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I'm going on my first overseas trip with my girlfriend since we started dating. I worked hard all last year to earn and save money for this trip. It will be our first international trip ever, and I want to make it perfect, memorable, and the best trip of our lives.

I've read countless articles online to ensure everything is perfect. It felt overwhelming to the point that my head started to hurt. Fortunately, I found an article that provided a detailed guideline, and it seemed like the perfect guide. My girlfriend and I have been following it, and it has been very helpful so far.

However, I decided to come to this community to seek additional guidance, advice, and tips from you all, just in case the article missed something important. My girlfriend and I would greatly appreciate any travel tips, advice, and guidance you have, as this is our first trip abroad together.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

Three nights minimum in each location. It feels rushed if it's shorter.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 months ago

Call your bank and credit cards you have and let them know you will be leaving the country. This will hopefully stop them from putting holds on your account that prevents you from spending.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (2 children)
  • Buy good walking shoes, not just basic sneakers. That pair of chucks or vans may look cool, but they are terrible for standing and walking for long periods. Your feet will thank you later.

  • Download offline maps so you can find your way if you lose data/reception.

  • If your travel is focused on going around and not staying put at your accommodation (i.e. resort), don't bother with getting super expensive hotels. What's important is that it's clean and safe. You can use the money saved for when you're actually going around.

  • Save scans of your passports and other important documents on your phone or somewhere online, in case it gets lost or stolen.

  • Bring a pen. You’ll need to fill out forms as you enter and exit ports. It’s a hassle having to borrow a pen from other travelers.

  • Bring a small pouch bag for you phone, wallet, keys, and passport. That way you can securely carry it with you wherever you go without dragging around your luggage. Edit: Here's a prime example of why a small bag you can wear on your body is helpful. Happened just a few days ago: https://youtu.be/xEUtmS61Obw

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

Not just the shoes, but socks as well. Double layer like Wrightsocks complete the blister proofing.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago

If possible pay to have international service in that country with internet data, I did it when I visited Japan last year and the extra 30 bucks were worth it for the couple weeks I spent there. I had Hotspot available to me as well and I used it to ensure my traveling companions also had access to data. I actually looked into getting a mobile Hotspot rented but just paying for international was a better deal for me.

Plus one for the offline maps. You never know if you're going by an area with poor reception.

If it's a country where you don't speak the language check out the translating apps. Google does a great job and I also used DeepL to great effect.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago

Look up how social norms in that country differ from your own. It would suck to need the bathroom and to then find out, while in the bathroom stall, that toilet paper is not provided because the norm is that everyone brings their own, and to hope that 1) there's someone in the stall next to you 2) who understands you and 3) is nice enough and 4) has enough to share with you.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Others have said it, but I'll stress it some more. Don't overplan. Whenever I go somewhere I make a list of all the places I wanna go to and I only schedule one place/day. Two at most if they're small things. But don't plan a museum in the morning and then a second place/museum in the afternoon, for example. You'll never make it to the second place. Or you will but you'll be too tired to enjoy it.

1-2 places/day are enough. Trying to cram too much stuff into a day will ruin your trip, really.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (2 children)

In the army they say: "No plan survives first contact with the enemy" I believe, right? I think the same counts for trips abroad. You'll probably get sick in the first days because of all the built up stress preparing for the trip finally releasing, you will forget something "important" when leaving the airplane, the museum you really wanted to see might be closed that week because of renovations, etc.

What I remember most from my trips are those cafes you stumble upon that afternoon you did not plan anything, that sunset on the edge of the river while walking back to the place you're staying and the best souvenir is that painting you bought from that friendly guy at that market you came across. So, try to take it slow.

More practical tips: try to follow the local schedule. For instance, in Spain don't try to eat dinner before 21:00 and in France don't try to go shopping during lunchtime.

Also, take some emergency food for when you cannot find a nice place to eat that still has a spot for two but you are getting really hangry. A bar of some sorts for instance.

And take pictures, but don't experience everything through your lense. Also, imagine what you would actually like to view when back home. I only take pictures with people on them and not in any tourist hotspots; I can find enough pictures of those online already.

