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There's so much doom on social media right now. The environment is collapsing. The economy will crash. Civil rights are ending. Democracy is dead.

What keeps you going? Why do you still get up and go do what needs to be done when the world seems to be ending around us?

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Touching grass. It's important to remember that the entire world isn't online and the world isn't as dire as all of us chronically online doomers would have you believe. Things are chaotic-shift-in-the-status-quo bad, not civilization-ending bad.

The wheel turns, right now it's in a muddy rut and the people on the bottom (sexually active women, people of colors, and the queer community) are drowning, but all the little people on the outer edge are eventually in the dirt. Fuck the world, fuck the country, the people you have personal relationships with are the only thing that matters because all we have is each other.

Personally I have been trying to be more proactive, which has helped me have a sense of agency amidst the chaos. Everything I own fits in my car in case I need to leave quickly because of a climate disaster or the legalization of hunting trans people. I haven't bought a new thing (used, diy, or do without only) since lockdown because it's significantly cheaper and makes me feel like I'm doing my part to fight final form capitalism. I've also been exploring alternate ways to support myself and live that are more sustainable.

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Jack Smith dropped the charges without prejudice so they can be re-filed the second he leaves office.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 weeks ago

I have to provide for my family. they must survive because without them, I am nothing.

And nothing is more dangerous than a person with nothing to lose.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago

My friends, family, drawing, having a nice home to live in, good food and fun stuff to do ❤️ I try and avoid negativity by searching for things I'm interested in to engage with, such as art, nature photography, cat photos, and videogames. Some websites let you tailor your feed to your liking!

[–] [email protected] 11 points 3 weeks ago (6 children)

My dogs. I stagger their ages so that I'll always have at least one and thus would feel too guilty to ever kill myself.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago

Ours are 11, 7, and 3.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

Nice. Mines about 3. Would you wait until 5 for a new one?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago

Depends on the breed / size of the dog. Large dogs have shorter lives. I like large dogs. About five years is a good age to get a puppy in that context. I wouldn't wait more than seven years.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 weeks ago

I work in disability support. Some of the kids I am working with have gone over the last year from non speaking to using sign and are making real meaningful progress in their self care skills. They can keep going in the face of difficult times, so my problems don't seem so hard.

Also, in Australia we have the NDIS, a system for funding disability supports in a socialised manner without restricting what options someone uses too much. While all governmental systems (or any systems with money) are susceptible to grift progress is being made on catching fraudsters and prosecuting them while also closing the loopholes they exploit. The NDIS will be around for a long time to come and will help Australians with disabilities determine their own futures and make them a reality. There are problems with it but honestly it has been a game changer and I think it is a model for the rest of the world to aspire to.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I keep hoping that everything is exaggerated and it won't be that bad. That he'll be out in 4 years and not become a dictator with no more term limits.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 weeks ago

If it helps, humans are really really really really really bad at predicting the future. We don't know what's going to happen until it does and even then knowing how that changes what comes after is still unknowable.

For example many of the promises Agent Orange made on the campaign trail would have disastrous consequences for everyone, which might be enough to shift the balance back by the midterms.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Donald Trump will die (don’t care if from natural causes or not) at some point in the near future. Just want to be alive to celebrate.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Reasons you can get banned permanently from reddit for $1000.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I want to watch him die. just to make sure the piece of shit is actually dead.

got my hopes up when covid got him. fat greasy mcdoublefuck still pulled through.

I thought I was devastated then.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 weeks ago

Look, I am as heartbroken as anyone that the two crazies that tried, missed (or never got a shot off). But that's something else. If you're not trolling, you should probably talk to a mental health professional about those feelings.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 weeks ago

Good thing this isn’t Reddit then

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 weeks ago

I don't know what will happen. It is as much a curse as it is a blessing. Uncertainty is uncomfortable for me, but that very same uncertainty is why I keep going.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

There is this video that reminds me that there is no natural law that determines that things will only get better. Yet we have to find purpose. I am not hopeful, but I am happy for everyone that tries to do the right thing. We're in this together even if everything goes to shit.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iJaE_BvLK6U

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 weeks ago

I'm sticking around to witness the collapse, in the hopes things go full mad max. Because that would be a better existence than the one I'm currently living in.

I'm not sure if I'm half joking or being entirely serious.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 weeks ago

lol "maybe she's born with it"

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 weeks ago

Personally, I turn to activism. I realized that regardless of how horrible the future will be, there's good to do in this world.

The world is full of people who are as scared as you and I are. I can make their lives a tad more positive.

The environment is collapsing? Educate and organise, think about how to build mutual aid systems and how to sustain yourself small scale.

The economy will crash? Help others, people who got thrown to the curb by the social system, homeless people, orphans,...

Civil rights are ending? I'm trans and scared. And there's so many other trans children that are counting on me to be the representation that I wish would have had when I was their age. I'm not going down without a fight.

Democracy is ending? Let's focus on preserving what we can and try to rebuild. It won't be over forever.

People being nice to and helping me often makes my day in an otherwise miserable time.I want to be that person for others.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

Over the past few weeks, I realized that I wasn’t reading the news to “stay informed,” I was reading it because I was bored. As a form of entertainment, it’s pretty awful. 99% of what I read will have no direct impact on me or my family, and just sitting there and worrying about it without doing anything to fix it serves nobody.

