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[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 months ago (1 children)

At 2 pm today I put a batch of pea & ham soup into the slow cooker. It's just finished now. Note to self: next time remember to use high setting not low.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Bet it’s delicious either way!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

I do a good p&h even if I do say so myself. Just yesterday took so loooooong and I didn't realise at the time.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 months ago (1 children)

What a fucking night. I haven't been out in at least 6 months. Here's to building a social life!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago
[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 months ago

City trip with fam today....kids got clothes,their style is what I wore their age

Had steak dinner at Yappari Melbourne central..go check it out. Food is 10/10, service 20/10

Looks new and they're so helpful to customers. Bless the staff

Chillin with 80s and 90s YouTube....loving life

Hope everyone has a top weekend.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 months ago (4 children)

I get so stressed out seeing my family. I love my dad and them, but I feel like such a failure.

My cousin just got her cert in childhood education, and I dunno. I feel left behind, alone. A black sheep, where my cousins are successful and I'm still floundering away trying to get anywhere.

I suppose it's easier for Dad to be proud of them, when they have done things to be proud of.

I know these are my own insecurities, and I'd never project onto anyone. But it's hard seeing my own success when I don't feel I've gotten anywhere at all, or done anything notable. I guess it would be nice if they reached out at all, but they only do when something is going on, and even then I've been forgotten lol

Ehh I'm overthinking. Whatever.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

But did they have other people drag them down, and have to spend time rebuilding?

Not everyone gets an equal shake

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 months ago

I understand that feeling. Very, very well.

The only person you can compare yourself to, is who you were yesterday.

I hope that helps πŸ™‚

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I'm proud of you. If that helps. You're making big changes to get where you want to be.

And even if you weren't, you are worthy and valuable just for being you.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

ikr, spud is amazing πŸ™‚

also, can they write pomes like Spud? I doubt it.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 months ago

Can I disagree.

You have done the very hard work on being a better and healthy person. If you're the only one in your family who has done this it's not uncommon to feel a bit out of place. You think and feel and believe differently now.

And education is life long. Once you get into your stride you'll excel at everything and outshine them all.

So many hugs.

can I relate about my own sibs. They are all better off financially than me. While I was fighting the demons they accepted them and some even became demons themselves. They had the energy to do the socially easy things.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago (1 children)

The whole thing has got me cross-eyed

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago

What thing?

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (3 children)

Did Father's Day shopping plus birthday shopping as Mr P's bday is in a few weeks, and I thought I may as well get it out of the way whilst all the manly gifty goods were on display for the purchasing at a discount price lol.

A friend of a friend of ours has a Staffy which has just had pups and we are being offered our choice. πŸ˜ƒπŸ€”πŸ˜ƒπŸ€”πŸ˜ƒπŸ€”πŸ˜ƒπŸ€” are my thoughts at the moment. I love them; I've always found them loving, staunch, and funny, such clowns. And I'd love for the kids to finally have a dog. And the breeder's lovely. BUT... The side fence needs replacing and the neighbours insist they can't afford to pay their share, so we've been nailing bits together and making do with star pickets for years. They've got a very exy breed of dog they've had for a few years (think several grand) so I'm surprised they're not more motivated to do the fence, but blood from a stone I guess. A Staffy would eat the fence for brekkie. Plus they do need very strong, solid and consistent training right from the very beginning. Plus all the costs involved, on a single income 😬 I feel very sad inside, because I always thought that if you can't afford to prioritise the costs of pet ownership for an animal that relies on you for it's existence then you shouldn't do it. If I'm not being a hypocrite then I know my answer, even though I haven't given an answer yet. It's not fair for the dog or us if we're just scraping by. But it hurts. It's not the first time I've been offered a pup; last time it was a Jack Russell, a breed I love even more (I've owned 3). That one really hurt to say no to, and Mr P was shitty at me for days, but I just can't. I can't if I can't afford to be the kind of owner the dog deserves. And it hurts πŸ˜”

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

You’re doing the right thing.

Is Mr. P going to be equally enforcing the consistent training, doing the walks and cleaning the poo, taking it to the vet, paying for the costs? Responsibility for a pet tends to fall mostly on mum and all of the effort, cleaning and replacing chewed items also goes up with a baby animal.

Hopefully there’s a better situation in future and you get to wholeheartedly say yes to a puppy.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 months ago

A Staffy is a major undertaking. It's big and strong and you don't want to neglect training. And they eat a lot and are expensive.

Best for you all and for the dog.

Hugs.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 2 months ago (1 children)

" It’s not fair for the dog or us if we’re just scraping by. But it hurts. "

Yes it hurts, but this is responsible pet ownership in action. You have nothing to reproach yourself if you decline their offer. The fence situation is a deal breaker too imo. And when it comes to strong, solid and consistent training - do you think anyone other than yourself can supply that? And there are so many other calls on your time and effort. What would happen if you or one of the minipeelers got sick? You're doing the right thing - both for your family and for the dog. There will come a time in the future when the stars all align and its the right time to get a pup. Just not now.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

I hope so. Thanks for the backup.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Not really a fan of the new straight across. I softened the ends a bit but was too cautious, so it’s still a bit blunt and l don’t really like it. It is a more manageable length though.

I’ve spent today just sleeping cuddled up with Melbcat. Daily life is really hard.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

so many hugs, do what ever you can to make it easier

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Sleeping is ok. Is melbcat feeling a bit better?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago (2 children)

She’s been having a bit of wet food! She’s still drinking a lot of water and a bit painy so I’m really hoping that the antibiotic is working.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

That's great news! Sending my love πŸ’—

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

That's a positive step. Fingers crossed for her (and you)

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

OMG Season 4 of Snowpiercer started airing over a month ago???? I thought it was starting in September...

I have some binge watching to do. So glad it was uncancelled

In related news: I'm going to be unreachable for the next ~7 hours. Who needs dinner? I need Snowpiercer.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 months ago (2 children)

I am now working on the metal ferrules of the cabinet legs. They were so rusty. Work on the big chairs continues.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

when you are old you know lots of words

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

3 different grade sandpapers used to remove rust and some rust preventer applied, will repeat the process tomorrow so it's done as well as I can. One leg is banged up tho. Then will apply some clear varnish.

Finish cleaning the glass and the rest of the wood , I think it was stored in a garage and the soot and oil is hard to remove. I've unpacked the glass shelves and cleaning them up too.

I've started sorting my shell collection ready to put on display. Big shells on the bottom and smaller up high. If there is room I'll put some mineral specimens in too.

And for the chairs, so many pieces of velvet and tapestry have been measured and cut ready to be made into matching scatter cushions. πŸ™‚

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