Enjoy!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago

That reminds me. My favorite memory of my last trip was missing the last train and walking 25 minutes at midnight crossing bridges and walking by a river while we experience the nice cool air and melancholy streets of Japan. Definitely a vibe.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Yep. Agreed. Unplanned bits are often very memorable. Took shelter in a random café in Vienna and had amazing cakes. My favourite memory from that trip, I think.

Have a broad plan, but don't fuss about sticking to it too much.

Except the pictures bit. There I disagree.I like taking pictures of touristy stuff and such. Because It'll help me remember the way I experienced the place. And pictures of stuff in museums because it'll help me remember what I enjoyed most. I don't wanna have to look up a list of all the expositions later on in order to find something I wanna review or share with someone.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago

Piggybacking to add that it will make you feel disappointed when you plan for 5 things and don't get to them all, or don't end up fully enjoying them because you were rushing from place to place. Plan some things, but give yourself room to want to take a lot of extra time at one place, or to explore stuff nearby.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

Plan some alone time. You don't need to be together the entire time and it is ok to plan to do different things.

Don't try to make this trip perfect. Mistakes and bad things will happen on the trip; this is fine. It is better to focus on the good. If anything bad happens, it makes for a good story.

Don't talk to random people coming up to you on the street, especially if they are speaking in your language.

Take something to help with the jet lag.

Get in decent walking shape. If you or your girlfriend have a sedentary life, it is going to be a big change when you are walking around everywhere. If you don't do 10,000 steps a day on average now, start walking more while you have time to train.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

The article that we are following has some good tips to avoid jet lag, and I hope they work. Thank you very much for all the tips. I found them very helpful.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Pro tip: trips aren't perfect. It's life, nothing will be perfect. BUT learn to roll with things and don't take it super hard of something goes awry. Some of my best memories and stories are from agonizing parts of trips.

Also, don't plan out all you time there, leave some free time open to list about. You'll be there with your SO, you intend to spend quality time with them, it's great to have open time to go do something that catches either of your attentions rather than dismiss it due to "vacation appointments" like a tourist spot you planned.

Take pictures or memorabilia of whatever suits you, I have pictures of cool mirrors in hotels, or a wonky bathtub. Again don't dwell too much on making it perfect, the perfect spot, the perfect picture etc. I have a hilarious picture of an SO with a guy running across the shot, I got him in multiple frames. Still some of my favorites from the trip.

Grab some local currency before you arrive so it's on hand, know what ATMs can allow you to pull money from for free (Bank of america has a bunch of partners all over Europe) and Don't let the TSA disappear it from your bag.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago (2 children)

I really love that pro-tip that you have mentioned. I was too naive to make it perfect, but your tip has changed my perspective on this. Thank you very much for this pro tip.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

Also keep in mind that what is perfect for one person is not perfect for another, and we change from day to day. Some days we have energy to do a bunch of stuff, other days we just want to take it easy.

I think the most important part of successful travelling with a partner is to be considerate of each others: Pay attention to what the other person wants, perhaps especially if they need a little break. This does not align well with planning everything in detail. You have to be able to improvise, and to take into account each others needs throughout the travels. :)

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago

Absolutely! Glad I could help, enjoy your time together!

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Figure out how many drinks you can have without getting drunk, and then drink only half that many. Altitude effects how hard alcohol hits you. Also, don't mix alcohol and sleeping or anxiety medications.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

None of us drink, but thank you very much for your tip.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 3 months ago
[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Be more concerned about enjoying your girlfriend than enjoying the place.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Can you elaborate, please?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

The important thing about the trip is not to see more places or take more pics, it's to spend time with her, it is better to leave without visiting that town that is surely not that good at the end, and spend an afternoon just chatting with her in a nice place.I think that makes better memories than being stressed all day because of a tight schedule.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Think about ways to enjoy doing things with her, either things she specifically enjoys that you can share in her joy or things that you two do together apart from crowds, like meals and spending time together.

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