Microblog Memes

Have you asked him how often he thinks about wearing women's underwear?

You doing things for you is fine.

It's when other people need to change their behaviors that it becomes a problem.

I need to feel ~~like~~ a man

Redo their own plumbing, twice. Once to change things and again to fix the problem they caused.

I'm in this comment and I don't like it.

With the plumbing example, the first time was a training exercise and doesn't count.

Some women are the most toxic perpetuators a patriarchy in a backwards way

because its not only men perpetuating this shit, some just put up with it and guide younger women on how to gently move things along and the flimsy little dude forgets and gets mad about the next dumb thing. Literally my parents...

A lot of it is centered around achievement and feeling useful, so building or fixing something, physical activity, being seen as a provider etc.

It's why men with families etc take being made redundant quite badly, not being able to provide for your family can really make you feel like a failure.

When you take your shirt off, you lift something real heavy, open a beer without a bottlecap opener, and high five somebody and it hurts then you should be activating all the correct masculine endorphin triggers. A lot of it comes as a response from high testosterone hormone levels.

I’m stumped at the simple task of trying to imagine what does imply to “feel like a man”.

I feel like a man when I know I've met all of my responsibilities to myself and the ones I care about, and that I've moved the world even an infinitesimally small way forward to help the others in it. This means lending a hand or an ear to those that need it either with my labor or my mind (or many time both).

I hope others have something close to this definition, but realistically I don't think its common.

Ask a transmasc person

100% guy here, real man feel is when others can rely on me, when I can help, that kind of stuff. Not “big car hurr durr bbq male superyorr” and the likes.

You listen to Shania Twain’s hit Man! I Feel Like A Woman backwards

You want to feel like a strong man? Protect others and be generous with your spirit.

Fucking this. Strong men—strong people—help others. Healthy or not, realistic or not, this is the message that’s been sold to us since time immemorial. The knight that slays the dragon and saves the kingdom. The alien that crash lands and moonlights as a superhero. The sled dog runs 261 miles to bring the medicine to a town beset by an epidemic.

Yes, sure, one can argue some romanticism (or propaganda) with any given example. But the overall message of heroism, of strength, is not one of selfishness or of “me and mine”.

Semi-related, as this reminded me of a quote from Cary Grant:

I pretended to be somebody I wanted to be and I finally became that person. Or he became me.

This was then repurposed on Star Trek Strange New Worlds by chief engineer Pelia (from a species that lives several centuries):

Most heroes I've seen... are just pretending half the time. There's this one guy I remember, he said to me, 'I always pretended to be someone I wanted to be, until finally, I became that someone, or he became me.'

Ooooohhhhh…

Thats why pride month is in june

I get it now.