Looking at people with their glassy eyes staring at the pretty lights, making small talk. The talk is small and meaningless. The entire point of the conversation is meaningless. The people appear to be performing humanity. They appear to be communicating, but no transfer of information is occurring. It sometimes makes you think that the other people are fundamentally, something. Something seems wrong with it: the ceremony, the pointlessness, the wandering around in circles. The conversations are those of dogs barking through a fence. They carry with them no language and no information. The dogs do bark, though. Why? If there wasn't any information being transmitted they would be silent. The neurotypical engages in small talk for the same reason that dogs bark. The barking is the noise that carries the emotional state of the barker. People transmit emotional state information through small talk. The rituals are elaborate excuses to convey that state information to others. Emotional state information can be related to danger, food, well-being, whatever. The point is that the information is both very wide band and very dense Therefore, it is very useful. You, as an autistic person, are deaf to this in information and so seem like a color blind person or a stubborn person or a deaf person to allistics. Either way, the information is useless to you. Don't bother performing. If you want to go alone, you don't have to explain yourself. There can be pressure, but don't think about it too much. The information is worthless to you anyways. People might be trying to be helpful, but unless you trust them and can legit unmask, you just have to deal with it. Animals bark, people talk. Whatever. I intentionally take a supremist attitude here to illustrate how engrained allism is in culture.
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Restaurants with bar seating feel less weird for me
As someone who has spent years on the road for work and I still spent a lot of time on the road, that feeling is a you thing. Others do not care, and, more importantly, if they do care who gives a fuck. Their opinions are irrelevant. Don't let their imagined perspective keep you from doing things. I ate almost every meal in restaurants by myself because otherwise I wouldn't have eaten, or would have had to do like doordash or whatever. It's none of their business if you are there by yourself, another, or 5 others. Live your life.
Sounds like you’re letting ads get to you and need to reduce that intake. Not always easy, but a pihole, ad blockers, and occasionally paying for a premium version of a service you use a lot can go a long way. What ads tell you to do or think is not what most people expect of you, its just corporate greed personified.
I spent years going out by myself, and never got the impression anyone cared what I was doing. It’s freeing in a way. I’m on my own schedule, doing what I want when I want. If I decide I’m not enjoying myself I just leave. No big deal. It can be an opportunity to meet others sometimes, and other times I might sit at the bar and end up reading a book. If I go to a concert by myself I don’t need to worry about losing or finding my group, and it’s easier to find a spot with a good view. There’s just as many positives to going out alone as going out with a group.
Finally, baseball tickets - what they probably meant is that your season tickets let you bring a friend with you for free. Some places do this because they’ll still get revenue from food and drink sales, but it’s pretty cool. I wish concerts or other venues did that.
You feeling shitty or weird doing stuff alone is a you problem. Literally nobody else cares or is even thinking about you at all. Everyone in the restaurant is there to do their own thing, eat food, meet friends or family, or work. Nobody is thinking “look at that weird person sitting alone” because they just don’t even notice.
Mentioning that you can bring a friend with you after buying season tickets is letting you know of a good benefit you might not have known. It wasn’t a secret attack on you or someone doing things by themselves.
Relax. There is no “introvert” persecution. Go do your thing, literally nobody cares you are doing them by yourself.
Yeah it's always weird to read this kind of comment. I spent a lot of my twenties travelling for work on my own, going to restaurants or the movies or wherever on my own, I never felt that pressure op talks about. Maybe it's a geographic thing?
It almost seems a bit egotistical to imagine that anyone is even considering strangers and what they do in public.
Eh, when you grow up around an overly judgmental adult it's easy to think all adults are like that.
I share that thought
If you're going to be mad because most people going out are doing so to be social you are going to have a very difficult life.
This is a dumb dumb dumb hill to die on and lose your shit over.
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