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I went quiet here for a long time because I was finishing my dissertation which I defended successfully!
I now don't have to work, come home and work, anymore. I am so relieved and have been sleeping like the dead for the past few days. I'm looking for in academia jobs and excited for whatever comes, wherever I end up.
I'm going to Tomorrowland!!!. So freaking excited.
That sounds awesome!
I got into the ticket sales after waiting almost 8 hours in virtual line. Managed to still get something close to what I originally wanted. Still pinching myself!
That's great. My coworker had been to one, as well. I want to go to one, eventually, but my money and time are already taken up with other shenanigans. I hope you have fun and stay safe!
Thank you!
Hello beehaw folks! First time checking in and saying hello here. My week has been a rollercoaster ride between children, work, and having too much else going on. My weekend was super busy, but I got the main things I needed to do done including removing and replacing 2 rotted fence posts, taking my youngest (3) to our first violin practice, and having a meeting with my creative team on our next steps (yeah that last one is intentionally vague, but it was a success so I am counting it). Hoping to more actively contribute here on Beehaw/Lemmy moving forward!
Rot is no good, sounds like a relief you got rid of that and a productive week overall!
You'll feel so much better once you get them out! My partner did last year and went from being sick half the yeat to getting sick once or twice. You have to go under full, so that was hard as they get a lot of nausea. Took a few days to heal enough to eat more than soup and ice cream. Overall, 10/10 would do again
Woah, okay yea I get sick a fair deal but now I'm wondering how much has to do with the tonsils
Hope you feel better. Someone needs to get me off Reddit for good lol.
I had my tonsils removed when I was in my late 20's and it was not the best experience, however I did have a strong support system in-place. I ended up needing to spend an extra day in the hospital, and my recovery was long. It needed to be done, however, my ENT said, "we had to stop surgery several times because of how bad your tonsils were. They were the worst I've ever seen."
On the good side of things: It literally changed my life. I had no idea how poorly I had been sleeping, and once I did have some healing, and started getting good, consistent sleep, many of the things I struggled with just suddenly disappeared. I didn't have the rapid mood swings. I didn't struggle with anger. I could think more clearly, and focus on tasks. Life was truly a fundamentally different experience for me.
I still have abnormally large adenoids, and have a handful of sinus problems (a different ENT said, "you look like a 12-year old in there" because of how packed the tissue is). I do not regret or lament the problems I had healing because of how different everything was post-surgery.
On the good side of things: It literally changed my life. I had no idea how poorly I had been sleeping, and once I did have some healing, and started getting good, consistent sleep, many of the things I struggled with just suddenly disappeared. I didn’t have the rapid mood swings. I didn’t struggle with anger. I could think more clearly, and focus on tasks. Life was truly a fundamentally different experience for me.
Interesting, thank you for sharing this.
Finally back on buprenorphine after almost 2 months of heroin relapse. Feel so much better already and I am glad the withdrawal stage before they give you the medication is over. Fuck. That. Shit. So. Much, it is so painful to wait.
Sorry you're sick! Hopefully it blows over soon
Bad.
Had endo appointment. Went terribly. Guy started yapping about emf and gluten and rice
This week started off strong - forward motion with the seed library project, and I managed to get another person involved in the project. Our daughter had her four month appointment yesterday, and the doctor was thrilled with her progress and remarked at some of the developmental milestones she's hitting months ahead of schedule. Plus they gave us a super cute tote bag full of books - we've done a hundred or so of the "thousand books before kindergarten" challenge.
But last night I got a text from my best friend on this whole planet that his mother, someone I call mom as well, is in the ER. She's got pneumonia now, as though Parkinson's and touches of dementia weren't enough of a burden. Other tests are showing that her kidney function is falling.
Her first home was firebombed because she had the audacity to teach impoverished children of color how to read in Alabama at the beginning of desegregation. She kept doing it. After she moved north she started a program for children on the spectrum before it was as understood as it is today - my friend and I and countless other people wouldn't have been the same without her skills and understanding. She took me in when I was kicked out of my home, treated me like her own child, and taught me not just skills to manage my own challenges but how to do right in the face of what's wrong. I wish my daughter could meet her and know her, to have an understanding of what it means to be a true force of good in this world.
