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TenForward: Where Every Vulcan Knows Your Name

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

Do you think Matt brain would blue screen if I told him I took my wife's last name?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

Everyone has funny or unique stories about last names... Some people change their names for love, others keep them for work, and some even mix them up for fun. It’s like having many characters in one story, just like Jeffrey Combs does in acting—each name choice has its special vibe

[–] [email protected] -1 points 1 month ago

Well it'll be easier for scammers since she didn't change her last name

[–] [email protected] -1 points 1 month ago

The government wants your money and to waste time.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 month ago (2 children)

For someone who gives this much of a shit about gender roles, you'd think they'd learn the correct forms of the word for an intended spouse.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago

Most people don't give a shit about the gendered spelling differences in loan words

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago

He's just copy/pasting what the listener wrote and doesn't realize the connotation?

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

My wife took my name, but I would not give the slightest shit if she didn't, which I made clear to her at the time.

We briefly discussed having a double-barrel surname, but writing that out would be a mild inconvenience that neither of us want.

And maybe this is a dumb question, but what happens when forename surnameA-surnameB marries or has children with forename surnameX-surnameY?

What is the resulting name? forename surnameA-surnameB-surnameX-surnameY? Do they pick one of each, e.g. A-X?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

Yeah hyphenating is not progressive at all. And I should know, I have a goatee.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 month ago (1 children)

What a narrow view. In other many places things are different and they function you know. In Brazil kids get the mother's surname.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Wait until he finds out about Icelandic naming conventions!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

Interesting how it goes?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

How normal is a maiden name? I thought mostly Christians did it. In a lot of cultures surname is just a father's name, so maiden concept never made sense to me.

Edit: confused maiden name with husband name.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I don't know what you think a maiden name is, but it is her father's surname.

It's a 'maiden name' because you're supposed to keep it until you're married, at which point you're no longer a maiden and you take your husband's name.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Sorry English is not my first language. I meant to ask, how common it is to change surname to husband one.

I think the wife should get to keep her surname because like I said in most cultures surname is a father/family name so once married, your father or family you were born in doesn't change.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I would like some evidence that is true about "most cultures."

Wikipedia sure doesn't suggest that's true. If anything, it varies a lot.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maiden_and_married_names

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Reread my comment."most" was used while referring to surname being a father/family name. Don't need Wikipedia to know that.

And my comment was doing the opposite of what you are alleging. I'm asking how common are husband names(that wives get). It is very clearly a question and not an imposition.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 1 month ago

I see, this is just how you think the world should work. I guess you'll have to learn to live with the disappointment that it doesn't.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 month ago (2 children)

My maiden name was awful to have. Other people liked it because it looked cool, but it was a hassle for everything even in the US, where at least part of it was well known. I then moved to Germany, where it was just totally foreign.

My married name is under three syllables (vs more than eight), easy to spell, and sounds as German as possible. My husband would have loved to take my last name, but we couldn’t do it the way we wanted to (German naming laws 🙃). I would really have liked to at least have been able to keep my maiden name as a middle name, but alas.

I still feel very weird (about a year out) about it, but there are way more good feelings than bad.

However, it’s really annoying that people now assume I’m German. I put in a shit load of work to learn German well as an adult, and my strongest skill is in pronunciation. That combined with my name means people think I’m just a native German who’s bad at grammar, and they don’t correct me anymore.

I always wanted to blend in as a native, I just didn’t think about the middle stretch where I just seem a bit dumb to others, both because of the language and cultural things that people now expect me to know (I thought it was called handkäse because you can eat the little rounds straight from the hand, no need for bread, until last year).

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

German here. Took my wife’s name because she has publications and I don’t. I have no idea what you are talking about. In Germany any partner can take the others name in a marriage or even have a compound name (maiden name - new name). My father took my mother’s name, they divorced 20 years ago, now my father is going to change his name back to his old name. My sister married her girlfriend, she took her name. Idk at this point it kinda became our internal family joke thing although our last name wasn’t that horrible

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I already had a compound name, and we both have middle names, which are the relevant problems to combining our names the way we wanted.

In Germany, you can’t have a twice hyphenated name (not that I wanted one), nor can you use that hyphenated name as an additional middle name, if you already have one.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

Ah ok thanks for explaining. That makes sense that although they redid the law that there’s still idiotic shit I it that doesn’t work in real life.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I have a German surname, but my family changed the pronunciation to sound lest German during WWII so now Germans pronounce it "wrong" and no one else can pronounce it at all.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I read most of my news, so it took about a month to realize the VP candidates last name was pronounced “Walls,” so you’re among company.

I’m from Connecticut, which has a town called Berlin, pronounced BURR-lun (/‘bərlən/). That , like the pronunciation of many German-origin names, was changed during WWII, but it’s basically a shibboleth for locals now, like Houston Street.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I'm in Indiana and half of our place names are pronounced incorrectly.

Ver-sayles (Versailles)
Rooshaville (Russiaville)
Pee-ru (Peru) Kay-roh (Cairo)

And, of course, we're the home of the University of Note'r Daym.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Saint Louis would like some words:

Bellefontaine (BELL-fountain)

Cabanne (CAB-a-knee)

Chouteau (SHOW-toe)

Carondelet (kron-duh-let)

Cote Brilliante (coat BRILL-yunt)

DeTonty (duh-TON-tee)

Dougherty Ferry (DOOR-uh-tee ferry)

DeBaliviere (duh-BALL-uh-ver)

Goethe (GO-thee)

Gravois (GRAV-oy)

Gratiot (GRASH-it)

Hodiamont (HOAD-uh-mont)

Juniata (june-ee-AH-tuh)

Kossuth (KOSS-ooth)

Laclede (lah-CLEED)

Spoede (SPAY-dee)

Tesson Ferry (TESS-on ferry)

Zumbehl (ZUM-bull)

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Sounds like L.A., where they like to mispronounce every Spanish name and half the names are in Spanish.

Like Lows Feel-iz (Los Feliz)

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

Yup, we also add French and German in the mix!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

I just see it as a hassle. Like why even bother? She would have to explain why she wants to take my name and I would try talking her out of it "What if we get a divorce in 7 years or so? Do you just have to change it back then?" I'm sure that would go over well

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

Patriarchal traditions aside, part of the idea is that you're aiming for a permanent relationship, or you shouldn't do it

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I only recently found out he was Brunt as well as Weyoun. And had no idea about the others. (I still haven't gotten around to Enterprise.) What a talented guy!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

BRUNT, FCA

DS9 casually nailing it with ferengi actors. Even the cousin was great

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

I'm partial to the inept/surprisingly-effective assassin guy Quark hires to help him trade the Vorta guy for Moogie.

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