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Makeup practice with fashion frames (reddthat.com)
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[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 months ago (1 children)

You go girl. I'm a bit jealous of your courage, but it also gives me someone to look up to. I haven't dared going out in full kit yet, I do it slowly instead. Not sure why, but it feels better for me.

We actually look kinda similar and are of similar age, I think. Not twins similar, but siblings maybe. Actually more similar than my actual brothers, but noone guesses we are siblings unless they're told. I have a hard time looking in the mirror and see what I want to see, but it is easier to be objective when looking at someone else and you look amazing. Maybe I can look good too, you know? Thank you for sharing, it really does help.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

hey sis! If you're as pretty as me you are gonna have a good time! If you look at my post on the makeup comm you can see my boy face better without the glasses. I'm going to be 50 in a couple years.

When i first shaved my beard (after not shaving it for over 10 years) it was physically painful to see my face in the mirror. The vagus nerve in my chest would clench with anxiety. I hated my face so much.

My therapist helped me work out affirmations based on this meme a trans friend sent me that i was in love with:

So every night i spend an hour walking and I spent a lot of the time repeating out loud to myself over and over 'ValenThyme is so pretty and she loves herself limitlessly' and variations of that.

I wasn't raised positively and was pushed to reduce my feminine behavior. Nobody ever told me I was a pretty girl. So i told myself, a thousand times. And my dumb crow brain listened. And now it is true, I love myself limitlessly and I can see the pretty girl when I look at myself. Okay we are a woman now, the beginning stages of an old lady probably. Whatever, I love myself limitlessly and I'm going to spend the rest of my days doing the things that make me happy.

It sounds like you are learning to see the true happy you inside and that is tremendous! Love yourself limitlessly and be free with us the skies are delightful!

[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Maybe not as pretty as you, but I'll take it. I will also turn 50 in a couple of years ago.

I feel you about the beard, I had mine for the better part of 20 years. My face was not pleased with me when I shaved. Shocked, even.

I'm one of those that managed to hide my inner girl even from myself until pretty recently. Oh, there were clues and signs aplenty but I didn't see 'em. I've never been classically feminine or even had classically feminine interests which is part of why it took me so long to understand. I'm more of a grease monkey biker chick. I know that's valid of course, but it did hamper my discovery. How much of that is me and much is "the mask", I don't know. I do buy and wear a lot of pink stuff too, so who knows? But I try to not worry too much about it, I can't go around second guessing everything I do.

But I always disliked what I saw in the mirror and a low self confidence is par for the course with that. I will try your method of convincing myself I've been wrong all these years. Can't hurt. As you say, we're beautiful. Now I just gotta believe it too. 😅

[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 months ago (1 children)

oh i'm stealing 'in a couple years ago' that's great.

I think one nice thing about transitioning later is it seems easier for us to not give a fuck. I sort of force-masced myself 30 years ago and now i'm delighting in undoing all of that.

The affirmations really work, especially if you say them out loud. A lot of advertising and self hypnosis works because the brain puts fewer filters between direct audio and your mind. If you distract the executive network and the salience network is relaxed your brain just kind of accepts things it hears at a low level.

Good luck darling I believe in you <3

[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 months ago

I have already started the affirmations. Feels a little weird, but I think it will work. Thank you so much. <3

[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 months ago

Beautiful! I love how the lipstick sets off the pink in the frames without being matchy-matchy!!

[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 months ago

Love the glasses.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 months ago

Those glasses go perfectly with your lipstick shade! They both suit you so well 🙌

[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 months ago (1 children)

You look like the kind lady who works at the front desk of a school or library, or maybe a flower shop

The kinda person who offers her new neighbors a pie or smth

[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Yes that is me I am that lady! Thank you <3

[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 months ago

Then the look fits!!

Love the glasses btw

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

the accessories really help me feel nice and feminine. Got these fashion frames from aliexpress and i think they really help to feminize my face and look.

Going to go to Staples to return a bunch of boobs that didn't fit and this will be my second time leaving the house in full femme and i love it so much.

Just need to get a femme haircut now!

[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Going to go to Staples to return a bunch of boobs that didn't fit

I giggled. What does this mean? Staples doesn't have boobs moe "boots".

The glasses are very cute.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Oh they are an Amazon return center and I couldn't really find any boobs locally!

[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Ohh you really DID mean boobs! That's hilarious, imagining a box of boobs.

I'm here from /all. If you don't mind my asking, is the meta chicken-cutlets, a partial silicone/latex chest appliance "shirt", or something else?

[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

I had six boobs to return so it really was a big bag of 'em!

there's like 3 levels,

cutlets, three are soft little pads that are self adhesive or you wear them in your bra. They don't get very big. I'm 6'2 and am wearing these now and the bra is underfull.

breast forms, these are like for mastectomy replacements or trans women or crossdressing. They tend to have nipples. I'm a big girl and need 500 gram DD's to match my frame. These will slide into pockets in my bras or just be held into place by compression. They feel realistic in the bra! My new ones are getting here friday i can't wait I didn't want to return the other set but the matching bra didn't fit.

full chest plates, these go from like your neck to your waist and include your shoulders. These let you do advanced stuff like wear dresses that look like you have real boobs. I cannot imagine wearing one if these they look sooooo hot!

[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

The third level does seem like it would get awful sweaty!

How do you decide the right size for you? Unless you're going for Drag, it seems like the range would go from "barely noticable so why bother" to "DAMN".

Sorry if I'm asking too many questions, feel free to ignore me!

[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

It's just personal preference. Some trans women get surgery, some don't do anything and are happy with that. And everything in between.

I'm told you are to wait almost 2 years after starting E to get implants, to give your breast tissue a chance to develop (you go through 2nd puberty when you take it).

Personally i want them to match my big frame, so the DD's will be for going out when I want to look feminine. When going to the gym i'm probably going to stick with the cutlets especially for doing laps the larger ones are heavy af and make you really warm. At home i sometimes just wear the bra with nothing in it but it's pads just to feel nice.

I don't mind the questions you've been quite respectful curiosity is great!

[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 months ago

Well thank you for sharing! This has been very interesting.