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[–] [email protected] 16 points 2 months ago (5 children)

I wrote this whole thing about mum and dad, and whatever, and I just can't be bothered.

It hurts Mum is off the deep end and hasn't tried to make amends or meet my boundaries for a relationship. It's like she's given up and gone full boar into her delusions, and I'm left behind as a "possessed devil worshipper".

Like, she isn't even Christian or anything, just super spiritual and lost within her schizophrenic angel-and-demon obsession. That demons and devils, and "evil psychics from the US" are committing "psychic assaults" and causing mental illness.

I just want my fucking mum back.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

I’m sorry Spud. Sometimes people just can’t be who we need them to be but it doesn’t hurt any less.

Don’t internalise any of that crap :(

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 months ago

So sorry. I have a parent that went full extreme right wing conspiracy nutter during covid and has never come back. We don’t talk anymore, after much trying on my part and none on theirs. I have no advice other than look after your own mental health, because you probably can’t do anything about theirs. They have 100% certainty in their righteousness. I hope your situation is not as bad though. It’s rough, because it’s like loosing a parent. Actually, it is loosing a parent. You’ll grieve and wonder why. But you’ll feel better in time if you prioritise yourself. Took me too long to learn that.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago

I'm so sorry. So many hugs.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago

Really sorry to hear that.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 months ago

Aw fuck spud I'm sorry to hear that πŸ«‚

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 months ago (3 children)

No power since 1030am. Estimate restore time 4pm tomorrow. Thankful for gas hot water and cooktop, ryobi fridges and the fire to keep us warm. Hopefully we wake up overnight with every light we've mistakenly turned on glowing.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

It came back on at 3am! Praise to the electricity gods!

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 months ago

That's fucked! I'm glad you have backups - warmth especially. Hope they restore power sooner. If not, then hope you at least get through the night and can get out during the day.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 months ago

That's nuts bro. I hope it comes back quicker than that!

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

I finished my second TAFE class. Awgh everytime I go I always end up coming out feeling accomplished and happy - so why do I spend the hour prior stressing and all anxious for no real reason at all? I actually had little flash thoughts in my mind before hand that I should drop out. They weren't really real thoughts, just little anxiety bubbles that were popping up in the sea of other thoughts

I really like this trainer. Very people first it seems. I don't regret leaving high school for this one bit, although I do have the weeds of self doubt that hours of weeding never seem to uproot. It always grows back.

Edit: clarity

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

Anxiety can tell you lies. You did the right thing to overcome it and go for your goals. New things can be stressful, this is completely normal. The trick is not to never be nervous, but to overcome it. It will become less with each class as you gain confidence in your achievements. Yay you!

[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 months ago (1 children)

It fucken cold. And a long day. 11 hrs and nothing came easy today. The plus sides, though, are:

  • my uni stuff got sorted in the nick of time
  • I don't need to redo my assignment
  • I found out I have until 28 Oct to rectify my whole 3G phone network bizzo. Two more months of breathing space to enact firmware hack or give up and buy a new phone.
  • I'm doing so much overtime I could probably take an extra day off and stretch it to 10 days away in Perth
  • can avoid today's Angery Customer until Friday
  • avoided all the Weather today
  • have stash of ready-made food in freezer
  • pay day this week yey thank fuck
  • barely used my car, can save on filling up until next low point
  • long awaited haircut this week

It's gonna be alright... tries not to dramatically sob into pillow

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I’m regards to your angry customer is there someone who can help you deescalate it or provide you with some support?

Might be handy to have someone there with you with the angry customer as a support as well as a witness.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

I've definitely put my foot down on meeting this person solo. The people who'd normally go with me aren't available til next week. After which point we are past the deadline. I've communicated this back and provided a solution that I think should satisfy everyone... but it's not my problem until Friday, meanwhile let's hope someone monitors the shared inbox.

The person who normally goes on site and meets customers if necessary does it solo, I don't quite have his mental fortitude! Not gonna hold myself up to his standards.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 months ago (1 children)

A win at work I was quite proud of got derailed by a sudden request that blew out my while afternoon.

