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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

Just never saw the need for it.

[–] [email protected] 39 points 1 month ago (3 children)

I enjoy the exercise of trying to think ahead of the words coming out of my mouth so I can speak more concisely and clearly. It's the same reason I do calligraphy.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago

So I do still swear and curse…

But now I do it literally.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

I had a phase as a teen when I was constantly swearing. My parents told me that, it can't be that bad and it's really annoying.

And it's mostly an impulse reaction and we're kind of above that.

It doesn't mean that you can't express pain or anger. You're just not insulting people's ears if you scream "Aaaaah" when you bang your toe against a table leg or something. And your environment really doesn't deserve it. Most people are somewhat compassionate and you're just swearing while they try to help... that's not a pleasant environment for them to be in. It makes it harder to help you.

No to both questions. I just made a change and that was it. And it has never stopped me from expressing anything.

If anything, it lends more weight to the regular words.

A _______ criminal? Or a criminal?

You can still put the same emotion into the words, they're just not swear words. :)

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago

I was told people who swear sounded less intelligent. It made me not want to do it. I swear rarely, usually if I'm quoting someone. I swear a little more liberally in text, but not very often.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago

I wish I could stop. I bannished a lot of words from my language because they are insults which come from oppressive language sucheas words to insult sex workers or homosexuals. Of course, most of people don't use them with homophobic motives but the fact that they are insults is really bad imo.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 month ago (1 children)
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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago

I decided to try to stop swearing in college, to see if it would improve my attitude - and to see if anyone would notice.

Both turned out to be true. People found me pleasant to work with and hang around. I recommend it, personally!

[–] [email protected] 73 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

I have made a conscious effort to reduce swearing, which has brought my swearing down to near zero, both online and in real life conversation.

I have found that it streamlines the ability to make a point. A lot of swearing is simply thrown in out of habit, and if you remove it, all you do is make your point more clear without losing anything of substance.

I think for many people swearing is a "filler word" in the same way that "umm" can be. I have also worked hard to reduce my other filler word use. My goal with both of these is better articulation.

The next effect is that swearing is normally viewed as an extreme use of language for an extreme situation, and when you don't constantly swear the times that you do actually conveys how notable the situation is.

[–] [email protected] 39 points 1 month ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago (2 children)

See, @[email protected]?

In the comment I’m replying to, the fuck is a filler because it could easily just say ‘Yeah dude’ but the tone would be different.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Then it isn't a filler. I never said I don't swear, but have greatly reduced it. One effect of reduced swearing is that when swears are used, they have more punch.

I'm not sure why you're so invested in debating that people who habitually swear won't insert swears into unrelated thoughts, but the only support I offer is to listen to someone who habitually swears speak. I don't want to sound like that, so I make the effort not to.

My choice on how I speak and type doesn't impose anything on you.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Will Smith famously limits his swearing and doesn’t swear while rapping and next thing you know he’s bitch-slapping Chris Rock.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago

I’m glad we could collaborate on this effort and teach people some shit 🤝

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

What word in that comment is a filler word?

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I don't recall saying every use of a swear is a filler word.

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