I feel terrible because I didn't buy even a card for my wife's birthday. I just took her to her mother's house. This was two weeks ago. I am still baffled why I didn't buy flowers or something. My wife isn't demanding at all.
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It's never too late, go ahead and do something because regretting won't help...
On Tuesday I had a panic attack when I got in to work at 9am. It didn't last long, only about 15-20 minutes, but I still don't feel quite right even now. That's usually the case with my panic attacks, it takes a while for me to reset afterwards. Sometimes weeks.
Right now I have this tense feeling in my head, which causes my jaw to tighten up and get an impulsive twitch. Usually seems to happen when I'm feeling anxiety. I have an urge to chew on something soft.
I hope you are well now ...
Bored. I'm out on my anniversary tradition, which is going apple picking.. Except my other half immediately rolled out the picnic blanket and has been sleeping on me for the past hour.
It's sad to think of how the dynamics have changed over the past 10 years between us. It's almost like the brain hamster wheels have all fallen apart and what's left are only the most basic of human functions. It's days like today I wish my country had any kind of worthwhile mental health care.
Hope you have better days soon
It seem incredibly unlikely anymore. Schizophrenia is a hell of a thing and getting the appropriate amount of support for anything like this that has a spectrum of severity is absolutely not possible. Besides the professional help my other half doesn't seem very interested in improving their situation at all.
That's sad to hear ... I'm sorry I can't do something about it
Much better than the pervious couple weeks. It's refreshing! Depression sucks.
Good luck...
Thanks!
i just want to fucking die die die die die die die die die die die FUCKING DIE ALREADYYYYHSHSUDJEJJSJDKF
May I ask why ?
I failed college, which lead to me losing my job. I also lost my car. To top it all off, my girlfriend of 3 years left me while we were 10,000km away from home. Every single thing reminds me of her. I haven't had the strength to shower in a week. I wish I had a car so i can drive into a concrete block at 200km/h and obliterate my worthless body. I love her so much.
It does get better, and one day you'll look back and be glad that it turned out the way it did, just keep going โค๏ธ
Excited to go buy a bunch of native plants for the local park :)
That's awesome
It's the fifth cold I got in a row I feel angry
That's annoying... just the thought of catching a cold is annoying to me : headaches, constant sneezing, heat and such things .... I hope you get better soon
I currently feel like my nervous system is vibrating having just got out of the gym after preworkout
Good luck
Sad, sometimes, and a little lonely most of the time. Been through a rough breakup this year. But getting better all the time! Hope you're well!
Ever thought about adopting a pet ? it might be good for such cases ... good luck
Thanks! I actually did consider it but my landlady won't allow pets, and if I'm honest I both can't afford and am too disorganised to take good care of something living. Good suggestion, tho!
Last night I had a mild panic attack for no reason. I think it might have been induced by a mixture of beer and sugar, a combination I don't do very often.
I've just come out of a long term relationship with someone I thought I would have kids with. She was the best thing that ever happened to me, but somehow that wasn't enough for me and I wanted out. I still have no idea if I did the right thing, but at least we left as friends who care deeply for each other. The separation was slow and excrutiating but I think we're both on the road to healing.
I used to think that if two people love each other, that was enough, but I've come to realize than I wanted more than just love, I wanted to feel less lonely in my head, and a severe language barrier was preventing that from happening. With time, we might have gotten there, but with time, I also may have grown to resent her, and so that's why I ended it. I banked on my pessimism instead of my optimism.
Time heals all, and I guess we've just got to tread water until that time comes. Sorry for the word vomit above, your post apparently struck a chord with me
Heya man, thanks for sharing. I hope you're doing okay. That sounds tough, and it's a hard realisation that love isn't always enough on its own - relationships take work outside of love, and that has certainly felt like a disheartening realisation for me. It feels the world is a little less magic now, but that's okay - there are better things coming for us both, that we will be better equipped to handle correctly with what we've learned from this. Happy Monday!
Thank you for these kind words, and I hope you heal too or at least find that magic again somewhere.
exhausted. physically and mentally. even if i manage to disconnect its never for long enough to recouperate fully
I hope you get better soon
thx. same to you
Currently very silly, im wearing a cute skirt :3
It's been a really long time since I bought / wore a skirt or a dress or even makeup... shame on me really
To quote an indecisive mollusk: "Everything is going just as planned!"
Nice , good luck
With my hands silly.
Had a pint of blood drawn today. I feel dizzy and heavy and very hot ๐ญ
Hope it's going well with you
Every day is some variation on shitty.
aka same shit , different day....
Eh. I have thing going on that I'm looking forward to, trying to keep my head up with things, but right now there's this issue that's putting a shadow over everything.
I try to talk to the person involved, but they've kept at it to this point where I don't want to be around them. I've tried to be gentle about it, but it's like everything I said gets forgotten in a week and I'm the bad person for putting my foot down after.
I think it feels worse because I know what I need to do, but it's going to make a lot of things very difficult, and it's going to take accepting that someone who was very important in my life isn't the person I knew when we reached that point. That neither of us are.
Alright I guess.
That's good to know
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So excited and so overwhelmed.
We're moving from the US to Denmark soon. We just had a hurricane destroy our city. We are fine, thankfully, but our city is in bad shape. I also just had a decently big surgery a few weeks ago and my doctor's office is gone, so in the midst of all this I have to find a doctor. Just coincidental timing on all of it.
But it's net positive. I look forward to the future more than I dread the bad stuff.
Is it that bad? I had thought the buildings would have mostly survived given the city was built to withstand them and that it was just too dangerous for people
How do you recover from that? Does insurance cover it?
I'm in Asheville NC not Tampa. We're not built for the hurricane we got.
Insurance covers very little. Not the fact that the city won't have water for months, nor access to you property, nor flooding for the majority of people, and many many businesses are gone
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