I'm writing my own documentation on Marketing Cloud because it feels like the sort of program you only learn to use by making every mistake first

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

Salesforce. I've heard Adobe's marketing cloud is an old programs so it's probably not much better

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 months ago (1 children)

So I noticed a company had put up a poorly redacted screenshot of a customer order, so basically they just gave away a person’s name, email address and physical address on Instagram.

What would you do?

  1. Inform the victim

  2. Inform the vendor

  3. Contact OAIC

  4. Email 131444

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I remember I had some compliance training on this recently. Maybe start with informing the vendor and if you don't like their response, go to the victim and the OAIC

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago

Oh, how cool's that? I literally just finished my TAFE class, got out, and this is the first thing I see. We just had an assessment about privacy breaches and the complaints process, and this was basically my answer for the complaints process

Strong agree with what you said. Although personally, I do somewhat feel a moral responsibility to tell the victim. It's a tricky one though, especially if you go to the vendor as well, there may be some blowback because they know who told the victim, and if they stop working with the vendor, I imagine they're likely to blame OP.

Tldr: vendor first, then victim and OAIC is the advisable and smart approach, victim first then the vendor is the less smart approach, but also the one I think I'd feel compelled to take

[–] [email protected] 11 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I'm reading up on the psych of hoarding again. Too many family members are effected and I'm sick of doing the clean ups.

at the same time I have a horror of thinking whenever the house is a bit messy or I have stuff " god I hope I don't have it

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (2 children)

I can see hoardery traits in myself, so I’ve been working on decluttering and not letting it turn into a problem. I’ll never be a minimalist but it’s nice to have space in the house.

E: I do think being self-aware is what helps stop it getting out of control. And having cleared a hoarder house in the past means I don’t want to inflict that on anybody else, too

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

I remember clearing out my great aunt's place way back as a kid. She went through the great depression and hoarded everything imaginable. That was eye opening.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago

I think humans have innate tendencies to own objects, we use tools, we need clothes, we cook and we store food. It's biology and culture.

But it's just been to easy to buy things and that's why we have too much stuff.

It's like food, we love sweet and creamy, it's biology, so in a land of milk and honey it's too easy to put on weight.

Like you said, we have to be aware. πŸ‘

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 months ago

There's a game called "my tamagotchi forever" on ios and Android. Huge nostalgia hit!

[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Get up. Put pasta and bits in pan in oven ....you..can...do...it...oldgreeeeeeeeg...

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

C'mon on oldgreg C'mon C'mon. C'mon oldgreg C'monnnnnn. 🎢

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 months ago (1 children)

haha. OMG now that's stuck in my head. But done. It's a pasta/pumpkin/salami/cheese thingomijig

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago (1 children)
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[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Today me is blessing yesterday me for making a batch of pea & ham soup. Dinner sorted!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Same. I made a dozen beef and mushroom pies yesterday. That's dinner and lunches for a few days.

also, one day could you post how you make pea & ham soup, that's one dish I've never been able to do.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Delighted to. P & H soup is a staple for me. When the freezer runs dry I whomp up another batch. I vary it according to what I have in the fridge, but this is the basics.

1 250g packet of split peas (any colour) green is traditional but yellow is just as nice. Red lentils - see method below. This is a good way to use up any part packets you have in the pantry as mixing more than one sort is really really nice. 1 large carrot, topped and tailed and chopped into chunks - I don't bother peeling these. The big winter maincrop carrots are the best. The tiny dutch carrots are nothing like as good. This adds a subtle sweetness to the soup. 1 brown onion - skinned, topped and tailed but left whole, with 2 cloves stuck into the cut end. About 1/2 bunch of celery stems - chopped into chunks plus please include the celery leaves if any. 1-2 bay leaves - these are essential About 6 peeled cloves of garlic - use more if you like it I large chopped potato - I don't bother to peel this but you could if you wanted to. It helps thicken the soup. 1 ham hock - Aldi sell these in plastic wrap that looks and feels like fingernail clippings, as do colesworth and most butchers. You want the smoked kind. Size is irrelevant.