I wish my daughter could meet her and know her, to have an understanding of what it means to be a true force of good in this world.
I've been thinking about this more and more over the past ten years. And I don't mean to diminish the importance this person had in your life and the life of others.
I believe most of us look up to people like her and Jimmy Carter for example. The mistake I believe most of us tend to make is we do not view ourselves as a positive force. To put it another way, we believe that we could never live up to all the good things these people have done. Basically, we beat ourselves up for not being like these people.
Generally speaking, we all can be a positive force in this world. It's just all the little things that we can do, in an entire lifetime, that adds up to a great deal of good. For example, when I'm out at the local grocery store I smile and say hello to random people. I engage in friendly conversation with the cashier. And then I say goodbye and have a great day.
I'm sure that we all can think of hundreds of other examples that seem small. However, when you do all of these little things over a period of many years it adds up to a lot of goodness and positivity.
<3 I have a hard time believing that a conversation between us would be intended as anything but constructive.
Despite being deep in the feels of the day, I agree with you; I try my best to be that force for good as well, and live up to being the person she and other people have believed me to be capable of. There are days it's difficult to see myself the way I view them, because of how well I can see my own faults and mistakes. That's not to say that they didn't have those same types of self perception, but those foibles seem larger when we're looking at ourselves, I think.
I have high hopes of being that kind of role model, dare I say, hero to our daughter. My wife surely feels the same drive in her own way. But there's something about having a grandmother figure who lived through desegregation and suffrage that seems, I dunno, grander (or at least more impactful) and it saddens me that she'll only know her through memories, rather than firsthand.
Few months ago I lost my job (don't pity me it is ok), decided that it doesn't make sense to look for another, roughly planned half year trip and tomorrow I am leaving.
So I am nervous of air travel, tomorrow I leave at 3 am, I can't sleep well and can't eat much because of my nerves.
Yesterday I had beer with my friends that I won't see for a long time, I said goodbye to my relatives and now I try to distract myself from thinking about it that much.
Yeah my week is going exactly as I imagined it would go when I started planning.
Half year trip sounds amazing! Where are you headed?
Madrid and then I will decide. I wanted to go to Valencia but it is still rough there after the flooding last year. Probably Gibraltar will be the rough next stop.
Madrid is great, but pricy! Check out 'Cheers' downtown, it's an awesome karaoke bar! Reina Sofía museum for culture fix, go check out the Picasso Guernica. Free on Tuesdays (I'm pretty sure) but get tickets in advance!
Valencia is OK right now, most of the flood damage was to the south/out of the central part of the city so there isn't any issues there, and it is a beautiful city with lots to see & visit. Rusafa neighborhood is the young, cool part of town (Trinity Vintage is a shop run by an American expat if you need someone to help get you grounded). Chinatown is great for cheap (but very nice) air bnb's....cheap because on the street level Chinatown looks ...meh. And if you need a spicy food fix, there are hot pots!
Both of these are near (both) train stations.
Feel free to PM me, my son lives in Madrid and we live south of Valencia... however right now our son is flying back from the US and I fly back next week.
I didn't mentioned it but I am bikepacking. So it would take me at least week to get there. I will be in Madrid till Monday and then I will go, I need to get some stuff sorted out before I start properly.
Best kind of travel is getting "lost" and wandering around places no "normal" tourist would go.
Have a great trip!
You made me reconsider my route! Thanks
I looked online and I will follow Camino del Cid to Valencia. If everything goes to plan I will be there in about a week.
Unfortunately I didn't see much of Madrid, was really jet lagged and tired so I slept through yesterday. Today I walked all day through the city and visited the flee markets and had more of a chill walk more than like exploring and getting to know the city.
Unfortunately I am more interested in little bit forgotten/undiscovered places, so Madrid is too crowded to my liking. But I will have to return here sometime to explore it better, right now I am in such mood that I just want to get out.
Grenada is a wonderful town, but a week there is enough.
Sevilla, though, as far as 'big cities' go is stunning and feels like a small town with all it's small streets and windey alleys.
