fem surgery so I could pass better, also bottom surgery since I hate those parts so much (not as much as I did before estrogen shriveled them up, but I still wish I didn't have things sticking out down below).

 

cross-posted from: https://discuss.online/post/12273255

I've only been on Lemmy a few days and I've already witnessed a lot of thinly veiled transphobia, anything from people dismissing the existence of trans people, to trying to claim we are predators. I've also seen people downvoted in the general communities for expressing trans support, or seemingly for no reason other than simply being openly trans or visibly queer. I know it's an ongoing effort to moderate transphobia on Lemmy, and the fediverse as a whole. We have to also address mentions of thinly veiled transphobia and transphobic users. Transphobia isn't just a differing opinion, it is a dangerous hateful sentiment which causes harm to vulnerable people and it needs to be addressed, at the instance and community level. We need to put in the effort to identify transphobic dogwhistles and language used by transphobes to eradicate this type of behavior from our communities and servers alike.

Some people will argue that the light stuff isn't something to worry about, but that's not true. This is a tactic they use to blend in with normies and make them think that nothing they are doing or saying is wrong. It's what transphobic right-wing YouTubers and Facebook users do to avoid being banned for hate speech. We are better than these corporations though, Fediverse is run by communities and for the users, we should not let these things slide as easily as Corporations do, they're in it to make money, we... We're in it to create a community for the users. Part of that means kicking out those who don't have all our best interests at heart.

 

cross-posted from: https://discuss.online/post/12273255

I've only been on Lemmy a few days and I've already witnessed a lot of thinly veiled transphobia, anything from people dismissing the existence of trans people, to trying to claim we are predators. I've also seen people downvoted in the general communities for expressing trans support, or seemingly for no reason other than simply being openly trans or visibly queer. I know it's an ongoing effort to moderate transphobia on Lemmy, and the fediverse as a whole. We have to also address mentions of thinly veiled transphobia and transphobic users. Transphobia isn't just a differing opinion, it is a dangerous hateful sentiment which causes harm to vulnerable people and it needs to be addressed, at the instance and community level. We need to put in the effort to identify transphobic dogwhistles and language used by transphobes to eradicate this type of behavior from our communities and servers alike.

Some people will argue that the light stuff isn't something to worry about, but that's not true. This is a tactic they use to blend in with normies and make them think that nothing they are doing or saying is wrong. It's what transphobic right-wing YouTubers and Facebook users do to avoid being banned for hate speech. We are better than these corporations though, Fediverse is run by communities and for the users, we should not let these things slide as easily as Corporations do, they're in it to make money, we... We're in it to create a community for the users. Part of that means kicking out those who don't have all our best interests at heart.

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