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Boost for Reddit has officially died today. It still worked for almost a year after the death of the rest of them if you moderated a subreddit, but now it's actually completely dead.
I think ReVanced patcher has a way to change the API key to one you generate yourself which keeps it working for free as long as you use less than a certain amount of API calls per month, but I think that's going to mark the end of my occasional Reddit use outside of adding "Reddit" to some Google searches.
I'm still chest virus sick and I'm having banking and centrelink problems. They can be next weeks problems. I just don't have the energy for a few hours of collating banking records and proving why I have a house deposit but no job. It needs to be done, but it doesn't need to be done today. Plus a third of that house deposit has disappeared trying finally to gather my savings into one account. I can put it on Monday's todo list and forget about it for the weekend. If you haven't moved large money around, I'm pretty sure the banks get sus making sure you're not being scammed.
Shout out to everyone (inc me) who needed a day off today but had to work so is battling though. This is your official approval to go slow.
So I might've fucked up last night. There's a reoccurring theme of me just making the dumbest freaking mistakes these last couple of weeks, i dunno whats wrong with me. I'll throw in a NSFW and spoiler for the mistake part. Heads up dont read this one at work.
So the mrs and I had a bit of a heart to heart last night, kiddo went down early enough that we weren't both too stuffed to talk.
i had a bit of a breakdown, said some tough stuff that was hard to say she gave me a big hug, after a few minute I told her we had to stop cause I knew what was gonna happen (not that I didn't want to, just didn't wanna cheapen the moment with the pants off dance, ya know).
Anyway, this next part is super graphic. I'll tidy up the language as much as possible but feel free to skip.
NSFW spoiler here
She says she doesn't mind. So we go to bed. I.... uhhh, "suit up for the occasion" as is required at the moment.
We get going, and I express my dissatisfaction with the "armour" I was "wearing" . She says I dont have to if I dont want to.
I say "are you sure? isnt there a risk?" She says "I'm not worried". so knowing full well it was a mistake, but not having the blood to operate my brain properly... I take it off.
And this is where I cant help but feel a bit... baited? I dunno. Let me clear it takes 2 to tango, I'm the one that took "it" off. Its 100% on me. But she did EVERY trick in the book to make sure I "arrived". It felt like it was a competition to make sure the finale happened. Ultimately, I... uhhh, "deployed the troops elsewhere", at least 99% sure I did in time. Given we needed IVF the first time I'm not SUPER worried. It was great to reconnect, been a while since that happened, but its left me with more questions that answers.
Was she actually trying to make sure i "deployed the expeditionary forces in the target country"? Why now? Why do we suddenly not care now? Was I getting used? Or was she trying to reconnect like i was? Why the F did I take the risk? Am I really not that smart? or just super into potentially self sabotaging? Is this all actually a big deal? or is my anxiety just taking me for a fucking ride?
EDIT: Maybe this would have been more appropriate on a Relationship advice sub, apologies.
Discussion of contraception
She may not have intended anything sus by it, it may have been a conciliatory gesture. But I understand the concern during a rough patch. It might put your mind at ease to actively prevent any surprises until you know what the plan is.
I guess continue using a barrier method from here on in and note that you are still within the 72 hour window for her to take Plan B. If taken within 24 hours it's even more effective. Hit up the chemist asap.
If you want to be doubly sure in future there are long acting reversible contraceptives for women such as Depo Provera injections or Implanon. But if you don't want to ask her to do this or want to be completely sure that a procedure has actually been carried out - then the patent for Vasalgel (reversible alternative to vasectomy) has been bought and is projected to be available in 2026 under the name Plan A.
She may not have intended anything sus by it, it may have been a conciliatory gesture. But I understand the concern during a rough patch. It might put your mind at ease to actively prevent any surprises until you know what the plan is.
Yeah I hope so. I cant believe she is the type to be that manipulative. I honestly have a hard time believe ANYONE could do that to another person. Sure, you hear stories, but Ive never heard of it happening to someone I know.
I might talk to her tonight and just get a clearer picture of her expectations re having another kid. I'm pretty sure she'll say "lets weather the current storm and see where things land" and that'll put my mind at ease.
I did see that injectable contraception for dudes. I didnt know it was so close!
Should the troops be successful in their mission, there are techniques available to remove the occupying force and any potential puppet they installed in power.
Just saying.
LOL, thank you I needed a laugh! After 2.5 years of IVF and $30k spent on the first, I'd say if I accidentally invaded a country then its gonna be flying my flag for the next 9 months like it or not.
Hey, I get it. Totally do. Just wanted to point out that in a currently stressful environment, a new regime may not be in the best interest of the parties. All the best in whatever happens regardless π
yeah, that'd... that'd be where I stand at the moment. Trouble is I think my say in the situation ended when the troops were deployed.
I think you're over thinking this. She probably just wanted you to be aroused therefore she's aroused because skin on skin contact with the one you love is arousing.
When you start to think your partner has ulterior motives then that's something you really need to work on together or let go of those thoughts.
Also when your partner says "I don't really like putting the rain coat on" it's kind of a turn off. Tough. We don't really want to feel it either but it is what it is.
I think youβre over thinking this.
Yeah, I think maybe my anxiety is taking me for a ride.
Also when your partner says βI donβt really like putting the rain coat onβ itβs kind of a turn off. Tough. We donβt really want to feel it either but it is what it is.
I feel like I should clarify so I don't sound like a total asshole here: the rain coat was my idea. the REQUIREMENT was my idea. I was happy to take responsibility cause it left us in a position to start trying when we decided to. Originally the plan to start trying soon. I'm happy to take responsibility for cleaning up my mess so to speak, and I'll be more than happy to go get the snip the second we decide we're done. It was certainly not a "I hate this and wish you didn't force me into it". More a tongue in cheek "Why did I think this was a good idea?". hence the surprise when she said "well, dont then!"
I don't think you're an arsehole. These are decisions that couples have to make through out their relationship. It doesn't matter whose idea it was, if that's what was decided then you need to stick to it.
Exhauuuustteeeddddddd
Weird thought, when was the last time you sang out loud our national anthem?
I don't think I've sung it out loud since 2010 when I finished highschool.
I don't think I've sung it since I was in year 5, so like 6/7 years ago
at a footy game I think
Every time Australia win gold at the Olympics
Would've been at a Melbourne Storm game. Probably ANZAC day last year.
Never sung it. Don't even know the lyrics to be honest.
You've never girted???
Whoa, whoa....what's with the questions? You a cop?
I girted this morning.
With the curtains opened?
Er about 91. I quit school choir about then.
Last weekend at an event.
In primary school
I have just been informed those fluffy yellow little chickens you used to get in Easter baskets really hurt if you freeze them and use a crossbow.
To be fair I think anything would really hurt when fired from a crossbow
This comment is distressingly logical
It's a fault of mine π
Had a dream I was playing guitar. Lame to explain, but cool to experience lol
I once had all the bits of Sweet Child of Mine split apart so I could hear them by themselves simultaneously. Went Fuckin cool this is what composers can do! Never happened again.
Hullo
Tag
Hillo
My mistakes are coffee stains on the carpet of life,
Each marking the times I fumbled or tripped,
They fade over time despite all of the strife,
Or I'll scrub them out, while my coffee I sip.
Scrubbing a carpet, coffee in hand, a risky chore, Seems the lesson of mistakes you may not explore. But brown carpets, they're a clever choice, Blending life's spills, leaving no noise.
(I don't have imagination so this is gtp)
spoiler
I don't think it worked but I was just going to say that sipping a carpet while scrubbing a floor seems like a bad choice, but brown carpets are nice so it doesn't matter
