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Is this romantic or a red flag? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 day ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago

ummmm....

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 day ago

Maybe she's secretly hoping he'll use it to sexually blackmail her. That is a kink some people have.

[–] [email protected] 31 points 1 day ago

[–] [email protected] 40 points 1 day ago

I have a fleeting suspicion that this girl now thinks, because of her own action, she can do this to you now as well. OP, be careful what you share with her because ruining someones life is an option in her book...

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Personally, I’d delete it in case relationship took a turn for the worse. I wouldn’t want to be tempted to ruin someone’s life out of jealousy or a broken heart.

I see both sides. As off-putting as it is, the intent of showing complete trust and vulnerability should not be overlooked. Maybe just ask them to dial it back to a less offensive method of demonstration.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago

Definitely just put one of my eyebrows through the ceiling.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 day ago

Cut off all communication with this girl, now!

[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 day ago (2 children)

They say never stick your dick in crazy, but from my experience, that's where the best stuff is, but you gotta know, there's a shelf life to flirting with insanity, you gotta know when to get out, or else you're just in for life changing pain. This sounds a bit outside comfort levels for me, and I'd be looking for the out door.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 day ago

I'd be looking for the out door.

She literally gave it to him

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[+] [email protected] -36 points 1 day ago (5 children)

In Germany it's actually illegal to just say some things? Freedom of speech really needs better protection.

"I may disagree with what you have to say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it."

[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 day ago

If you have trouble telling the difference between free speech and hate crimes, you're very much part of the problem.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 day ago

Germany passed a number of laws in the wake of the Third Reich and the Holocaust. The idea being that if such speech was banned, it could prevent the next one from getting a foothold. It definitely sounds like this is what they're referring to

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It's illegal to say you have a bomb at an airport and often to just generally seriously threaten people. Should that be covered under freedom of speech?

[+] [email protected] -17 points 1 day ago (2 children)

It should be illegal to have a bomb, not to say you have a bomb. If you say you have one and you don't, that's annoying, but it shouldn't be illegal.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago

The two should have different consequences. Maybe look at it like the joking statement of having a bomb in certain places isn't illegal itself, but causing extra concern and panic requiring actions to ensure there isn't a threat has its own penalties. The intent of what you say or do is very important. Shouting fire in a crowded area when there isn't a fire is another example of the misuse of the freedom that could cause harm to others.

The original source of the "fire in a theater" example comes from a court case where a defendant was charged with passing out flyers opposing the draft into the first World War. The case was later overturned because it was not analogous to causing immediate panic or lawless action like a riot. I do wonder how social media's ability to directly influence people into action holds up to this ruling. As an example, one can post an opinion or call to action for something and be covered under the 1st, but imagine a streamer in real time inciting people to riot. Where's the line? Maybe it falls under what I said at the top, it's determined by the consequences and not by some perceived "future crime" that it could cause.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 day ago

It's a huge waste of time and resources and mass panic while everyone searches for this bomb that doesn't exist, and if you want to sneak in a real bomb, it's super easy to do if you just have 6 other people claim fake bombs first. It's not illegal right?

[–] [email protected] 36 points 1 day ago (3 children)

It's illegal to say things in the US too, buddy. The fact that you guys let people endorse slavery and idolize the confederacy, is more of a you problem.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 day ago (6 children)

Those problems are deeper than a freedom of speech, and controlling that speech won't and has not fixed the problems that cause them. It's better to keep the openness of expression and tackle the systemic causes of racism and hatred, not try and hide them and let them fester.

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[–] [email protected] -4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I live in the UK, where I know there is also some illegal speech except in Hyde Park Corner. I still think things should be different and the government shouldn't be penalising anyone for things they say. Things they do are a different matter, but banning some speech leads to oppressive regimes.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 day ago

It isn't that you can't say things, just certain parts of "the message" are illegal. You can't deny the holocaust for example or call to sterilize immigrants

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Slavery and racism is not a America only problem. We are just very loud and proud about it. (Not me personally, but I ain't blind to history and the people in my country).

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Chinese military parade.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago

More like Kim Jong-Un's birthday parade.

[–] [email protected] 165 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Sounds like a red flag with a white circle and a black symbol within. But also romantic. They're not mutually exclusive.

As some say, romance is death...

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 day ago (2 children)

You mean the ancient far eastern peace symbol? So romantic.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 day ago

The Windmill of Friendship also boosts love!

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[–] oleorun 21 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Bright, shining, blinking, scrolling, red LED-illuminated flags m'dude.

She needs some therapy on boundaries and impulse control by the sound of it. Then again I'm going off a 5 second read and not a lifetime of experience so I am conceding that I do not know anything for certain.

I would say 'hey, out of respect for you I am deleting this video, thanks for the gift, please get me a gift card to XYZ next time'. But yeah, first time? Give her the pass. If it happens again, GTFO.

[–] [email protected] 109 points 1 day ago (4 children)

RED FLAG.

No sane person does things like that.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago

But with a cross and a white circle within 😘

[–] [email protected] 55 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Absolutely insane.

Just get a tattoo of their name like the rest of us.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 day ago

Preferably a face tattoo

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[–] [email protected] 68 points 1 day ago (4 children)

This is kinda unhinged in my opinion.
But then again, I grew up before social media, maybe this is the ultimate proof of love now? I don't know.

Anyway, putting herself completely at your mercy is not a good start into a healthy, mutually respectful relationship.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 day ago

Ya, maybe this isn't her first time either...

[–] [email protected] 37 points 1 day ago

Either unhinged or brain rotted from a steady diet of Tiktok videos. Or both.

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