Barcelona...you can pass on if cities aren't your thing...we also found it to be a less kind city.
Each region has its own special charm, and don't forget about the Camino Santiago- the accomodations along it are used to backpacking.
Ok I didn't slept since 6am yesterday, passed all checks (maybe) and bought duty free beer. It goes better than I thought, weird how the mind tricks you.
Oof, sorry to hear that. Lots of illnesses going around this time of year, which is expected, but Strep can't be particularly fun. Nor getting your tonsils out. When I got back from visiting my family for Xmas, I definitely picked up a little something. Had a scratchy throat, minor body aches, and a low fever. But it was gone within a couple days.
Otherwise, pretty chill this week so far. Unplanned WFH on Monday and Tuesday due to snowstorm. Then today (Thurs) is a paid "holiday" for Pres. Carter's funeral, and I took Friday off to make a 4-day weekend. So yesterday (Weds) was the only day I went into the office. I could've WFH again today, but thought I should make an appearance. Been a week since I was last in office, due to holidays, and next week I'm full WFH for online training. It was good to see people, anyway.
Thinking about visiting NYC for a day or overnight trip this weekend. I'd just take Amtrak up. I've been all over the States, but somehow never to NYC. So why not do something other than game and sleep for 4 days? Only thing I'm worried about is another potential snowstorm headed to the region. I don't want to get stuck in NYC if trains get cancelled for weather. But right now, the plan is to go. Just need to, you know, actually buy the train tickets and perhaps book a hotel room. The important things.
Damn I hope you get better soon <3 My week is going alright I have been playing minecraft and uploading medium length videos to youtube of the gameplay. At least I think its medium length I keep them just under 8 minutes because that is the minimum length for mid roll ads and I just don't vibe very well with advertisements in the middle of videos and think others should not have to put up with them either. The longest videos are at 7:59 btw so I think that counts as somewhere on the lower end of the medium spectrum for length.
Dang, I'm sorry about your tonsils! I have no useful input but I hope you feel better soon, strep sucks.
This week feels out to get me. My alarm didn't go off on two different days, I lost my comb, and work is awful.
The forecast keeps calling for snow and customers lose their everloving minds even though it never amounts to anything. Orders are almost two hours overdue and we can't get below 3,000 picks. The store is so crowded with all these losers shopping as slowly as possible and they won't get out of the way for nothing, so that gets us even more behind.
I got into another argument with my friend.
I know I'm probably the drama. I left the friend group since I was getting into drama with everyone except him, now it's just us and we're getting into drama. I'm aware I'm the common denominator here, and I keep trying to change, but all the changes I make are wrong.
I don't take his advice and it's disrespectful. I take his advice and that's too needy. I talk about my problems too much. It hurts his feelings that I stopped talking about my problems. Me saying that I have problems but refusing to elaborate is passive aggressive. (He's right there, lol. I was hoping he'd get the hint and stop pressing.)
I asked if I could bitch about something minor and he said yes, I honestly thought it'd be two sentences and I'd move on with my day. It turned into a big argument, then that somehow turned into a separate argument where he talked about what a terrible person he is for two hours while I failed to talk him down.
He hasnt talked to me since, and I have no plans to reach out. It's really weighing on me, we used to be best friends, I don't know what happened. I think I'm going to make my therapy goal to be someone who is even capable of interpersonal relationships, and keep to myself in the meantime
I don't know why, but I've been in a particularly good mood this week. My boss is out of town, which definitely helps, and Christmas went relatively okay which is nothing short of a miracle (only one person had a breakdown, and it was at the very end, and it wasn't even me!*)
In any case, I'm glad to be in better spirits after a really rough November and December, seasonal depression hit hard this year.
*For anyone curious (and because I feel like oversharing for once); it was my mom after I called her out on her complete lack of effort to gender me correctly. It was an accumulation of various other things going on in her life that triggered the breakdown; her mom's health is rapidly deteriorating and she's dealing with my very depressed younger brother who still lives at home. She took it a bit rough on the spot, but afterwards asked me to send her resources to learn more, she's been listening to a few podcasts hosted by queer people, and she says she looks forward to talking to me more in depth about gender. I'm lucky to have decent parents.