Also, I’ve learned to be skeptical of basically every headline good or bad. I saw a headline this week about how upset Trump supporters were with his cabinet picks. Comments in the thread were talking about leopards eating faces. The article was a collection of 8 tweets from supporters showing disapproval.

This news site was just preying on people’s hopes and making a story out of absolutely nothing.

So I started focusing on some personal hobbies and have tried to re-teach myself how to focus by reading some long form fiction.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 weeks ago

This is so true. MY eyes are now a commodity and I'm going to choose who gets them more wisely.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 weeks ago

Easy. The world isn't ending. Ignore the doomers. Problem solved.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago

My partner and her cat

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago

Oh I gave up like 15 years ago.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 weeks ago

In general, humanity (at least in Europe?) developed positively over the past few centuries. There were of course setbacks, but they didn't last too long and sometimes even lead to great progress. Nevertheless we must fight for progress and shouldn't give up just because the world once again seems to get even worse. Even more important when it comes to problems we have just a tiny period of time to fight against like climate change, we need to act now and can't waste ten years being (ruled by) facists.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 weeks ago

Antidepressants

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago

Strike that. Reverse it.

My lack of motivation prevents me from ending it all.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 weeks ago

My dog can’t feed herself. My family seems to like having me around.

Get off of social media. Other than here I really keep my news to computer stuff that interests me

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

That at any time I want, I can opt out.

I don't have to stay here and put up with the bullshit if I don't want to.

That's also a possibility where I could do something useful by taking someone else out with me, if I can manage to get it done.

You have no idea how freeing it is to be okay with death. When you cease fearing it and look at it as a welcome friend, everything changes.

Now it is important to realize that this is not a desire to die. It's simply accepting that death is inevitable, and that it is possible to choose when and how I die, if that's something that seems useful. Life isn't inherently sacred, there's no special glory in not dying, there's no particular benefit to sticking around other than more of the same that's already happened.

This means that every day is a choice. It's something I own. I have alternatives. We all do, but I'm aware of that fact in a way that makes even the truly horrible much less impressive.

Again, this is entirely different from wanting to off myself, it isn't depression. It's just the way I see things.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

Hunter S. Thompson carried a revolver on him for most of his adult life for that exact reason.

... He told me 25 years ago that he would feel real trapped if he didn't know that he could commit suicide at any moment. I don't know if that is brave or stupid or what, but it was inevitable. I think that the truth of what rings through all his writing is that he meant what he said. If that is entertainment to you, well, that's OK. If you think that it enlightened you, well, that's even better. If you wonder if he's gone to Heaven or Hell, rest assured he will check out them both, find out which one Richard Milhous Nixon went to—and go there. He could never stand being bored. But there must be Football too—and Peacocks ...

— Some friend of Thompson's after his death whose name I forget and am too lazy to look up (I have the quote unattributed in my notes on Thompson). But it's quoted on Thompson's Wikipedia if you're not as lazy, lol.

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[–] [email protected] -1 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

How did murder-suicide guy get an upvote?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

For giving an honest, on topic response maybe.

Don't be a dick

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 weeks ago

In these difficult times I find that all I need is spending some time with my loved ones, enjoying my old favorite media and games and sharing them with my daughter, and nightly cuddles from my beautiful monster of a cat while I read web serials to unwind.

Well, those things and also cannabis and escorts. And pizza. Keeps me going.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I have a teenage son - a wonderful kid who keeps me going.

Not sure what I'm going to do in my dead marriage after he moves out.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago

Having children leave the house is a re-defining moment, just like establishing a family in the first place. It's scary, but it comes with all kinds of possibilities as well.

It sounds like you did a good job on reinventing yourself as a parent, of course trusting your judgment that your kid is indeed wonderful. But the fact that you love him enough that it keeps you going probably counts as further evidence that you're not doing so bad.

You'll manage to reinvent yourself again. And if you can't do it in your marriage, there's no shame in doing it outside it.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 3 weeks ago

Study of history.

People have been prophesying the end times for millennia now, for this reason or that reason. I think that ultimately they just don't like the basic fact that change of some sort or another is inevitable in the world, it will not remain static and no system or institution will last forever. This does not result in any concrete end, however.

To quote Morpheus, "I remember that I am here not because of the path that lies before me, but because of the path that lies behind me."

There's also a fair bit of profit-driven exaggeration in just how bad things really are in certain arenas. Bad news makes good clickbait, good/neutral news less so. So the ratio of bad to good news we receive is not actually representative of the full picture of what is happening in the world.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Setting aside my depressive episodes and a few signals of impending doom, I look out my window and see a world that is still generally okay around me. That tells me I'm still in a position to go out and try to improve things.

For instance, my family and I got through COVID. To me, that's a kind of privilege, because I certainly know others who weren't so fortunate. So I'm doing my part to ensure another pandemic like that doesn't happen again, or at least isn't so impactful.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 weeks ago

The other night I saw the stars in the sky and thought about how little my problems actually seem.

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