Optional - 1 star anise, 2-3 cardamom pods, 1 tsp toasted cumin seeds. Pick one of these but NOT all of them.

Method. Rinse the peas well in cold water and soak in cold water for at least one hour or overnight if possible. Doesn't have to be in the fridge unless the weather is hot. They will swell a LOT, so you may need to top up the water from time to time. Don't soak red lentils - just rinse them just before filling the pot. Remove ham hock from plastic, identify the meaty side and cut two deep slashes across the meatiest bit.
In a slow cooker or large stock pot, put in the carrot chunks, the celery chunks and leaves, the onion and then the ham hock. Add in the soaked peas/rinsed lentils (drained) the bay leaves, the garlic and other flavorings. Gently pour in COLD water to cover the whole by about 1 cm. It's important that everything is covered with the water.

IMPORTANT - DO NOT ADD SALT! If you do, the peas will NEVER cook properly but will remain hard and bulletlike for ever.

Start the pot cooking on very low heat - it should take at least an hour to start to bubble. Skim off any white foam. Let the pot cook at a very gentle simmer for several hours. A slow cooker on high will take at least 3-4 hours. A stock pot on the stove nearly that long. It's done when you fish out a few peas from the mix and can easily squash them between two fingers. But you can cook it longer if you like and it's all the better for it.

Once cooked, fish out the ham hock (which will be on the point of disintegrating into its component parts), fish out the bay leaves and the star anise if using and discard them. Let the pot cool down a bit then use a stick blender to make the remaining pot contents as finely blended as you like. I like a bit of texture, but silky smooth also works. At this point you can salt it to taste if you think it needs it.
Let the ham hock cool down a bit, then strip off the skin and separate out the bones and gristle. Keep the meaty bits - shred or chop these and stir back into the soup. The bones skin and gristle can be recooked with more water to make ham stock if you can be bothered. Otherwise discard them. At this point you can freeze portions of soup, or even better let the pot rest in the fridge overnight for even more flavor. You know you've made a good batch when you take the pot out of the fridge and hold it up so the surface is vertical and it doesn't even wobble.
Then just scoop out portions to heat up in the microwave and serve. I like to serve it with crusty bread and maybe a splash of tabasco sauce over the top of the bowl. Meal fit for a king that.

Quantities above will make about 8-10 serves. You can add more water for more serves or larger ones once cooked if you want. It's not possible to make a small batch of P & H soup. But it does freeze very very well.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

Queen shit right here

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

TYVM for posting 😽😽😽. I make mine with rook wurst/smoke sausage and eat with maggi on top

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago

Doing it with sausage, you might like to add a ham bone or chicken bones or some such so that it gels properly. The lovely thing about ham hock is that the liquid comes out rich in gelatin/collagen from the bones.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago (2 children)

I haven't had a homemade pie in a long time

I think about a decade ago, mum bought a pie maker from Kmart and taught me how to make a pie with puff pastry and mince. Being very much white bogan ppl from whoop whoop, we only ever had plain mince pies with tomato sauce, but being a more well rounded city slicker who resided in Brunswick for a week, I'd be super keen to experiment with different meats and pies, maybe chop up little bits of steak and put some bacon in like they do in the shops 🀀

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago

Check out the yt channel of a retired chef, a Yorkshireman, who is very very good at pies - both the pastry and the fillings. He's called The Backyard Chef. Simple easy instructions for doing comfort food. Also uses an airfryer a lot. His Beef Mushroom and Stout pie is a classic.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I do apple and cinnamon caramel pies for desserts and I make a lot of pies with left over curries or chili and they seem to be the best .

Yum, chicken rogan josh pie with lots of curry gravy inside is the best

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

Omg that sounds so good! Would you mind sharing your recipe? I've decided next week's random hobby is going to be pie baking....

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