Transfem

Let's get one thing out of the way: you're not guilty of anything here.

Transitioning is a choice, and it's up to each transgender person to decide when and how to do so. Some people never transition - that's perfectly valid.

What is most important is your comfort and safety, and if you don't feel ready, then it's absolutely OK to pause your transition.

I'm nearly 40, began medical transition at 37. It took me... a decade to resolve my identity. I passed through various stages. The realization of being transgender hit like a ton of bricks. Surprising, and yet not, somehow? I lived decades believing I was stuck in my body.

I will say that I have experienced tremendence progress in recent years. It took 6 months to a year of HRT before I could see "the woman in the mirror". Now I see my true self more often than not - it's a wonderful and priceless feeling. My breasts continue to grow and round out - long after I feared my transition was stalled.

However, I'm blessed with a very supportive partner and life circumstances that allow me to make such changes without worrying about family.

My body is naturally somewhat feminine. I still die inside sometimes when I see my face (beard/stubble, receded hairline, nose), hear myself speaking too deeply, or get misgendered. I'm over 6 feet tall - I stand out.

Here's where I'm at three years in:

• changed name and pronouns at work
• first time dressing authentically in public this year. Even wore a bikini at the beach!
• first electrolysis consultation next week
• first voice therapy session next week
• therapist is writing letter for surgeons
• first endo appointment last month, first real prescriptions (was DIY for 2.5 years)
• early 2024 will start getting surgeon referrals

I have only now reached a point where I'm comfortable moving forward. I also feel the pressure of my state's anti-trans politics, the longer I wait, the harder this is going to be. Indeed I feel compelled, not only to make the best decision for myself, but to face my opponents and show them I won't back down.

Is it frightening? Oh hell yes. Transitioning is terrifying, it's super difficult and expensive. Not everything that comes from that is good. I'm not going to judge anyone for stopping or delaying their transition.

If you can live as your assigned gender, and you find ways to cope, more power to you. Everyone's path is different. I do recommend a good therapist so you can discuss how you feel. IMO your relationship and your own mental health depends on it.

I had those doubts too for a short while but then one day I woke up and saw her. I'm tall, although not hairy, and it used to bother me, until I realized that there are plenty of cis women who are also tall. There was a woman who used to come into where I worked and she was like 7 feet tall.

I don't know what it is like to not have anyone who is supportive but I can imagine that it is very difficult. In my opinion, you should focus on what is going to make you happy. I think that starting back up on HRT would make you happy, or else you wouldn't feel the way you do for stopping, and clearly you care or else you wouldn't have made a post here. I think you should have a serious talk with your partner about it though. If they are unsupportive like you think, then you should probably separate. Your life is yours and you should live it for yourself and not anyone else.

Something that has helped me is this quote I heard Eric Andre say, "The people who mind don't matter, and the people who matter don't mind." That singular quote has given me so much confidence in my life since I first heard it and I think it could be very useful to you as well

There is laser hair removal and ffs as well.

Looking at translater on reddit, thinking a lot of men like taller woman and laser. Having a ton of dysphoria certainly had an impact too I suppose