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What even becomes of us now? What recourse do we have?

What’s going to happen to us?

Are we going to die?

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 day ago

For government organizations and websites they will defund resources, delete published data, and forbid terminology from being mentioned. Funding for research programs will be cut.

For social media websites they may try isolate groups by forbidding topics and moderation.

There will disturbing press announcements every few days. If there is no public outrage they will keep taking it further.

Markets will get further deregulation, maybe some scheme to tank it and issue another stimulus followed by inflation.

States and cities with strong protections in place will push back. Other places will see people emboldened by their rhetoric to take it out on others.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Are you familiar with Tor? The darknet may be a place you could start looking for hrt

[–] [email protected] 0 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago) (1 children)

Also, I'd just like to mention, Tor is pretty easy to use. You can literally download it like you can any other app on your phone.

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=org.torproject.torbrowser

There are probably other ways to use it that are more private, but I don't want folks to get bogged down and overwhelmed and not use it. For real, go download the app and try it. It's easy peesy. Just go to any website in it and see how it works.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 16 hours ago

This is right info

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Just to be forward, I'm not trans.

This election isn't the end. Civilians probably aren't going to come after you or anything. You quite possibly will lose access to some forms of Healthcare you are allowed to enjoy now, which is pretty fucked up. You'll also likely be discriminated against in government paperwork, like having to put your birth sex on your drivers license and that sort of thing.

In the end, you'll probably live. Keep your friends and community close and work to make things as good for each other as you can. Find alternative forms of Healthcare if you need to and can. Keep some hope alive that we can come out of this stronger and more united and turn the tables in two years, or at most four. Don't give up. Don't let them just have a victory. Join local mutual aid groups and whatever else you can do. Keep fighting.

Remember, as bad as this is, this isn't the first time trans people have been discriminated against. Remember those who came before you and fought to improve things to get to the not perfect but livable status-quo we temporarily had. Don't take it for granted. We can get back to that point again and further.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 20 hours ago

This is the first time trans people have been one of the pillars of a winning candidates platform. They spent $215 million on anti trans ads specifically, or 40% of their entire marketing budget. You don't invest that amount of resources into dehumanizing a minority without having dire intentions. Trans people have been discriminated against before, but not like this.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Stock up on HRT as much as you can. If possible, move to an area where your neighbors are staunch allies.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 9 hours ago

Yall are more than welcome to by my neighbor... glad you know their are allies around!

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 day ago (1 children)

There is another election in 2026 which is an opportunity to break up the Republican super majority and some state government control.

We can try to get more involved in the political process, but beyond that there is very little left to do. We are just going to have to wait and see if it's as bad as we've all feared.

It's more important now than ever that we take care of ourselves and each other. Together we stand, divided we fall.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I'm sorry, but this is it for free and fair elections. Even if we won, they'll just override democracy because they can. I really wish I could say anything else, but liberalism is dead.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Maybe. It's hard to say how much of Trump's rhetoric and "agenda" is to rile up his supporters and how much are promises he intends to (and is able to) carry out.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Going off of his last presidency, we're uber-fucked. He did irreparable damage to world peace, economic equality, and institutional stability. The only reason he didn't do more harm was neocon libs holding him back from doing the dumbest shit. Those people have been systematically purged over the last 4 years.

His government will be more incompetent, but more unhinged. The economy will be awful for all but the very rich, while even those people will lose access to much of their safety. The global economy will crash and millions will die from the looming wars he fanned the flames of in his first term.

You're in denial. I was last time, but I'm not now. He's a fascist who cares less about his country than Hitler. There's no outside force coming to stop the fascist USA. We can only wait for Trump to die before taking back our country. The Republicans are beatable after he's gone, but not before. Trump will burn the world before he'll give up power.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I'm not in denial, I'm scared shitless and heartbroken. You're probably right. That's probably it for American democracy and any hope trans people have of finding safety and acceptance in American Society in our lifetimes. But it hasn't happened yet.

We've already survived a Trump presidency once, we'll do it again, life's just going to suck more than it already has. I can't tell you how to live your apocalypse, I intend to get back in shape, see what parts of my life can be further downsized, and focus on growing my social support network to include as many other women, people of color, and queer folks as I can befriend.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 day ago

I understand. I just don't want people to have false expectations that let them down in the end. I do think there is hope for our acceptance one day, but not for a long time.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Maybe move to Canada?, I'm sure you will be more than happy there

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 day ago

Were it only that easy.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 day ago

I'm pretty sure Canada will accept alot you with open arms.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 day ago

I’ll be dropping the femme expressions I used to love. It’s not safe, and now I have to “man up” and protect my family as best I can. Fascism is not a working system, and a lot of very good and vulnerable people are going to get targeted by bigots every time our undemocratic assholes need to distract from their failures.

The next four years are going to be hell, and I have no idea what to do.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 2 days ago (2 children)

It’s gone a bit viral on Mastodon but if you plan to leave the US, which is entirely reasonable given the circumstances, do not bother trying to claim asylum. No other country that is safe for trans people or queer folks in general considers the US unsafe and your application will be automatically denied and given the international power the US holds, this probably won’t change even in the most dire circumstances.

Instead go for a normal travel or work visa, prolong it as long as you can and try to find friends that will help and hide you in case it expires.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 20 hours ago

My unfortunate guess is asylum isn't going to be an option unless Trump tries to go full Nazi with camps and such... And at that point it might be too late for asylum

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Are there no places where they can hide? Like being hidden by more trusted people. In WW2 we had that too with persecuted people hiding, but yeah.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 2 days ago

I'm so sad for all of you in America right now. Stay strong.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 2 days ago (3 children)

Personally, I'm going back to pretending be cis for at least the next 4 years. And I was just about to start everything. So I'm in a pretty dark place at the moment

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 day ago (3 children)

I literally just talked to a doctor about starting HRT yesterday, confident in a Harris win. I feel like such a fool. I haven't actually started, just talked about it. My wife and I agree that waiting at least until this time next year is wise, depending on how bad things get.

The shitty part is feeling like I'm betraying all my trans brothers and sisters out there who can't just put on cis-face, since there are medical records and public posts identifying them as not cis-normative, and I'm just going to hide. I don't want to put my family in danger, but I also can't stomach doing nothing as my people are also at risk.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 day ago

Hey, cis normative passing trans person here (in my case my long time partner has a phenotype preference and I chose him rather than physical transition) you are not betraying anybody. It is a hard road any of us walk and your decision, whatever it's reason, is valid. We are going to need solidarity like never before and that doesn't mean pointing fingers at ourselves or others and lamenting that our sacrifices don't look the same. It means being kind to ourselves too. We are all going to need each other.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 day ago

Your life comes first every time. Do what you have to do to be safe. We love you and no one is upset at you for hiding for your own safety.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 day ago

Don’t put if off is my advice. Imagine putting it off last Trump election and having so many years of dysphoria. I had friends who held off for years and they regretted it.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 2 days ago

I'm so sorry. But on the one hand, if you haven't started anything yet, that'll be less of a paper trail for you. I've been on hrt for a year, and I can only imagine they'll try and ban the drugs entirely. I haven't changed my name, but I have changed my gender marker. You're losing time, time you'll sadly never get back, but in my case, I will lose time, my meds, all the progress I've made. I... don't know how to deal with this.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 2 days ago

Same here, I have a great wife who supports me, and I was basing my transition on the results of this election. Feels horrible

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